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Lady Frog

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Re: Managing calls
« Reply #30 on: 01 August 2021, 11:31:56 pm »
We're all opening the door to complete strangers so what's your point here? Lol
Calls or texts, their personality can change soon as that door opens
But good for you :)

Yes I agree with you we are all put ourselves at some level risk by doing this, and they can always switch. This is why I don't understand nerves as a reason not to include phone calls in a screening/booking procedure. Of course some sex workers do not include phone calls in their procedures because they find other methods more effective. But for those who think phone calls would be ideal, but are nervous to speak with all potential clients on the phone, this is counterintuitive because the risk you are exposing yourself to (feeling uncomfortable on the phone) is so much smaller than the risk you will avoid by putting yourself through that (opening the door to a client that may not have thoroughly screened).
A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Jane Austen

Femme fatale

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Re: Managing calls
« Reply #31 on: 02 August 2021, 07:55:31 am »
If you chat with a client you get a feel of how he is ,polite friendly it can help to assess if your prepared to see him. But if a caller is blunt rude and pushy or you just dont like the way he talks to you and you dont wish to go ahead with a booking you can always decline without giving your address details out.
You can also block after the call if you wish.
Texts dont really work for every one as you really cant pick up on how they come across unless their messages are stupid like..one word   postcode .location  or I want to see you now kind of thing.
Talk to the guys so they get a feel if they like you too

Miffy

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Re: Managing calls
« Reply #32 on: 02 August 2021, 08:52:27 am »
Whats app (along with anything else owned by Facebook) is a never for me on any device. I admit I know nothing about it but given that most people have unlimited free texts I can't see the point of it, tbh. Like Mirror, I have plenty of photos in my ads.

I overlooked it earlier but as Millie said, texts mean the whole exchange is on record which could be handy if they try to bugger about with details like times, booking duration, price or whatever. The only time I speak to them generally is when they arrive on my street and so far I've only sent one packing since I relocated, and he was the one who got lost between my building and the one across the road ;D.

WhatsApp and anything else owned by Facebook are a never for me too, particularly in this part of my life. I recently had a client tell me that the fact I communicate solely by Protonmail was the deciding factor for him choosing to see me.

During my brief foray into AW, I had a new client try gaslight me into believing that I had agreed to see him for a shorter duration than we had confirmed on. He underpaid me too as a result of me neither confirming the shorter time or confirming the (new) price. (The fee would have been different to the one listed on my profile as my rates had recently risen and he incorrectly assumed it would be the old fee). I asked him to provide proof of the texts where I had consented to these changes. He could not. He then tried to change track and tell me we had confirmed on the phone which was nonsense as I do not use the phone at all. I asked him to prove this by confirming my number. Obviously he could not. In the end, as he had clearly exposed himself as a chancer/liar, he had to pay the full fee we had originally confirmed.

So, for me, sticking to one form of communication, email only, is invaluable.

Milkymoo26

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Re: Managing calls
« Reply #33 on: 03 August 2021, 12:19:44 am »
Tomatoe tomato.
OP can decide her own way of communicating with potential clients, there's no right or wrong way. So don't discriminate those that prefer text and say we are more at risk lol.
Enjoy your calls

Mirror

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Re: Managing calls
« Reply #34 on: 03 August 2021, 06:29:42 am »
WhatsApp and anything else owned by Facebook are a never for me too, particularly in this part of my life. I recently had a client tell me that the fact I communicate solely by Protonmail was the deciding factor for him choosing to see me.

During my brief foray into AW, I had a new client try gaslight me into believing that I had agreed to see him for a shorter duration than we had confirmed on. He underpaid me too as a result of me neither confirming the shorter time or confirming the (new) price. (The fee would have been different to the one listed on my profile as my rates had recently risen and he incorrectly assumed it would be the old fee). I asked him to provide proof of the texts where I had consented to these changes. He could not. He then tried to change track and tell me we had confirmed on the phone which was nonsense as I do not use the phone at all. I asked him to prove this by confirming my number. Obviously he could not. In the end, as he had clearly exposed himself as a chancer/liar, he had to pay the full fee we had originally confirmed.

So, for me, sticking to one form of communication, email only, is invaluable.

When taking the booking I use text or email to acknowledge receipt of the deposit, this includes staying time, date, location, duration, balance of fee to be paid on arrival by cash.

Some very few are purely phone call without any typed communication.

Harriet_Lille

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Re: Managing calls
« Reply #35 on: 03 August 2021, 07:36:33 am »
I take calls and emails, and maybe texts though I do get a lot of time wasters that way. I'm not a big fan of whatsapp because clients and time wasters think ithat because it's easy way to send pictures and videos, and because I'm a sex worker, it's an excuse and OK to send dick pics.

Curvymamma

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Re: Managing calls
« Reply #36 on: 03 August 2021, 11:44:52 am »
When I get a call my autoresponder answers asking, age, ethnicity, booking requirements etc. If they text back and answer all that and are polite I will then do a screening call before confirming a booking.  I just hate answering calls, when most of the time they are TW and fantasists

Phoenix

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Re: Managing calls
« Reply #37 on: 05 August 2021, 07:00:31 am »
I always insist on a call, then revert to texts to confirm all details/take deposit etc..

I was about to drive off for a morning booking and getting frustrated at the time he was taking to reply to a few last minute questions.
On gut instinct, before I began the drive I called him.
He had become rip roaring blind drunk, at 9am. Couldn't string two words together.

 His texts had been fine, just delayed.. :-\