My advice to you would be to join an agency, therefore you generally work from their apartments not your home (I dont work from home either I just visit home and hotels) if you are only wanting ?100 or so a week this can be achieved in one job.

I managed escorting round my full time very busy job to start out with, with agencies just put in a shift i.e evenings and weekends and stick to that any additional money is a bonus.

Drugs culture is a bit of a myth I have seen girls get offered so much cocaine that they have become addicted to it and spend their money on it but its not about drugs and pimps but then again its not belle de jour as seen on tv! Ring an agency sign up, try it out and if it doesnt work there is no loss.

The liklihood is you will not be physically attracted to the majority of your clients so it stays client/escort only.

Also, be very careful if you're looking for a couple of regulars like the current guy you're seeing for financial rewards; there are a LOT of chancers/idiots/worse out there who'd love the idea of you going out with them and having sex with them etc with the expectation that you'll be rewarded with money/gifts etc afterwards, because obviously afterwards they plan to run off and not give you a penny for your time or services.

Of course escorts do meet clients with whom they have regular meets over a decent amount of time and so get to the point where they are happy to go out on free dates and only charge for "private time" afterwards, and/or he gets to pay afterwards or separately in some way to make it seem less formal etc, but I must emphasise the important of only accepting these sorts of arrangements from someone you can trust. By trust (because you should also try not to ever rely too much on anyone else for anything), it usually means that he's already given you a thousand or two pounds in normal booking fees (paid upfront before each individual appointment, as is normal) over the months/years, and has never, EVER acted disrespectfully or tried to take advantage of you.

I say all this because of course lots of people would enjoy a couple of "sugar daddy" relationships rather than escorting and meeting strangers all the time - it's very understandable - but it's a much harder type of relationship to establish and navigate. As someone who's been working in the sex industry for a couple of years now, I know that you do need to always be vigilant: do not do something that you'd hate to not be paid for without getting paid upfront.

Payment upfront is the industry norm (outside of very, very special and particular circumstances, as noted above) so do not listen to anyone who tells you otherwise, or that he'd just LOVE to go for meals and have some sex and then pay you or give you gifts afterwards. Your current guy is obviously a very decent sort, and I know there are lots of men out there who'd never dream of screwing someone over, but... there are unfortunately also lots of people out there who would not return to pay for something if they knew they could get away with keeping it for free. Tis merely human psychology, really, but can't be emphasised enough in this biz.

 I really want to avoid the drugs culture...

So dont take them!

Sorry if I sound snotty but the assumption that working girls are all addicts and work to support their habit infuriates me. You said that you know that this job is 'nothing like it is on tv' so please discard the drug-user stereotype as well as the Belle du Jour one...

R xx

Sorry I realise it was a sterio type I guess I just want to make sure I avoided any of the more dodgy parlours or agencies if they exist

The thing is, there's really quite a comfortable (and almost boring) layer in the industry wherein honest people work for an honest living - there's no scummy pimps or drug-addicted girls (we're obviously talking about indoor work here), but there are also not many billionaires or an "International clientele" that fly you around in a private jet while you wear designer outfits and sip champagne in exchange for a bit of a handjob in the loos. This pleasant yet not-terribly-thrilling layer is completely ignored by the media because no one gets pimped out or horribly addicted to drugs or forced to service 20 footballers in one go, but that doesn't mean it's not there!

And it is really a good thing, because comfortable indoor work can be very safe, and financially rewarding (same as any good job), and enjoyable. I think that's why it's a great idea to aim for this level: it's far more realistic than Belle de Jour stuff, and far less horrific than street work.

So if you go to any interviews or parlours or whatnot and feel that you've met someone who seems seedy, or who talks about drugs or criminal activity that makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, just get up and get out. There's absolutely no way you should have to put up with that. I've only seen drugs once in my whole two+ years working and they were being taken by a client that I was sent to see by an agency; as an indie, I would never accept a client having drugs anywhere near me and I certainly am not going to be taking anything myself ever.

Similarly, if people start talking to you about making thousands and thousands in your first week cos they're going to fly you to Dubai to shag a prince, you should also get up and run away as fast as possible.

Still. You can have really high standards for this work, is what I'm saying, even if you never quite get round to buying a pair of ?500 shoes cos you'd rather save up for something better.

never give and agency anything that can come bak an bite you in your ass later on either by that i mean your real name / identification such as passport /licence

dont let them know where you live either  -  not that im being paranoid but if /when you decided to go indi  and leve  then they have been known to drop a dime on you to your neigbours friends work collegues ect so keep it basic and simple and tell them a lie  about where you live /  dont even tell them that you work and dont get to friendly with them

its not and industry where we are regulated by the trading standards    so people can treat you like shit and there is very little you can do about it   

Oh and if the escort agency  owner wants /expects you to sleep with him /give him  a blowjob for free to see how your services are  tell him to f...... off

 

Thanks for all the advice just to let you know I survived my 1st shift though I was SOOOoOOooooo nervious!!  Wasn't sure if I shouldn't have picked such a high pair of heels my legs were shaking so much I was worried I would trip over walking into the room.

lol thanks, I guess I can now call mysef a WG or a Brothel whore lol