Author Topic: Leasing & paying for me? (Read 2235 times)

Dolls · « **Reply #15 on:** 12 October 2018, 06:20:44 pm »

Sorry i thought he was a client and pays to have sex with you. Not sure what free-styling is other than in music. I get the impression you already know whats best for you. Good luck.

amy · « **Reply #16 on:** 12 October 2018, 06:58:23 pm »

Quote from: Amaliaxo on 12 October 2018, 06:12:09 pm

Where in any of this have I said I HAVE to service him whenever he’s horny for this? We’re already involved, of course I don’t mind otherwise I wouldn’t be doing anything with him

Well since this is is a prostitution forum where we discuss punters who pay us for sex and similar threads to this have come up before (where people have been caught out by goalpost moving after they've agreed to some sort of arrangement where they're paid in some indirect way for an agreed amount of sex/time per week or month) it's an entirely reasonable question.

If this man is a non-paying civvy partner (even a casual one) and you don't plan to work from this flat then there isn't any relevance to the board or the members here and I don't understand why you've posted the thread? Surely a forum about housing and tenant's rights would be more useful and appropriate?

Kay · « **Reply #17 on:** 12 October 2018, 07:11:05 pm »

Quote from: Amaliaxo on 12 October 2018, 01:57:27 pm

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Yes, but what if you're working from a rented apartment, it's midday, you have a two-hour booking pre-arranged for 2pm, then matey rings up and wants a shag at the pad he's paying for? Do you cancel the booking (thus pissing off the punter and potentially damaging your reputation) or tell matey, 'No, sorry, some other bloke is shagging me for cash in hand, so you'll have to wait your turn'?

Seems to me that in this situation it's difficult to have your cake and eat it too.

Hazzard · « **Reply #18 on:** 12 October 2018, 08:19:29 pm »

I have to friends who have met rich guys freestyling and they are being looked after.. its happens ALOT im suprised at all the negativity.. ..!!!

amy · « **Reply #19 on:** 12 October 2018, 08:35:51 pm »

Quote from: Hazzard on 12 October 2018, 08:19:29 pm

I have to friends who have met rich guys freestyling and they are being looked after.. its happens ALOT im suprised at all the negativity.. ..!!!

It's nothing to do with negativity and everything to do with it being off topic - nobody here apart from you and the OP has been familiar with this expression so far and it's obviously not the common term you seem to think it is.

If this is something to do with some kind of 'sugar daddy' situation then the OP should have adequately explained that and it belongs on the Blather board, not here in Q&A. I have no doubt that this happens a lot (as do one night stands, swinging and so on), but the members here are posting under the assumption that this is a standard-type paid sex situation, we have a single thread for this stuff already and I'm pretty sure the people who do this stuff as a pastime have their own forums.

englishrebecca121 · « **Reply #20 on:** 12 October 2018, 09:06:10 pm »

As a landlord myself if i found out my tenant was subletting id go mentle and ask them to leave and go down the legal route to remove them , you would also lose your deposit.

Amaliaxo · « **Reply #21 on:** 12 October 2018, 09:16:26 pm »

Quote from: amy on 12 October 2018, 08:35:51 pm

It's nothing to do with negativity and everything to do with it being off topic - nobody here apart from you and the OP has been familiar with this expression so far and it's obviously not the common term you seem to think it is.

If this is something to do with some kind of 'sugar daddy' situation then the OP should have adequately explained that and it belongs on the Blather board, not here in Q&A. I have no doubt that this happens a lot (as do one night stands, swinging and so on), but the members here are posting under the assumption that this is a standard-type paid sex situation, we have a single thread for this stuff already and I'm pretty sure the people who do this stuff as a pastime have their own forums.

If you don’t understand that’s fine. I asked a question which has everything to do with sex work.

Quote from: Kay on 12 October 2018, 07:11:05 pm

Yes, but what if you're working from a rented apartment, it's midday, you have a two-hour booking pre-arranged for 2pm, then matey rings up and wants a shag at the pad he's paying for? Do you cancel the booking (thus pissing off the punter and potentially damaging your reputation) or tell matey, 'No, sorry, some other bloke is shagging me for cash in hand, so you'll have to wait your turn'?

Seems to me that in this situation it's difficult to have your cake and eat it too.

He doesn’t just summon me lol, I don’t have to see him at the exact moment he wants. It’s a laidback thing as I mentioned before.

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #22 on:** 12 October 2018, 09:28:17 pm »

You are lining yourself up for a whole load of trouble. Bin this guy off and just work as an honest escort. You'll then be in control of how you rent your place.

Tell the guy you need to retain legal status so he should just pay you the 1 month fee every month. I guarantee he will fuck off before paying.

Hazzard · « **Reply #23 on:** 12 October 2018, 11:12:07 pm »

Quote from: amy on 12 October 2018, 08:35:51 pm

It's nothing to do with negativity and everything to do with it being off topic - nobody here apart from you and the OP has been familiar with this expression so far and it's obviously not the common term you seem to think it is.

If this is something to do with some kind of 'sugar daddy' situation then the OP should have adequately explained that and it belongs on the Blather board, not here in Q&A. I have no doubt that this happens a lot (as do one night stands, swinging and so on), but the members here are posting under the assumption that this is a standard-type paid sex situation, we have a single thread for this stuff already and I'm pretty sure the people who do this stuff as a pastime have their own forums.

If its off topic or in the wrong place then surely moving it would avoid people commenting on the wrong thing in the wrong place.. i answered the OP's question rather than go on a different tangent Thankyou... if its in the wrong place then no point having a rant at me about it..i didnt post it!

someonesomewhere · « **Reply #24 on:** 12 October 2018, 11:46:52 pm »

At the moment it's laid back because at the moment he isn't paying ££££ for a rental for you plus whatever other expenses you will charge him for.

Once he is paying more there is a strong possibility that he will expect more, and rightly so because he is paying a premium for this and will want his money worth. Maybe not now but soon, as at the moment he has you in a false sense of security. And yes a false sense of security because you don't seem to understand how this can go wrong. Just look at how you answered the valid question of what happens when he is horny and you aren't. This would be a concern for any sugar baby, or it should be. If this doesn't concern you, or anyone in the same position then this is alarming.

But you seem to have already made up your mind and will be moving into a rental solely in his name, where you can legally get kicked out by him at 3 am. You are putting yourself in an extremely vulnerable position in terms of homelessness and sexual abuse/exploitation. Get saving now for that emergency hotel you will need, and the deposit etc for when he boots you out when you utter the words, No I'm not horny.

I am not being negative. I am being realistic. Relationships break down every single day, even casual ones, and the person who loses out is the one not on the paperwork.

Amaliaxo · « **Reply #25 on:** 13 October 2018, 01:55:31 am »

Ohhh goddd

because for me, it was a silly question, If for some bizzare reason I don’t want to fuck him at that time then it’ll be another time and that’s fine. She asked that to the exact line where i said ‘when we’re BOTH horny’ - Self explantory. He’s spending on me anyway it’s not a big jump for him to pay this now. If anything goes sour for whatever reason, I’m good, I have my own money and a place to go back to, blessed to have people to help me. I didn’t say you’re being negative.. of course you’re going to have all these ideas about the situation when you don’t fully know the situation in the first place
Anyway

thanks to ya’ll who gave some advice about my actual question

Notyourgirlfriend · « **Reply #26 on:** 14 October 2018, 01:52:24 pm »

Would only ever do this for a short term arrangement
Whilst saving up to rent my own place to work from.

I much rather have control over who I see and pay by the hour. Imagine if he just decides not to pay rent that month as a way to control you. Ugh.

I would seriously think about this! Think about why HE would offer this. What is HE getting out of this arrangement. He's not doing it out of good will and affection.
There's always a reason. I've turned down so many offers like this!!

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #27 on:** 14 October 2018, 07:05:24 pm »

It's good that you have a safety net (I assume family) but I stick by my original advice which was to have him pay the rent but have your name on the lease. That way if things do go wrong (and as a PP said, relationships of all sorts break down every day for all sorts of reasons) you don't have to add "homeless" to the fallout. Plus, you'll be able to use the letting agent as a reference when you want to move on to your own flat.

And you could easily see 1/2 clients per day (presuming the flat is workable ie no concierge) and sock that money away as savings to be turned into a deposit on your own place.

See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

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