Author Topic: Losing all motivation. (Read 5151 times)

Fabulassie · « **Reply #1 on:** 26 February 2015, 07:40:10 pm »

Yup - it's called burn out. Happens to most of us from time-to-time.

We have a burnout thread on here, somewhere. It's good to vent when you feel this way and there are tips for feeling better, such as getting out and getting exercise (don't sit around just watching TV!) and having some sort of life outside of whoring.

Maybe you should take a couple of days off and not think about this at ALL. And then take another day or two to think about this - think about ways you can change what you do, how you market yourself, etc. I once changed my AW name and put up new photos and it felt like a fresh start. I felt remotivated.

Nia Hope · « **Reply #2 on:** 26 February 2015, 07:45:13 pm »

I can relate to you, I think a lot of others here will too. I've felt exactly the same over the years and turned down countless bookings for no reason at all, my advice is get back into bookings gradually, accept shorter bookings and you'll hopefully have some good clients that will motivate you for the job again, this is what I do when I feel like you and it always works for me.

As for nasty comments on forums! It's easy to say ignore them etc but it really is short lived in the grand scheme of things, don't read them and make yourself look amazing, get out of your pyjamas and dress to kill girl! Even if you go down the shops you'll feel better!

Hope that helps xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Rubyruby · « **Reply #3 on:** 26 February 2015, 07:48:07 pm »

I take a few self care days, get a massage or just stay in bed and read a book or watch a film and completely switch off from escorting

I burn out really quickly and can sometimes feel overwhelmed with everything

BlaqHarlot · « **Reply #4 on:** 26 February 2015, 07:49:37 pm »

Shewolf · « **Reply #5 on:** 26 February 2015, 08:02:58 pm »

I had a three hour booking today and turned it down also. I couldn't face it. I was only going to get ?80 and for the mither of getting ready, driving there and back and staying with a man I find pretty grim for three hours just wasn't worth it. I know it's a very low rate but the guy has to book a hotel and I'm worried if I charge any more he will go to someone who does in-calls. I told myself to go but I just couldn't face it. I couldn't face not being able to escape for three hours.

Fabulassie · « **Reply #6 on:** 26 February 2015, 08:25:31 pm »

I've had nasty things said about me online, too. And it really hurt. Took the wind out of my sails for a while, so it did. But you know what? It didn't impact my business even a little. The people who talk like that amongst themselves are not typical punters. They're a particular little subset of punters who have nothing better to do than obsess over prostitutes.

Nia Hope · « **Reply #7 on:** 26 February 2015, 08:41:04 pm »

Quote from: Shewolf on 26 February 2015, 08:02:58 pm

I had a three hour booking today and turned it down also. I couldn't face it. I was only going to get ?80 and for the mither of getting ready, driving there and back and staying with a man I find pretty grim for three hours just wasn't worth it. I know it's a very low rate but the guy has to book a hotel and I'm worried if I charge any more he will go to someone who does in-calls. I told myself to go but I just couldn't face it. I couldn't face not being able to escape for three hours.

?80? For 3 hours? I know we all charge different prices but that's a bloody bargain x

ParisB · « **Reply #8 on:** 26 February 2015, 08:41:52 pm »

I dont get burnout in the way most people do but what I find happens is that I want to go on holiday take some time off just to relax and then when I come back I don't want to work at all
I feel all unsettled and out of my normal work pattern and normally feel not very confident to work it normally takes me a few days to get back into the the swing of things

It's pretty normal most of us have been through it and experienced it one way or another as long as you know recognise when you feel like that and take some time off you will feel fine

ParisB · « **Reply #9 on:** 26 February 2015, 08:45:50 pm »

Quote from: Nia Hope on 26 February 2015, 08:41:04 pm

Quote from: Shewolf on 26 February 2015, 08:02:58 pm
I had a three hour booking today and turned it down also. I couldn't face it. I was only going to get ?80 and for the mither of getting ready, driving there and back and staying with a man I find pretty grim for three hours just wasn't worth it. I know it's a very low rate but the guy has to book a hotel and I'm worried if I charge any more he will go to someone who does in-calls. I told myself to go but I just couldn't face it. I couldn't face not being able to escape for three hours.
?80? For 3 hours? I know we all charge different prices but that's a bloody bargain x

?80 For 3 hours if that's right then no wonder you feel burnt out You definatly did the right thing in cancelling I think. Hope you feel better soon

Shewolf · « **Reply #10 on:** 26 February 2015, 09:03:39 pm »

Yes it's not enough is it? I feel that, because my very few regulars have to pay for hotel rooms, I can't charge more or they'll go elsewhere.

I wish I could rent a room etc per day but I am worried about getting more clients as I don't want to advertise anywhere I could be traced x I guess I don't really know this game and I would love to meet up with other women who go through the same thing. I wish there was a group etc in the north west.

Nia Hope · « **Reply #11 on:** 26 February 2015, 09:30:38 pm »

Quote from: Shewolf on 26 February 2015, 09:03:39 pm

Yes it's not enough is it? I feel that, because my very few regulars have to pay for hotel rooms, I can't charge more or they'll go elsewhere.

I wish I could rent a room etc per day but I am worried about getting more clients as I don't want to advertise anywhere I could be traced x I guess I don't really know this game and I would love to meet up with other women who go through the same thing. I wish there was a group etc in the north west.

I'm sure there are other girls in your area that you could buddy up with? Have you posted here asking? It's a risk advertising for all girls, I think most of us keep our work secret to some extent, these guys are taking the piss!

Londonergirl · « **Reply #12 on:** 26 February 2015, 09:54:12 pm »

Quote from: ParisB on 26 February 2015, 08:41:52 pm

I dont get burnout in the way most people do but what I find happens is that I want to go on holiday take some time off just to relax and then when I come back I don't want to work at all

I have that too and I think it isn't exactly burnout but related to hormones and sex drive.
When I don't have sex for several weeks then my body adjusts back to its normal libido and i don't want it. When I work, my body adjusts upwards and I want sex more, if i go several days without it I am going mad.

Kay · « **Reply #13 on:** 26 February 2015, 10:23:43 pm »

It could 'just' be burn out, but get to your GP if it doesn't improve in case it's clinical depression. If not, a holiday is a good idea!

BlaqHarlot · « **Reply #14 on:** 27 February 2015, 05:20:44 am »

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