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bbwflame

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To escort or not too?
« on: 10 April 2013, 07:46:54 pm »
Hello all

Another question from me. I'm still in two minds about escorting having read various posts and its made me feel paranoid.  I have a AW profile am pretty much a webchat girl on there so get a fair few guys who come in my room say nothing and leave (even if i still get paid a few pence!) 0 feedback only signed up within the last few minutes profiles.

I was on cam for a guy on there a few years ago who really scared me to death almost. The days after the cam show he emailed telling me he would find me and kill me. Never understood what I did to him other than my skin color perhaps. The feedback he left me was awful since i put on a wonderful show for him I always remember going back a rereading what he said on cam and gave no indication that he disliked me. He was Asian.

With cam i can switch off and leave it behind with no fear that someone would rob me, tell hotel staff that im some WG or worst still rape me.

The point i'm trying to make is I don't feel safe saying im an escort on that site with me showing my face. My face isnt showing on the escort site i made sure to do that.

I understand that being an escort isnt for everyone but i at least wanted to give it a go before i leave the sex world behind.

meetingdiversity

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Re: To escort or not too?
« Reply #1 on: 10 April 2013, 09:24:10 pm »
Hello all

Another question from me. I'm still in two minds about escorting having read various posts and its made me feel paranoid.  I have a AW profile am pretty much a webchat girl on there so get a fair few guys who come in my room say nothing and leave (even if i still get paid a few pence!) 0 feedback only signed up within the last few minutes profiles.

I was on cam for a guy on there a few years ago who really scared me to death almost. The days after the cam show he emailed telling me he would find me and kill me. Never understood what I did to him other than my skin color perhaps. The feedback he left me was awful since i put on a wonderful show for him I always remember going back a rereading what he said on cam and gave no indication that he disliked me. He was Asian.

With cam i can switch off and leave it behind with no fear that someone would rob me, tell hotel staff that im some WG or worst still rape me.

The point i'm trying to make is I don't feel safe saying im an escort on that site with me showing my face. My face isnt showing on the escort site i made sure to do that.

I understand that being an escort isnt for everyone but i at least wanted to give it a go before i leave the sex world behind.


You will get psycho's as they are among society. That is why it is very important to play this game right. As making the wrong move can be devastating. Sorry for saying but if you are scared now, why do some thing you fear?. I know that if I feared taking up escorting wouldn't have happened. As I believe starting with confidence helps getting established.

jennymyshe

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Re: To escort or not too?
« Reply #2 on: 10 April 2013, 10:07:37 pm »
i would say definitely to escort.
If you feel feel repulsion servicing men, then its acceptable and you might consider to leave the sex world behind.
However if its because of the few trying to harass you, then if i was you I would continue doing what i have always been doing.
Thinking and talking to kill someone its very easy, but not a simple task to carry out.
That chap obviously was having a bad day, and probably living a lonely life, so he used you to express his anger, because you were the most recent soul he met.

Also in my personal opinion when something happens to you, make it in the "third person".
Supposing that your name is flame, then when you have a bad customer, you should say to yourself, "Look at that ! they made Flame upset today" am going to talk to her now, and reassure her all is good all is fine.
You achieve a kind of detachment in this way.

I receive threats every week, and if some weeks are perfectly fine, i start thinking that something is wrong. The verbal abuse and text/sms, are mostly complaints about myself not willing to lower my rates, and guess who thay are? But thats happening to jenny, and the real me reports their number and details to the Ugly Mug Scheme. They are wonderful and so so helpful.

Also Here in Uk it is quite difficult to seriously make an attempt to someone's life, going to shopping in central london we get photographed at least 300 times in one day.
Landmark, landmark, if you meet anyone make them stand by the tube station, pub, chicken shop,,,,
Its all normall keep it up

Nobody Interesting

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Re: To escort or not too?
« Reply #3 on: 10 April 2013, 11:29:41 pm »
Hi,

I do not think any one can advise you of what to do, this is not for everyone.

I have had no issues so far in my relatively short time, but I am always 'on guard' and very aware of the potential dangers. Before starting I read everything I could, then made a decision to finally go for it. I was then VERY fussy in regard to who the first clients were. My thought was I would try it once and make a decision. Every booking since has been based on that.

I would say that a certain level of fear is self protection and it is what keeps you as safe as you can be. But if it is more than that, say to the extent of paranoia, then you either need to give it more time, or a miss in my humble opinion.

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bbwflame

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Re: To escort or not too?
« Reply #4 on: 11 April 2013, 05:38:47 pm »
Thank you all for your replies you have given me much to think about. Just Ive been a camgirl for years now and have had the guys on there wanting to do it in real time. I am more than willing to do so since its time for me to leave the whole  and i want to leave on a high.

Jenny your post was lovely made we look at it in a different way. I shall *tell* flame about it.

Being on this forum does give me some piece of mind that I am not the only one should any punter try to pull a fast one.  What can i say i am a born worrier.

*Also I was saw BBC breakfast today about *ugly mugs* this put my mind at rest on a few things*

Dani

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Re: To escort or not too?
« Reply #5 on: 11 April 2013, 07:44:25 pm »
There are some very strange guys on webcams.  probably far more than are actually seeing escorts.  They are the sort that sit behind their PC and feel great as they are scaring or upsetting someone.  A keyboard warrior who probably sits in his mums spare room getting hard over the fact that he scared you but in reality would not have the nerve to speak to a woman in real life.

Not saying there are not weirdos in this game, as there are but a good screening procedure should weed them out.
Most escorts have probably had guys send vile emaisl or texts but just ignore them.  Guys who do this type of thing do it because they get a reaction, no reaction means no pleasure for them.

No one can ever tell you if you should escort or not and I would never encourage anyone to do this as I do not know how strong that person is emotionally or if they could do this type of work as it id very different to cam work

If you do choose to escort though read through the main site then read it again, go to sleep and when you wake up read it again.  There is so much advice on there that will help you

The only advice I can really give is if you do this no matter how much you need the money never take a client when your gut is telling you not to.  It is not worth the risk.  Listen to your gut reactions all the time.  Never ever ignore them.  if a client does not feel right on the phone, tell him you are fully booked for the next few weeks and hang up, then save his number under NEVER ANSWER.
Truth is far more important than what one wants to hear. With truth there is no us and them or colour or religion there is just fact