I don't know if this is the right place to post or not but anyway.

I have  a couple of close friend outside of my escorting but have not told either of them as I know they will not understand.  Both are guys as well and one of them knows my family/parents pretty well.

Well, anyway this friend  who I have known for 7 years rings me and starts asking all these weird questions which set alarm bells ringing. then he just came out and said'I know what you are doing'. I tried to brush it off by saying yeah watching tv? Wow had ddi you know  that etc etc.

But he then said  your work is not for you  I have to go. Then I got a a text saying that he cannot support such a ridiculous decision of mine and wants no part of it!

Okay, that doe snot surprise me to be honest. but what bothers me is if he knows, then how has he found out?
Secondly he mentioned my family and  now I am worried he may tell them.

My parents would be heartbroken ?

Please help someone? I am flustered and in a bit of a panic..

Thats probably true! I got outed by someone apparently looking for a stripper (yeah right!!)

If I were you I would deny all knowledge of what he is saying, if he decides to tell someone he is going to have to admit to how he found out. I would also tell him that even if what he thinks is true its your decision, your body and none of his god damn business.

It might not feel like it right now but you will be okay x

I too noticed there was a link to your site - if I were you I'd make it a prority to sort the gallery asap and get some new pics on there that do not so clearly reveal your identity.

Remember, just as folk wouldn't think a naice girl like you would be involved in such a "tawdry" business; there will be naice blokes you encounter in day to day life you may think would never seek the services of an escort, but they're our bread and butter........and they may well include your neighbours, relatives, present or future employers etc.,etc.

As for your friend - I cannot decide for you, as it's you who knows the type of person he is and how he may respond to rational argument.  But you may be past the point of denial if he has indeed seen your pictures on your site.  My gut would tell me to try to get him 'onside'.  As Cat says - what reason does he have for finding your site in the first place??  Even if he punts he may still hold on to the notion that most women are druggies/exploited by pimps etc.  Show him the other side of things, show him forums such as this where the women are strong, independent and happy with their choice.

What if you chose to pick up a different bloke every weekend and take him home to shag?  He may not approve, but he would have no right to condemn outright your private sex life.

I do agree with Karin that the pictures are totally revealing. I would have my face blurred, crop them on the chin etc.... Then I would change my website address (keep the same content but change  address. Change the metadata so that the cache dissappears (you're the owner of the site so it will dissapear in a couple days). And cross your fingers. After that It would  be denial denial... it's nobody's friggin business. If he was a real friend he'll keep his mouth shut but most probably cut out ties with you (as he doesn't seem to share your views on prostitution), if he was never a real friend he'll go around telling everyone.

Lorissa,
I've had exactly the same problem and its taken me a few weeks to accept her decision.  We've not actually fallen out its more we have dealt with the problem (if you can call it that) by not dealing with it and not seeing each other.  TBH, I hate confrontation and couldn't face the thought of all the explanations etc. 

I'm the same with photos, and for the same reason.  I'm not computer savvy enough to change it all and part of me is thinking well they've been out for so long now, does it matter.

Same issue as yourself - parents, mine live on the next street, and I hope they NEVER find out

Regarding friends, I actually think as you go along life's path, you make different friends and I find now that my friends either have been swingers or WG and its so much more fun.       If nothing else ...... great conversations!

Let us know how you get on xx

sorry to go slightly "off topic", but this is one of the reasons  I believe doing your own website and having a password  to do changes is crucial. Because when things like this happen they can be dealt with in a split of a second. The other option: contacting webmaster, waiting for him to contact you (which will depend on his mood and availability etc...) is a pain. Some years I had a similar problem to yours Lorissa and had to contact my webmaster. He had moved to another country and vanished from the surface of the earth. I was fu---d.   I learned the hard way that I had to be my own webmaster.

 

Well so far I've always had same day response from this guy and often within the hour! As it is he has  updated my website within an hour of me mailing him and also added some blurs for the ones I did not have blurred copies of.

I take on board what you say though that it is possible he could just vanish. I did think of getting CMS but that is extra money lol. Also, as you know I am not very tech savvy when it comes to these things?

I would not like to waste my money on something I cannot do/use. For example, I have a basic picasa photo editing  programme  but I have no idea how to use  it to blur my face !

I suppose  being my own webmaster would be useful in terms  of instant access foe updating stuff like location and availability. Food for thought..........

I take on board what you say though that it is possible he could just vanish. I did think of getting CMS but that is extra money lol. Also, as you know I am not very tech savvy when it comes to these things?

I would not like to waste my money on something I cannot do/use. For example, I have a basic picasa photo editing  programme  but I have no idea how to use  it to blur my face !

I suppose  being my own webmaster would be useful in terms  of instant access foe updating stuff like location and availability. Food for thought..........

Have you tried using a free and simple online photo editor like Pixlr to crop and/or blur pictures? If you need instructions, I can write 'em here. There's absolutely no need to be asking/paying anyone else to do this sort of thing for you - it's important that you be able to take sole charge of your content and images online.

(PS I won't rant here, since I'm obviously part of YourEscortSite.com so everyone knows how much I'm in love with Wordpress, but! You should be able to ask any webmaster to create your website using Wordpress (or their preferred open-source CMS) which is *completely free* so it shouldn't cost you anything extra, unless you ask them to design a custom theme [themes are for appearance only, they don't add anything to functionality - not unless they're very fancy, anyway] - and if he says "Ooh err that's very complicated, time-consuming and expensive, my dear silly whore, it will cost you a lot of your fine English pounds so do please put your card details into this form here..." you should feel free to fire him on the spot because it's actually exactly the opposite of all of those things. It's free, simple and easy for any webby person to set up. So do feel entitled to expect and demand this sort of thing! Definitely don't listen to anyone who implies that websites that involve nothing more than images and text are some sort of dramatically complicated endeavour that you could never possibly understand. Cheap sites don't have to be ugly, either, so also don't fear you have to end up with the "Moonfruit look". There's a lot that's possible on a very strict budget.)