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Ana66

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Living and working in the same place
« on: 20 May 2022, 03:54:52 pm »
Hi everyone,

I was wondering if you think it's a sensible thing to do to live and work in the same place (as I might consider it in the future) ? As everyone knows, it's been fairly quiet lately and hotel/flat costs are mad (especially in Central London when you make small profit).

For those who live and work in the same place, how do you find it ? Do you think it's dangerous (for example I'm scared of having a creepy stalker waiting around for you to go out  :() ? Have you ever had problems working and living in the same place ? Would you recommend doing so ? If not, why ?

Thanks
« Last Edit: 21 May 2022, 11:21:51 pm by Ana66 »

KirstyKiss

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #1 on: 20 May 2022, 04:35:24 pm »
I worked at home a few years ago when both my kids were at university.

I enjoyed it but I knew I wouldn't be able to do it for a long time for the following reasons:

I live in a village and eventually I would have become 'known'.
I had 2 clients on 2 separate occasions just turn up at my door (when I had family here!!)
I had 1 client crack the base of my shower because he was so fat.
I had 1 client piss all over my duvet. It was expensive and he never paid back the full cost.
Every single client was a right nosey fucker and they notice all your personal items.
A lot of them refused to follow my parking instructions and brought attention to themselves.
They would also get lost on my road and wander up and down, often whilst on the phone.
Many of them wanted a cup of tea! Don't ask me why.

I enjoyed being lazy, working from home with no overheads but I wouldn't do it again unless I was absolutely desperate. They noticed way too much about my personal life.

I tour full time and can't see that changing. It was my mum that reminded me that all businesses have overheads, be it wages, utilities  or in my case,  hotel costs as I do moan about it sometimes but honestly, touring is far less stressful and I have my lovely country cottage to come back to - untainted!

English Green

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #2 on: 20 May 2022, 04:43:16 pm »
I would say not a good idea but this depends whether you don't care enough if things went wrong and you got outed and everyone in the area would know about you from stalker client or just a nasty resentful blackmailing client.

Or if you got attacked and robbed then they know you live where you work.

It might seem negative but i do know of women where this has happened in there home. If you could deal with the above situation if it did happen then try it from home.

Some women like working from home and it suits them with no touring costs but for me it would be a NO as not worth the risk if you are not out to friends/family/ neighbours. Too many clients can not be trusted in my opinion.

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #3 on: 20 May 2022, 04:50:30 pm »
For me, it’s not something I would ever consider as where I live is home to the nosiest neighbours in London! Even though I am incredibly low volume, I would be found out pretty much immediately. Also, I choose to do outcalls as I hate strangers in my personal space, so it’s not really something I would ever consider.

However, if I lived elsewhere? Possibly. But it would need to be a two-bedroom flat, one for my personal use and one to see clients in. I know of a few escorts who do live and work from the same flat. All are low volume (1 client a day), and they live in modern developments where it’s all gated, so no-one can gain access to their building or turn up at their door unannounced.

It’s a question of trust I think. If it’s your main residence, can you trust all your clients not to touch your things when you’re not in the room/your back is turned. Can you be disciplined enough to not leave any of your personal items about or keep valuables in the flat. How will you feel if they damage something? Would you be confident enough to demand they pay or would you be too worried they would review you negatively for their bad behaviour?

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #4 on: 20 May 2022, 05:27:48 pm »
I've always done it, and never really had any problems except for one client who turned up (twice!) unannounced. I'm quite assertive though, and have e.g. closed doors and given directions to make it plain that only the bathroom and working bedroom are open to clients. I do think a lot depends on the layout of the house, whether you're in e.g. a cul-de-sac with nosey neighbours or an apartment block with zero soundproofing, if you're in a village versus large town/city etc.
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Ana66

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #5 on: 20 May 2022, 06:59:57 pm »
Thanks all for your advice. Yes indeed, if I was working and living in the same place I would definitely rent a flat with 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms as well as I wouldn't feel comfortable using the same bathroom that the clients have used on a daily basis (I'm quite paranoid with hygiene (sometimes a bit over the top) and have quite a lot of cleaning OCDs). I think it would also be sensible to install big locks on doors accessing rooms where the clients aren't allowed + a strong security system with CCTV and everything in place.

As for the main "working from home" problems, being outed isn't a problem for me as my whole family lives in another country but my biggest concern is probably robberies and blackmail (a client outing me to neighbors for example and getting kicked out by my landlord losing my money).

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #6 on: 20 May 2022, 07:05:43 pm »
I do it. I just screen as best as I can. There are pitfalls though as others have mentioned;

Clients who can't follow instructions and wander up and down the street looking like they have dementia.

Idiots who call me from the street and say my escort name then repeat the address. I've had to get really strict about them not arriving on foot or by taxi. I won't allow them to arrive by bike either if its first time.

I have had 1 guy sat outside my house incessantly ringing me whilst I've been with another client.

I have had a few that have got obsessed and made me feel vulnerable.

However, I have a very good house alarm with panic buttons and cameras. The panic button links directly to the police and if the house alarm goes off whilst I'm out the alarm company monitor the  cameras and send security round.

My house is set up that they can only see my hallway, landing and bedroom. The rest of the house is private. Occasionally I may allow them into other parts, generally regs if we have a ciggie.

I see max 3-4 a day, mostly 1 or 2 as I'm part time. I never see anyone late in the evening.

I am however looking at  buying a 1 bed flat to work from because I know working from home is not sustainable, especially as my children will finish education soon.

Neighbours know I have various businesses.

It's not ideal but some days I don't get any bookings so renting an apartment would be useless for me.


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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #7 on: 20 May 2022, 08:06:39 pm »
Hi everyone,

I was wondering if you think it's a sensible thing to do to live and work in the same place (as I might consider it in the future) ? As everywhere knows, it's been fairly quiet lately and hotel/flat costs are mad (especially in Central London when you make small profit).

For those who live and work in the same place, how do you find it ? Do you think it's dangerous (for example I'm scared of having a creepy stalker waiting around for you to go out  :() ? Have you ever had problems working and living in the same place ? Would you recommend doing so ? If not, why ?

Thanks

I did work & live in the same property when I first started escorting - The neighbours over the road were real curtain twitchers, worked out what was happening, making notes of times & dates & preceeded to tell my now husbands ex who kicked up a huge fuss & banned him from seeing his step son (The fact he moved on & with someone younger made her really pissy so this just put the icing on the cake!) 

I wouldn't dream of doing it now - Older & Wiser, I realised I wasn't 'switching off' from the work because I was always in my work space, I would accept bookings late at night when I really shouldn't of done, any number of address collectors & tbh the area wasn't the best either!  My home is my sanctuary
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Kiss

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #8 on: 20 May 2022, 10:05:26 pm »
I live and work in my property I have no choice I can't afford to get somewhere else.
New neighbours moved in that I don't know which is ideal for me. It's a big block so people have no idea which person goes into which home  so to speak.
Suits me fine for the time being I've not had problems this time round .
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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #9 on: 21 May 2022, 06:04:57 am »
I worked in my own home 11 years part time. No issues ever except when I stupidly showed my face on a Viva ad when my son was much younger. Some parents at primary school began to gossip. I was never reported to social services though as I only ever met a client when my son was in school or childcare or college. Never when he was at home.

Only one client rolled up at the door unannounced but I gave them short shrift.

A few did ask nosey questions but not the majority. Nothing has ever got broken and very few cups of tea expected.

I only tour now in neighbouring counties now my son is older.

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #10 on: 21 May 2022, 07:49:39 am »

Yes i did it before when I lived in SE London.  It was absolutely fine as I lived in a gated development but the clients are nosey and yes they do notice everything in your place. 

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #11 on: 21 May 2022, 08:00:42 am »
I’d never ever do this as I like to go home after touring and be in my own space that is just for me and relax. I knew a girl who did this but short term let’s like 6 months at a time and the last time I saw her she was panicking because the landlord wanted her out the apartment asap and she had no base or home to go back to. I’d really recommend keeping work and private life separate. there’s a million things that can go wrong but even if every client is lovely I’d still be in work mode on my days off. I wouldn’t be able to settle or sleep in the same bed I see clients in every night. It really creeps me out
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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #12 on: 21 May 2022, 08:31:54 am »
I think if you own your own home you do not stress as much as you are the landlord. It is just neighbours I had to factor in but I kept the numbers down to not draw attention.

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #13 on: 21 May 2022, 08:50:13 am »
I have lived and worked from the same property in some ways easier, but I did have a couple of clients turn up randomly, many be indiscrete even though they had told me discretion and privacy/not being seen was important to them.

When I stopped working from home I did feel a sense of relief in that I was not always watching where I put things, and felt safer when not 'working'.

I had had a couple of burglaries and an armed robbery when I lived and worked in the same property, I had never thought I would be targeted and was very vigilant after the incidents. That to some extent took a toll at the time, made me realise even though I was lowish volume (now even lower and outcall focused) how many random people I was letting into my home - and had had quite a few address collectors/no shows too.

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Re: Living and working in the same place
« Reply #14 on: 21 May 2022, 09:32:25 am »
I did it 10 years ago when i started working, it was one of those modern flats in an anonymous block and i never had any issues but it took a toll on my mental health but it allowed me to save alot of money to buy my home. Now i only tour.