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Married and starting escorting
« on: 01 September 2024, 11:30:51 am »
First time posting here but I’ve been snooping with months, have read all the newbie questions etc.
So I’m not originally from the uk, but my self and husband have just moved to Manchester a couple months ago.
Escorting is something we’d always joked about but now I’m actually going to attempt it, I have some questions and concerns, husband is absolutely fine with it, actually very encouraging about it, not sure if that’s cause for concern? It’s almost like he’s excited about it, not sure if it’s some type of kink I’m unaware of. I’m 30yo and we’ve been together almost 12 years.
So first I suppose is there anyone on here married who doesn’t mind telling me how their husbands feel about it? Is it normal.
And as it’s just the two of us my plan is to work from our apartment, for a while anyways until I see how it goes. Is there any advice or things I should be aware of when working from home?

Also general attire when working from home, do you get ready in the morning in whatever your going to be wearing, lingerie etc and wait around for the phone to ring, or do you get dressed and undressed/ready for each booking after it’s confirmed

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #1 on: 01 September 2024, 12:38:08 pm »
Is that your husband's email address you've used to sign up with Erineire?

Erineire

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #2 on: 01 September 2024, 01:01:05 pm »
Technically it is 😂 it was his old email, and then became one we used on the swinging scene and then I took it over for swinging sites and various other forums

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #3 on: 01 September 2024, 01:37:52 pm »
Is that your husband's email address you've used to sign up with Erineire?

Reads like it’s a guy wanting wank fodder

ana30

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #4 on: 01 September 2024, 01:56:10 pm »
I have some questions and concerns, husband is absolutely fine with it, actually very encouraging about it, not sure if that’s cause for concern? It’s almost like he’s excited about it, not sure if it’s some type of kink I’m unaware of. I’m 30yo and we’ve been together almost 12 years.

That was the give away for me:a couple who's apparently been married for 12 years but "wife" is unsure wether husband has a cuckhold fetish (hmm?)
« Last Edit: 01 September 2024, 02:04:08 pm by ana30 »
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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #5 on: 01 September 2024, 02:02:39 pm »
Also general attire when working from home, do you get ready in the morning in whatever your going to be wearing, lingerie etc and wait around for the phone to ring, or do you get dressed and undressed/ready for each booking after it’s confirmed

I usually sit down all day in very pretty and expensive lingerie with full make up on while I file my long red nails infront of my phone waiting for it to ring lol

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #6 on: 01 September 2024, 02:04:45 pm »
I usually sit down all day in very pretty and expensive lingerie with full make up on while I file my long red nails infront of my phone waiting for it to ring lol


 :D :D :D don’t forgot how super horny we are waiting for the next client lol

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #7 on: 01 September 2024, 02:07:11 pm »


 :D :D :D don’t forgot how super horny we are waiting for the next client lol

Forgot that part, sorry, too distracted filing my long red perfect nails  ;D
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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #8 on: 01 September 2024, 02:22:00 pm »
Forgot that part, sorry, too distracted filing my long red perfect nails  ;D

Hahaha

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #9 on: 01 September 2024, 06:01:18 pm »
;D

OP, for future reference the way to pull off pretending to be a sex worker when signing up with the equivalent of a DaveTheHairyTrucker@gmail is to claim to be a trans woman. That way you would at least have got the benefit of the doubt for a few posts.

Technically it is 😂 it was his old email, and then became one we used on the swinging scene and then I took it over for swinging sites and various other forums

In the unlikely event that the above is genuine (you had no idea your husband gets his jollies when you have sex with other men despite you being in the 'swinging scene'? No clue there at all?) you need to change the email. The members here who might eventually want to share information with you by PM should and do expect that their communications remain private and available only to the person for whom they are intended, rather than random blokes hanging around the periphery.

I don't want or expect my messages to sex worker friends to be read by their husbands and partners, and if you're planning on running a business you need your own business email. Should you choose to use email for work punters (who are as entitled to their privacy as anyone else) won't be too thrilled about it either.

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #10 on: 03 September 2024, 10:46:37 am »
I don't mind telling everyone that this "getting ready" malarky is a load of old rubbish.

I have always just done the usual thing every day - no make up. Big old Marks and Spensers Knickers. Baggy cumfy clothes.

And that's how clients are greeted at the door.
Why dress up for someone who hasn't paid any money? Might not turn up? And might turn up, look at you, and then leave?

Greeting someone as me with my normal appearance has never done me harm.

I'm all for dressing up or clothes off AFTER money is in the hand.

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #11 on: 06 September 2024, 10:17:49 am »
im not married no and i wouldn't marry anyone who doesn't mind me doing this but that aside (and i didn't mean to judge you), in response to, what clothes to wear or general advice about working from home. I work from both home and hotels. i don't do anything special. I just wear normal everyday clothes when opening the door. usually a leggings, tight pants or jeans with a sexy tight top or sweater and nice sandals or shoes (flat usually because i don't like heels, or little heel) and just open the door like that. otherwise, instead of a top i may just wear the bra with pants but i will put a robe on top. i don't ever open the door in lingerie or bra because you never know if the guy is just a wanker who will wank his dick as soon as he see you half naked then run away. if he want to see me in lingerie he has to pay first
why have cotton when you can have silk???

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #12 on: 06 September 2024, 11:01:53 am »
I've always been open with prospective partners about what I do for work and have had the full gamut of reactions from "I don't want to know anything and want the bedroom and bathroom decontaminated before I come over" to "I don't want you to shower after your last client of the day"

The sweet spot for me is somewhere between someone who can happily ask "how was your day?" and not be any more interested in my reply than they would be if I has any other job, and a partner who is excited by my sex drive, skills and experience without fetishising me for it.

In a relationship as long as yours you must know if there's compatibility outside of the interest in sex work. My current partner and I both have fetishes and we fulfill those together but it's not the sum total of our relationship and when we're unable to kink together we're still happy.

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #13 on: 06 September 2024, 12:04:20 pm »
Bless. I don't think the OP will be back, but if we're hellbent on providing them free entertainment I don't think this is what they were hoping for. I don't actually think the above screams single bloke; what is does read like is one of the occasional posts we get from the people in couples who think sex work is a fun lifestyle choice or a paid extension of swinging rather than a job that pays our bills and which we take seriously.

I couldn't sit around my flat in lingerie all day; even if I didn't have other things to do it's uncomfortable and impractical, plus I would feel ridiculous. It takes me 10-15 minutes max to quickly get changed and give my hair a shake out - I don't wear makeup either.

Some men do find their partners having sex for money a turn on, I'm sure - I'd find that pretty revolting, but provided they remember that it's our work, our business and nothing to do with him (and also that relating the gory details to him is not only indiscreet, but likely not something anybody's going to want to do) then I don't think it really matters. The reality and mundanity of the job is likely to be a big disappointment to them once it hits, and any dumb ideas about how Super Horny And Sexy! it is will fizzle out all by themselves.

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Re: Married and starting escorting
« Reply #14 on: 07 September 2024, 04:51:50 am »
Not sure if the OP is real but this real was me when I started
However we were about to lose everything yes it is a massive turn on for my hubby and some would find him weird (I love him) but I got to work right away with both eyes on the bank account and it was not some sort of sex game
When I think about it is probably F####ed up but where would we be now The food bank?

So it is a lot more serious than a thrill for the old man