Deposits aren't common here either. I only take them for incalls with new clients (this isn't normal, but since they have the greatest no-show risk and I have to go to someone else's flat to take them, I don't mind losing some business) and out of town outcalls to people who can't prove their location.

Does the gay scene have the same culture of taking references that the girls do over there? That would reduce the need for a deposit somewhat.

Does the gay scene have the same culture of taking references that the girls do over there? That would reduce the need for a deposit somewhat.

I dont know. I'm not really in much of a 'scene'. I'm solo in this game. So, never had any references. But then again, I never actually asked, "can you refer me to someone you hired?" Never asked that out of the dozens of guys I met, I would just feel awkward even asking ! But if I was really in doubt, say...a long distance booking, that would definenlty be a good idea

I dont know what to say about that though. I might have to go to my other site and see what they say about it.

Im not saying he will be able to shag 24hrs non stop, i dont think anyone is.  We know how drugs work and although he might not be able to fuck for 24hrs he could certainly keep active for that long if he wanted to and if you were paid to keep him entertained for that time you had better know what its going to be expected. 

My point is its a long time to spend with any stranger but throw drugs in to the mix and there are warning lights all over it.

Why people think sex is better with booze or drugs I don't know.

Hey, to be fair I've had some fantastic sex with mates when we were both stoned. You have to be stoned to the right degree though; enough to have an effect, but too much and you can't get it up or it just clumsy.

I apologise for using the same joke again, but I'd be bored shitless in that situation - are you really enough of a 'bottom' to take that sort of punishment?

If the answer's yes, and that's enough money for you (I can't imagine any sum being enough, but...) then, yes, get a deposit from him.

I missed this comment earlier... and the answer is a definite "yes", hehehe

I have never taken a deposit for a booking. Its just not usual. Some are concerned about the legitimacy or profiles and reviews, it just doesnt come to mind. If we (again in the states from my experience) asking for a deposit for a short booking we would stand out, and come off as suspicious. Just letting you know my experience, I know everyone's different!

Now...the other week I had someone who lived about 200 miles away wanting to meet. Hell, of course I'd ask for a deposit or I just wouldnt go.

Deposits taken for long bookings are more common than for short bookings. What Ani-Mae does is unusual but I can understand it. There's been a couple of times when I've gone to the flat for a booking (mind you they were appointments taken on the same day) and the customer has cancelled at the last minute. On one occassion I just got off the train at Victoria Stn and literally turned around and got back on again, because a client had cancelled on me half an hour before the appointment was due to start. Thank god it doesn't happen too often, and it's never happened with guys that have made bookings in advance. But it is one of the problems when your incall base is not your home.

Actually this is topical: There was one bloke who made a same day booking to see me a few months ago. I was already at the flat working so it was no problem. But I had showered again after my last booking, got dressed again, lippy and everything....nothing. I text the guy to see if he was on his way. He text back, "sorry, I can't make it now". To say I saw red was putting it mildly. The fact that I had to text him to see where he was really did it for me.

This same guy has called me again this Christmas Eve, no less than four times, looking for a booking I'm assuming. He was obviously desperate for a shag before the holidays started, and I couldn't help but feel smug at watching the phone ring with his name coming up. The fourth time I just cut it dead. He obviously didn't think I'd be clever enough to save his number.
A bloke does that to me only once.

Actually this is topical: There was one bloke who made a same day booking to see me a few months ago. I was already at the flat working so it was no problem. But I had showered again after my last booking, got dressed again, lippy and everything....nothing. I text the guy to see if he was on his way. He text back, "sorry, I can't make it now". To say I saw red was putting it mildly. The fact that I had to text him to see where he was really did it for me.

I had a day when I had an incall in the morning and one in the evening. I was planning to hang around in town in between, so when someone asked for an incall in the afternoon I didn't bother with the deposit. When he was 10 minutes late I called to ask where he was. He said he couldn't make it and had been about to call me.

That's why I'm sticking with the deposit!

I had a day when I had an incall in the morning and one in the evening. I was planning to hang around in town in between, so when someone asked for an incall in the afternoon I didn't bother with the deposit. When he was 10 minutes late I called to ask where he was. He said he couldn't make it and had been about to call me.

That's why I'm sticking with the deposit!

I do not blame you one bit. We both work out of places that aren't ours, so I totally empathise with you.

I thought you were against text 

I'm against random blokes who text me out of nowhere for the first time asking for a booking/more details and all that crap. I don't mind the odd text from clients I know I've seen before. I've had regular clients, who've booked me last minute via text instead of their usual email or phone call, simply because they're suddenly horny. And I know they've done it at a time when it's not really convenient, so I don't mind answering those at all.
 
But in a way this is my point. It shouldn't have been up to me to text this guy, a stranger, to ask if he was still coming. Sometimes they're just running late, still on the tube, whatever, so I try and make concessions. The arsehole should've at least had the decency to cancel before time. I shouldn't have been the one sending the text asking for his whereabouts. This is why I won't see him again, even if he offered double my rate.
And he's got the bloody cheek to call me incessantly on Christmas Eve for a booking?? I don't think so.
I hope he went home without a shag.