Hi lulu,

Depends where your located, but the best tip I can give is make sure you know what your entering into, because it's a great fetish per say if you do it right for that person, and you get a lot of regulars if you do it right, plus it can get expensive, I've been doing it for years and I'm sure some other SAAFE users who do it can advise you too.

I have my own dungeon and furniture, plus all the outfits, whips, hoods, gags, chains, floggers...etc... And this kind of equipment is not cheap, but I do a thing called halve for me halve for the business to buy more things.

Hope this has helped and if you wish. To know more just pm me x

I came away from that long long mentally draining day not only with a genuine appreciation of what being a true dominatrix involves I also came away mentally exhausted, physically aching, truly enlightened and with a bitch of a migraine that took 2 days to pass.
Domination by an skilled dominatrix is an art form.

And people wonder why we only do it maybe once or twice a day! Well said Helen x

Luckily the furniture I have had designed is for my comfort as-well, some are easy requests but some can be mentally and physically draining, spending bloody hours learning different rope techniques and ties, knowing how hard to hit and to put pressure upon people, and most of all having that mind set when you are in session of humiliation, letting the session flow easily and knowing what you are going to be doing 5 steps ahead of current activity!

If it's done properly you will have regulars, these people who visit - MOST - I say most, know what pain threshold they like and what activities they are after, I don't and won't have sex with them and 98% understand and don't wish for this! dominatrix can be mixed with sex but I'm a pro DOMME and just specialise in fetish and BDSM - learn about this OP as this is important for entering into this line of business.

Biggest tip I can give you - DONT READ OR WATCH THAT BLOODY BOOK OR FILM.....I haven't and won't!

Maybe try tie and tease first to see if you like it? Move onto the pain later, as I've had the ' big I ams ' visit me and they have cried and passed out! Lol x

Hi everyone, 
I am looking for some advice.  I have been doing mild dom sessions at a reduced rate while I am training, in return for honest criticism of the session,  and have had some really good feedback so far. I guess it is more humiliation than real domination,  although I do cuff, gag and whip my clients,  I would not want to really hurt anyone,  and certainly don't feel I have the expertise to do that.

My question is, how far do you take it? I always feel like I am running out of material to fill longer sessions,  I have a guy booked in for 2 hours tomorrow, and am worried about filling the time.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Xxx

Hi everyone, 
I am looking for some advice.  I have been doing mild dom sessions at a reduced rate while I am training, in return for honest criticism of the session,  and have had some really good feedback so far. I guess it is more humiliation than real domination,  although I do cuff, gag and whip my clients,  I would not want to really hurt anyone,  and certainly don't feel I have the expertise to do that.

My question is, how far do you take it? I always feel like I am running out of material to fill longer sessions,  I have a guy booked in for 2 hours tomorrow, and am worried about filling the time.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Xxx

Oh I hate giving away secrets but it's nearly Xmas....and advice is always free x

Speak to him / her tomorrow for 10 mins at first finding out exactly what they want, explain this won't dig into time as your not watching ( you always are but 10 mins here or there is no shame ) then ask what pain thresh hold they like, I used to cater for slight, medium , medium ultra, and hard....medium & medium ultra can be a pain so it's either tie and tease or full nipple clamps, strap on and full flogging, caning , and humiliation, you need a mind set for this as pauses within sessions is a big no no!

Always think 5 steps ahead am I going to use my CBT parachute or am I just going to tie him to bed ( make sure you know to leave two fingers between rope or cuffs....not to tight as they like a little freedom but not too tight....

Is it getting hard ....smack that little thing - shall we say? , show him your the superior in the session....again don't let the flow break!

If you have St. Andrew's Cross? Throne? Mat? Cage? Face sitting stool? Then you can use these for hours.....I usually fade after 4 hour sessions as I do run out of things to do! Lol x

If you don't have furniture for bdsm .....improvise , most instruments, equipment & furniture are man made historic do think hard what you can use.....!

I can turn someone into a whimpering idiot with just a hair clip and my heel of my shoe....so best advice look around your home and think yes that would be soothing or that would hurt...( be careful though there is a point or pressure that you can go to far, remember take your time and make sure he of she leaves with a smile )

Pm me if you wish for more advice or I can just carry on here x

Stay SAAFE and enjoy!