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Love.Sex.Dreams

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So I have had a lot of work done on my bum (3 Brazilian Butt Lifts). It was fairly big to begin with (runs in the family), before.  Now it looks very very big (think Kim Kardashian/Blac Chyna). I tell clients it's natural and also write it on my profile, partly because I feel embarrassed to admit that I willingly did something so ridiculous to myself. I had my surgeries during a time I was not well mentally and was being abused by my narcissistic mother. I think I had body dysmorphia or something. I wanted attention so badly because I was neglected at home. I started escorting after my first BBL as I saw how quickly I could raise money for more surgery through escorting.

I also lie to clients because I feel like it's not their right to know about the work I have had done. Some believe it's natural and some don't question anything. Recently I had a rude young guy. We finished the session and he started asking me about it. He goes; "how many BBLs have you done?". I was like' "huh". Then he said, "come on, you don't have to lie". I told him that I am genetically predisposed to have it so big since I am African. He then started poking and prodding it. Acting so entitled, saying he has to know. I told him he was being rude. I felt really angry and violated by this.

Am I too sensitive? Do you also lie? I liken this to a client probing and pushing to know my real name. That's my number 2 pet peeve


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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #1 on: 04 July 2020, 01:49:21 pm »
I know a lot of people will disagree with me, but I think it's silly and possibly counterproductive, or worse, to lie about anything like this. So many escorts lie about their age, country of origin, cosmetic surgery, dress size etc. etc., and it makes us all look duplicitous or even scammers.

Conversely, I think we are 100% entitled to keep anything to do with our private lives private, so anyone asking my real name would get short shrift.

In this case, I don't think it would be wrong to not mention the BBLs on your profile, but if a client asked I would be honest and say yes - making a flirty joke about it possibly. No need to lie or be sensitive about it IMO.
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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #2 on: 04 July 2020, 02:13:08 pm »
I've had enhancements and plastic surgery. I refuse to answer any questions about it from clients or callers. They have zero rights to my medical history.



I've experienced the same disrespectful grabbing and pulling for signs of surgery and slap clients hard but make out like it's playful. They quickly come to their senses and know they've passed a dangerous boundary. I grip their wrist, slap forcefully 2-3 times in a slow, controlled manner with a smile on my face. No anger.

It's totally shame inducing and effective because I've taken control of their body and treated them like a naughty child. It's a punishment I performed at live adult shows where there'd usually be one or two hopeful grabbers.They never tried it twice.
« Last Edit: 04 July 2020, 03:16:22 pm by saltysweet »
Yeah like I'll let the human guineapigs have first dibbs at eating the food that's been sitting in those restaurant freezers for the past 4 months.

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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #3 on: 04 July 2020, 03:07:08 pm »
Think about it the other way round, would you squeeze a clients nose and go: "You have quite a small unnatural looking nose Joe, how many nose surgeries have you had?", then laugh in his face when he looks astonished and tells you his nose is "natural". Very rude and intrusive.
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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #4 on: 04 July 2020, 03:09:20 pm »
So I have had a lot of work done on my bum (3 Brazilian Butt Lifts). It was fairly big to begin with (runs in the family), before.  Now it looks very very big (think Kim Kardashian/Blac Chyna). I tell clients it's natural and also write it on my profile, partly because I feel embarrassed to admit that I willingly did something so ridiculous to myself. I had my surgeries during a time I was not well mentally and was being abused by my narcissistic mother. I think I had body dysmorphia or something. I wanted attention so badly because I was neglected at home. I started escorting after my first BBL as I saw how quickly I could raise money for more surgery through escorting.

I also lie to clients because I feel like it's not their right to know about the work I have had done. Some believe it's natural and some don't question anything. Recently I had a rude young guy. We finished the session and he started asking me about it. He goes; "how many BBLs have you done?". I was like' "huh". Then he said, "come on, you don't have to lie". I told him that I am genetically predisposed to have it so big since I am African. He then started poking and prodding it. Acting so entitled, saying he has to know. I told him he was being rude. I felt really angry and violated by this.

Am I too sensitive? Do you also lie? I liken this to a client probing and pushing to know my real name. That's my number 2 pet peeve

It’s totally up to you what you do. It’s your profile. Your business and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You know as soon as you admit to it being surgically enhanced they will write it all over the escort forums and then you will he called a liar. So best to pick a story and Stick to it. He can’t get your medical records.

If you say to someone it’s natural and they start boundary pushing and being rude I would of snapped at that guy that his time was up and please leave as your insulting me. Not every girl with a big ass has had a BBL.

I’m not interested in what clients think or how much lying to them would affect their feelings. Sorry they come in the room like what they see and pay their money. That’s it as far as I’m concerned. 

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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #5 on: 04 July 2020, 03:13:13 pm »
I know a lot of people will disagree with me, but I think it's silly and possibly counterproductive, or worse, to lie about anything like this. So many escorts lie about their age, country of origin, cosmetic surgery, dress size etc. etc., and it makes us all look duplicitous or even scammers.

I agree, but this is not the OP's case. I'm sure her "large derriere" is nicely portrayed on her ads as part of her selling point (lots of men love have a large butt fetish) and comes as no surprise when client arrives. It's not like she's advertising as having a small butt  then "Ta-dam..Big surprise!". There's no misleading element here.
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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #6 on: 04 July 2020, 03:18:14 pm »
My opinion is based on myself having similar to you but without the surgery. Thing is you have to own it, You need to except and embrace yourself and the reasons you had the surgery and that young guy was just that, young and dumb and no filter in his poor head. People can tell surgery most of the time and so what, Its very common these days. It's your body and regardless of enhanced surgery you demand respect and acceptance from yourself first and others will follow and if they don't then so what. I'll never rule out surgery but knowing about how body dysmorphia works, Having had it and how it makes you see flaws and the anxiety to fix these flaws. Thankfully I have stopped myself from getting work, Once I was convinced I needed a full face lift at 37 lol. if I get stuff done it's for my satisfaction and I won't lie or feel the need to tell anyone straight out.

Thing is your lucky to have had that kind of surgery and no complications.  And regarding profile you don't need to say if your beautiful bum is natural or not, Let the pictures talk and then you are not lying.  Most of us try and get pics at our best angels but when a client meets us close up and at less flattering Angels it's just real life and real bodies and women.

Also just imagine that guy that prodded you and imagine what you could of picked at about him and prodded his bits lol He was most probably insecure and felt he needed to say what he did to push your buttons. I've had it done to me and I told the guy to leave and to never say anything like what he said to me to another woman.

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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #7 on: 04 July 2020, 03:20:13 pm »
I agree. I'm a professional performer selling a fantasy creation, barely any advertised details about me are 'real'.
To me it's an acting gig not a truthfest.

Likewise, Daniel Craig probably has little in common with James Bond.

(Kay, you smartly anticipated, people would disagree...we all work differently, true.)
« Last Edit: 04 July 2020, 04:31:16 pm by saltysweet »
Yeah like I'll let the human guineapigs have first dibbs at eating the food that's been sitting in those restaurant freezers for the past 4 months.

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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #8 on: 04 July 2020, 04:50:42 pm »
I agree, but this is not the OP's case. I'm sure her "large derriere" is nicely portrayed on her ads as part of her selling point (lots of men love have a large butt fetish) and comes as no surprise when client arrives. It's not like she's advertising as having a small butt  then "Ta-dam..Big surprise!". There's no misleading element here.

No, but the issue is denying/lying about having the surgery - I just don't see the point of not being honest about it. If you have surgery, why be ashamed about it?
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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #9 on: 04 July 2020, 05:11:08 pm »
It's passive-aggressive at best and plain old aggression at worst.
 Grabbing at you?! Cheeky fucker..
Grab his bollocks and suggest he has a nip and tuck down there  >:(

I have had the same. A cursory flick at my  breasts whilst demanding, "So how much did these cost you then?" (I usually tell them it was just another day at 'the office' Shuts them up, because they believe we shag 50 men a day  ::))

AS if they really care! They Just want you to know that they Know they are fake (no shit Sherlock, it says so all over my profile  ::))

No, I would never lie about it personally, but just because I think it's too obvious on myself...
 But in your case I think you could get away with it? 🤔
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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #10 on: 04 July 2020, 05:18:05 pm »
No, but the issue is denying/lying about having the surgery - I just don't see the point of not being honest about it. If you have surgery, why be ashamed about it?

Because this is very personal information that you may or may not want to share with strangers met over the internet Kay. I also don;t see the point of being honest with clients about having children or spending your christmas holidays in Bath, not because I'm ashamed of those two things but because I need to maintain personal boundaries with clients, and those boundaries are built on what I chose to disclose about my private life and whatnot. It's not a matter of being ashamed it's a matter of "mind your feking business".
« Last Edit: 04 July 2020, 05:22:31 pm by ana30 »
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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #11 on: 04 July 2020, 05:44:52 pm »
Because this is very personal information that you may or may not want to share with strangers met over the internet Kay. I also don;t see the point of being honest with clients about having children or spending your christmas holidays in Bath, not because I'm ashamed of those two things but because I need to maintain personal boundaries with clients, and those boundaries are built on what I chose to disclose about my private life and whatnot. It's not a matter of being ashamed it's a matter of "mind your feking business".

But having had children or not (hopefully!!) or spending your Christmases in Bath are not likely to be factors in clients' decisions to see a particular escort. Whereas whether she has fake or natural boobs, a butt lift, Botoxed to fuck forehead, trout pout, tummy tuck scars, tattoos etc. are. As we're in effect selling our looks, surely it behoves us to be honest about them?

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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #12 on: 04 July 2020, 07:22:14 pm »
But having had children or not (hopefully!!) or spending your Christmases in Bath are not likely to be factors in clients' decisions to see a particular escort. Whereas whether she has fake or natural boobs, a butt lift, Botoxed to fuck forehead, trout pout, tummy tuck scars, tattoos etc. are. As we're in effect selling our looks, surely it behoves us to be honest about them?

Dunno... but if I'm a guy with a "large butt fetish" and I see an ad of beautiful lady with a Kim kardashian derriere i don;t think I'll be thinking "Hmm...maybe she's had a couple of fat injections so I'd rather not see her" or "maybe her forehead is too smooth so I'll cancel my appointment as most probaly she's had some botox", or "her tummy is too flat, she may have had liposuction yikes!". Of course there's some plastic surgery that is difficult to hide like some breast augmentation surgeries that are so painfully obvious and it may turn some guys off, so it may good to disclose beforehand, but body enhancement surgery that you can't tell (and there's a lot of it) it's up to the lady to disclose it to a stranger or not. It depends on how blatantly obvious it is I guess. I had nose surgery many years ago (not noticeable) and don't feel the need to disclose it to strangers because it's not relevant.
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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #13 on: 04 July 2020, 08:07:56 pm »
I know a lot of people will disagree with me, but I think it's silly and possibly counterproductive, or worse, to lie about anything like this. So many escorts lie about their age, country of origin, cosmetic surgery, dress size etc. etc., and it makes us all look duplicitous or even scammers.

Conversely, I think we are 100% entitled to keep anything to do with our private lives private, so anyone asking my real name would get short shrift.

In this case, I don't think it would be wrong to not mention the BBLs on your profile, but if a client asked I would be honest and say yes - making a flirty joke about it possibly. No need to lie or be sensitive about it IMO.

Got to agree with this. The vast majority of my clients love my natural breasts and mention they don't like fake ones. I'm guessing it's one of the reasons they book me (that and my natural hairy parts).

There are clients for everyone regardless of whether you've had surgery or not. I can't comment on bums as I have no idea but with breasts or any surgery that is obvious (huge trout pout) then it's bound to appeal to a variety of clients so why not be truthful.

I find a lot of clients just generally nosey about a lot of things. I just laugh it off or answer vaguely if I can be arsed.

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Re: Lying about body enhancements(surgery) and entitled clients
« Reply #14 on: 04 July 2020, 08:45:29 pm »
No, but the issue is denying/lying about having the surgery - I just don't see the point of not being honest about it. If you have surgery, why be ashamed about it?

I'm pretty sure no one's said they're ashamed?
« Last Edit: 04 July 2020, 08:55:14 pm by saltysweet »
Yeah like I'll let the human guineapigs have first dibbs at eating the food that's been sitting in those restaurant freezers for the past 4 months.