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Vichyssoise

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When a guy needs to go.
« on: 21 June 2014, 08:48:57 am »
Ok another question has come up for me after reading some posts. If a guy grosses you out during a session and you decide to terminate it do you keep the money or refund some or all. How do you keep control if they kick off. What would your securities role be should you need to call them?
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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #1 on: 21 June 2014, 08:53:23 am »
For refunds, it's up to you. Do a search for 'refund', for example, to find some other threads about this.

Ideally, you want to keep all the money, but sometimes you do what is necessary to keep yourself safe.

For the rest, some of this is practice and it depends on what you've agreed. Having their number on a speed dial is a good idea.
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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #2 on: 21 June 2014, 09:15:49 am »
Ok, thanks. Did a search for refunds. Has helped.  :)
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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #3 on: 21 June 2014, 09:27:51 am »
Ok another question has come up for me after reading some posts. If a guy grosses you out during a session and you decide to terminate it do you keep the money or refund some or all. How do you keep control if they kick off. What would your securities role be should you need to call them?

It depends what you mean exactly. If someone is just a creep then I have somehow managed to get to the end of the booking but will block him from future bookings. If someone is rude or very weird and makes me feel unsafe then I will ask them to leave with their money providing nothing has happened yet. If anything sexual has happened then I will refund part of their money.

There have been times where someone has grossed me out beyond bearable where they have booked me for the hour but I have brought the booking to an end after half an hour and kept my half hour fee but refunded the rest.

If ever I need to bring any booking to an end then I will refund their money as it's not their choice to bring the booking to an end but if ever it's them who cuts the booking short for whatever reason then I do not refund any money as they booked me for a certain time which I have allocated to them and I should be paid for that.

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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #4 on: 21 June 2014, 09:41:39 am »
^^^^what PP says.
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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #5 on: 21 June 2014, 09:45:11 am »
Thank you PP that was very helpful. Now what about keeping control and if control is lost. This is something that worries me. X
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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #6 on: 21 June 2014, 09:51:31 am »
Every situation will be different to the last, as will every client, there are no set rules and you need to learn to think "in the moment" and judge how the client is reacting to being asked to leave.

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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #7 on: 21 June 2014, 09:52:18 am »
You have to stay alert at all times and the slightest sniff of anything untoward then it " out the door" well it is with me.

This is one of the reasons we always advise never to touch alcohol when working as this will not help situ and NEVER take a drink from them either unless it's from something sealed like a bottle or can that you can open yourself.  Otherwise it could be drugged.  :(

Always be assertive too even if you don't feel like it, so long as you are seen to be in control it usually works without incident.
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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #8 on: 21 June 2014, 01:54:09 pm »
Thank you PP that was very helpful. Now what about keeping control and if control is lost. This is something that worries me. X

The last time I felt unsafe with someone (was about 4 weeks ago) I excused myself from the room for a second while I got my phone and had security ready to dial if there was a scene. There wasn't so no need to call them but if there was a scene then I would have called and they would have intervened.

Sometimes you just need to explain to them that as they are a complete stranger, you need to feel comfortable around them in order to provide them with a good service and as their behaviour or whatever the issue was, you can't carry on. It's not your fault. If something sexual has happened then  keep your half hour fee and refund the rest. If nothing sexual has happened then give them a full refund.

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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #9 on: 22 June 2014, 02:19:06 am »
For me it's about instinct. If I feel someone is just a pushy jack-the-lad boundary pushing wanker then I will be very firm and act pissed off and ask them to leave (even if I'm slightly intimidated I'll pretend not to be fazed and I'll say something like "I've already told you I don't do x,y, or z so leave now"). If however I feel really weirded out or I feel they are creepy and/or dangerous and that I'm actually potentially unsafe, then I will act firm but all sickly-sweet and nice and make an excuse like "I really need you to go, there's been an emergency in my family and my sister is coming right now, I'm so sorry , I will certainly make it up to you next time") and on the one occasion that didn't work, I had already called in my security and they were on the way and primed to call he police so I looked at the person square in the eyes (even though I was TERRIFIED inside) and told him that when I pressed that button on the phone the police had now been called and are on the way so I suggest you get out right now.

PP - I always have my security buddy either on the premises or within a button push away of being contacted. Even with regulars cause occasionally they can turn. If I feel the slightest bit on edge or suspicious or that feeling that something isn't right , I press the button to call them and they make their way to me asap and they have a key. If I missed call them again or obviously if they can't get in they call the police. I just do it for every booking as part of a routine.

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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #10 on: 22 June 2014, 11:12:45 am »
My security always knows I am with someone but if I need then to intervene then obviously, I have to let them know so in that instance, I excused myself from the room while I sent the text saying that I had someone scary in my flat and that I'm gonna ask them to leave but the guy left without a fight so there was no need for security to get involved x

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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #11 on: 07 July 2014, 12:27:41 am »
If a guy had paid me for a one hour booking for example and shot his load in 20mins and wants to go, I have on many occasions given them 'some' money back. I have no problem with this, I'd rather that than making small talk with someone who clearly just wants to get out. I'm not talking about leaving 10mins early but a substantial amount of time earlier. I'll always offer massage, more sex etc but sometimes it's just natural to bring a booking to an end much sooner than you anticipated. I know lots of girls will say "he booked for this amount of time so I have no right to give any back" that's cool, just not really my way of thinking.

It's not really a regular occurrence though so not an issue.

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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #12 on: 07 July 2014, 02:48:47 am »
If a guy had paid me for a one hour booking for example and shot his load in 20mins and wants to go, I have on many occasions given them 'some' money back. I have no problem with this, I'd rather that than making small talk with someone who clearly just wants to get out. I'm not talking about leaving 10mins early but a substantial amount of time earlier. I'll always offer massage, more sex etc but sometimes it's just natural to bring a booking to an end much sooner than you anticipated. I know lots of girls will say "he booked for this amount of time so I have no right to give any back" that's cool, just not really my way of thinking.

As I have often said, not everything is black and white, for me the above is a no-no and I have clients who do this all the time and I really do wonder why they re book with me for an hour when they only last 20 minutes, but who am I to not take the money?

But, if it is an issue and the client gets nasty / demanding then you must always think of your own safety. You may also make your own "judgement call" for situations and as each situation can vary from the last thsi is why we all have to learn to think on our feet.

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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #13 on: 07 July 2014, 03:06:52 am »
With a few who haven't lasted long (paid for hour and lasted less than half hr) I don't offer them any money back but I say to them if you would like to book another time, pay for half an hour and you can have a bit longer. They have taken me up on it, usually quite soon after, and it means at least I have got another booking from them. They paid for half hr and stayed for 40 or 45 mins. It's not common though and I would let them have up to an hour.

I can only remember twice where they have booked an hour and only lasted a short time and asked for some money back (so they pay for half hr only) and I did but told them I don't usually for some reasons mentioned.


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Re: When a guy needs to go.
« Reply #14 on: 07 July 2014, 08:07:13 am »
ive had clients leave early on their own accord, I was giving oral to a guy 10 mins into the booking he had paid for an hour he leapt up stared at me got dressed and rushed off !!!
another time I had a 2 hr booking with a regular  but he felt ill an hour into the booking we had done loads of stuff in his roleplay he wanted so he decided to go and told me to keep the cash.
their choice I realise but I felt like id done something wrong  yet I hadn't its them not us !!