I'm not sure I can offer you any Advice but I didn't want to read and run as you sound so upset and disillusioned with Life....and thats kind of how I'm feeling at the moment as well.

It IS hard when some Clients take advantage but at the end of the day if they want to see you then they should be paying the correct amount to do so.....try to be strong and if you lose them as Regulars, well, in my experience there's always someone else that will replace him....

Why not try going on Tour?  Pick a really popular City and then you can do In-Calls from the Hotel...although I know you said money is tight for you at the moment so I'm not sure that will Work.

Apart from that I'm not sure what else to say.....Keep us posted and feel free to Join in here as much as you'd like to....

Keep strong and stay safe....I'll be thinking of you....

Hello Amy

Welcome to Saafe 
I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time at the moment, I've only been wreaking for a couple of years but I find I have to work harder to make the same money.
They say a change is as good as a rest and I'm inclined to agree with BBW_SEXY_DESIRES r.e going on tour. Pick a city that you've always fancied seeing and enjoy some sightseeing while you're at it.
I don't want to work in my home city so I tour constantly and although some are quieter than others, I earn enough to get by.
No, so long as you pick a suitable hotel (large, busy lobby, ideally with gyms/meeting facilities restaurants thus meaning there are many nonresidents coming and going all the time, and very importantly-no keycard restrictions to the lift/room corridors) you should have no problems. To date, I've never had any issues with the hotel becoming aware of what I'm up to.

I arrange my tours in the following way:
-Decide where you want to go.
-Go to late rooms and book a suitable hotel. Unless otherwise stated, you don't need to pay until check in. Hotels such as Hilton's, Crowne plazas, Radissons tend to be perfect for tours but do check the keycard situation before booking.
-Go to "My tours" on AW and input the tour details.
-Update your profile with the tour details, encouraging gents to enquire/book in advance.
-Add the tour details to your website if you have one.
-Search for any local punting sites in the area you're touring in and add your tour details.
-When you're ready to go, change the location of your aw profile to the town/city your visiting. Personally, I like to do this at least a couple of days before to help generate bookings.
-When clients have confirmed their booking, I text/email the hotel address and tell them to call on arrival, just before the enter the hotel so I can give them the room number and clear directions on how to reach it e.g 201, 2nd floor, walk in main door and take a left for the lifts etc.

This is just my method and I'm sure there'll be some other ladies along in a minute with more tips.

With regards to the gents you've mentioned, they sound like textbook examples of boundary pushers. He freaks out if you mention your fee? Good grief, you provide a paid service. Methinks its an act to get extra time and it seems to be working. If you're unhappy to continue giving the other gentleman a reduced fee, tell him. If he doesn't like it, then I don't think you've lost a good thing..

Good luck x

Clients who see you alot can sometimes get emotionally attatched, I have had clients say to me things like , "I am not a normal client, we're are friends, I consider you a friend as we get on so well" etc etc, then they email alot, text alot, want to go out with you for free and think that even if you retired you would want to see them as it's more than just paying for fun, then ask for a discount.  I absolutely hate this and dump clients that get like this, before you know it you are doing a 2 hour session which ends up being 3 as they talk so much and think your buddies.  This is why your fed up, clients like this are exhausting.  If they get like this dump them.  Do some cam on Adultwork to have a bit more money coming in.

I will add I enjoy what I do and make sure I provide a good service as they are paying me good money, but thats what it is, they are paying for a service, dont let them take the p***

You need to take control before you just feel so rubbish you can't provide a good service(which is what is happening). If you can't raise questions about the booking after seeing him for so long, that is wrong and what if he starts trying it on in other ways? Initially it might well scare off the client, but if he likes you that much he'll be back on your terms, or you may find in the time you have freed up you do find another client who is very clear about the time he wants. Best approach would be to say you can give him x amount of time (where x was the total amount of time for lunch plus the 3 hours previously) so if it starts at 11am before lunch it'll finish at (11am+x)pm.

Thank you all so much for your help!

I agree with all of you, they are taking the p*** and I do find it exhausting now, it's like trying to maintain two additional relationships (that I don't want) on top of my actual relationship with my partner!

It's nice having regulars, knowing what they like, being comfortable etc but it's gone way beyond that now, I'm fed up with what they like and am uncomfortable and annoyed most of the time I see them.

You've all helped me feel more confident about making some big changes to how I've been doing things, I still intend to give up this year but I think a tour will be a good idea for a final fling with this career of mine.

can someone tell me where to find the Touring section on here? Want to set up a tour and find suggestions for appropriate hotel in and around London that don't require a non refundable deposit.....

It's at the top of the Questions and Answers forum page. IIRC, you only need 5 constructive forum posts to be able to view it, but if you can't see it yet then you may need 10. Apologies for the inconvenience, but I'm sure you can imagine why this is necessary! We do have a touring article on the main SAAFE site (http://www.saafe.info) and posts in this very thread, such as Spangle's have already outlined to you how to find a suitable hotel yourself.

Hey Amyamyamy.....just wanted to drop in a quick reply....sounds like you are feeling better which is great....

Do try Camming....apparently that can be rather lucrative....

Hope the Tour works out!!

Don't worry about me.....My stuff is just to do with the profession that I'm Training to be in....it's complicated and I won't bore you with it....but I'll be just fine....