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MissThang

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #15 on: 15 January 2012, 11:55:11 am »
Haha, love the vision of deranged Emily and her 'friends'  ;D

I think doing the coffee thing is a bit weird. I can see the appeal - it's a friend who knows you escort and can't judge, plus you like them,but where are the boundaries?

Do you tell them your real name? Do you tell them what you really think of the unusual clients, or maintain the 24/7 cock lover persona? Do you tell them stories from your real life?

It just seems too much like hard work to me......

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« Reply #16 on: 15 January 2012, 11:55:31 am »
Thanks for the input girls!  :-*

I often find myself tempted, but only because of the solitary nature of the job, you know? I find it hard to meet people outside of work, because I'm always working.  ::) Is this stupid? x

I agree it can be tempting, sometimes I find myself blurting out stuff (nothing I could be identified with but still) and afterwards think.....shit why did I do that?!

And the answer is, if you let it - and I've been pretty guilty of this myself - this job can be extremely isolating.  I have yet to find a balance between escorting and my social life, in fact my escorting life is far too predominant right now, and that is one of my priorities this year to sort out the work/life balance.

ladyjennaj

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« Reply #17 on: 15 January 2012, 12:12:34 pm »
Exactly! I find myself feeling quite lonely at times, which is annoying. This isn't my full time job either; I freelance write outside of it, which is another career which requires a certain degree of solitary confinement mentally. I do think I work too much and don't spend enough time with friends and such. I need to get out more :D

LouLou37

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #18 on: 15 January 2012, 07:24:38 pm »
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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #19 on: 15 January 2012, 07:51:52 pm »
................... want to be last of the day. I didn't think much of it until I realised - he was probably doing it so he could offer me an 'innocent' lift home (I never accepted) or follow me home (shudders)

Some clients are personable and very probably lovely people, but I won't take the risk anymore - I just stick to small talk and boundaries.   

I've had these ones too and they freak me out so much that I will not tell ANYONE what time I am finishing now and when I do leave working apartment I have always been very vigilant to watch out and see if anyone is following.  Also go a different route or pop into a shop for whatever.

The 'last booking of the day' ones too also try and push their 30 mins to longer ....................... cheapskates !!

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« Reply #20 on: 15 January 2012, 07:54:47 pm »
The 'last booking of the day' ones too also try and push their 30 mins to longer ....................... cheapskates !!


Yup I've noticed that with the last booking of the day, like they think you've got nothing better to do than chat all night!

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #21 on: 15 January 2012, 09:37:29 pm »
this job can be extremely isolating.

« Last Edit: 07 February 2012, 04:07:45 pm by joanna1 »

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« Reply #22 on: 15 January 2012, 09:53:21 pm »
this job can be extremely isolating.

It is extremely isolating.  Apart from punters, this job gives you ZERO outlet to meet anyone, let alone make a single friend.  Its one of the shittest aspects of the job.  

That's why.I also said if you let it joanna. This job can be overwhelming if you are not careful and it can become your. whole life and that is not healthy. I am speaking from experience and have not worked it out myself yet.

You have to make a huge effort to keep the friends you have and make new ones both in and outside of the escort community. That's why forums like this are vital.

I'm speaking to myself as much.as you Joanna!
« Last Edit: 15 January 2012, 10:00:41 pm by Mellow »

ladyjennaj

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #23 on: 16 January 2012, 09:45:42 am »
Thanks girlies! So true :-*

ladyofthemansion

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« Reply #24 on: 16 January 2012, 12:42:27 pm »
It's easy enough to get another part time job as well even if volunteering to go to the hospital shop for patients. You will soon meet people.x
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« Reply #25 on: 16 January 2012, 02:08:41 pm »
I think the whole point of my friends is that I can relax around them and say the first (daft) thing that pops into my head. I definitely DEFINITELY dont want to be that relaxed around Clients. Quite apart from the fact that I dont want them knowing all the details of my private life I also think it might ruin the illusion - you know - that I spend all day lounging around in silk lingerie, painting my nails and aching for them to call me when the truth is that my uber glamorous life consists of Asda, housework and ironing in an ever-repeating cycle...

I have an OH who doesnt like hearing the details of my job but gives me support in all other areas of my life and I have dogs who listen to everything and never ever repeat a word :) I also have girlfriends who listen and try to understand what its like to do this job - and the lovely ladies here on SAAFE who always listen and always understand!

I love your posts and think you'd be a great friend and ally so I know that you'll find it easy :)

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ladyjennaj

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« Reply #26 on: 16 January 2012, 02:39:44 pm »
This forum has definitely helped, because it reminds me that I'm not alone in this. You ladies are a great support. Sometimes I just need to talk to someone who knows what I do; I don't know why  :-\ I think I just need to spend more time doing normal things, like having lunch with friends, because it has kinda taken over my life. ::)

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« Reply #27 on: 16 January 2012, 02:44:07 pm »
This forum has definitely helped, because it reminds me that I'm not alone in this. You ladies are a great support. Sometimes I just need to talk to someone who knows what I do; I don't know why  :-\ I think I just need to spend more time doing normal things, like having lunch with friends, because it has kinda taken over my life. ::)

Exactly how I'm feeling LadyJ

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #28 on: 16 January 2012, 04:08:00 pm »
If a client asks me if they can take me for a coffee or out for a meal, I say "Of course that would be lovely, how long do you want to book me for?" It usually works well for me.

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #29 on: 16 January 2012, 05:04:58 pm »
- this job can be extremely isolating.  I have yet to find a balance between escorting and my social life, in fact my escorting life is far too predominant right now, and that is one of my priorities this year to sort out the work/life balance.

True true.  I will not do this job f/t ever again after getting messed up over it last time.  I like seeing my friends occasionally, meeting new people, making plans and actually turning up.  There are very few jobs in this world that take up all of your waking hours and still expect you to work early mornings and weekends.

Ps.  If a client were your real friend, he would pay for your time.
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