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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Sophine88 on 14 July 2021, 07:35:01 pm
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I have to say sometimes I take it personally when a man can’t get an erection as I find it must be something wrong with me that he doesn’t find me attractive or something. Maybe it’s just my low self esteem chatting shit. What about you?
typo fixed
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Sophine I used to feel like this alot of the time. If I cant get them hard and they are paying what am I doing wrong. Am I not experiencing enough.
Also feel under pressure to create a miracle
They know they have problems before arriving some wont even tell you.
I will try for a while to give oral and hand relief but if nothings rising it's not going to penetrate.
They give various reasons to me at the time like they are nervous or it's just that they had been wanking too much earlier and just cant perform I've had those excuses. When their times up then I just say were done now
I dont tend to make comments about the poor performance.
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I'm in the "mature" bracket (late 40s) so I do tend to attract a lot of clients who have ED (especially since I write "patient and understanding" in my adverts.)
It is much, much easier when the client is honest from the beginning. EG "I have ED and struggle to get hard. It would really help if you do XYZ, that will help me cum but I probably won't get hard enough to fuck."
If a client is just not getting hard and hasn't said anything about it, and I've given it my absolute best oral with no repsonse, I'll say "This doesn't really seem to be working - would you like me to carry on or shall we call it a day?" The wording is blame-free and it gives the choice back to the client.
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If I’ve worked on them for 30 minutes & they’re not up? That’s a “their problem”, not a “my problem”. I’ll say things like, what else can I do, I’m here to help, you know your body I don’t, how can I assist, etc. I’m perfectly willing to help & I say that, unfortunately I’ve had to add 2 words ~ “within reason”, because too many jackasses would immediately say they’d get hard with a BBBJ. Sorry, my helpfulness doesn’t extend that far.
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It's not our problem if they can't get hard. I appreciate it if they tell me this. I have some older guys who lose their erection during a booking but not a problem for me.
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I don't come across it much since I screen out older clients.
It's their equipment and if it's not working that's their responsibility.
I do my usual. If his cock doesn't work I taper off and slow down then stop. I don't force it, none of this wankers claw nonsense. I give them the usual 5-10 minutes to cum that everyone else has. Then time is up and I ask if they'd like a shower before they leave, and start packing up my bits and pieces round the room.
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I don't come across it much since I screen out older clients.
It's their equipment and if it's not working that's their responsibility.
I do my usual. If his cock doesn't work I taper off and slow down then stop. I don't force it, none of this wankers claw nonsense. I give them the usual 5-10 minutes to cum that everyone else has. Then time is up and I ask if they'd like a shower before they leave, and start packing up my bits and pieces round the room.
I don't get it that much either, but I don't find it's an age thing? The inexperienced youngsters and those who are very nervous are the most likely IME, although I screen those out as best I can; I do pretty much the opposite of VC in that I explain I'm not terribly patient and if they want somebody who is they'd be better looking elsewhere :).
I also appreciate it if they tell me, but I don't take it personally as it can be anything (even low blood sugar; I've had plenty through the door who wonder why it's not working like it should and then it turns out they haven't eaten anything for hours) and I won't batter away at it until my arm is numb either. They can have a go themselves if they think it'll go anywhere and then when times up, that's it.
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It's not something I've experienced often, bar two exceptions:
1). Men who've warned me in advance they have ED or are totally impotent, e.g. due to severe diabetes
2). Cokeheads
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Amy, probably not age based I agree, but I'm a poor one to judge as I also screen out callers for being nervous and inexperienced so I don't get to see youngies with floppies.
I don't mind cokeheads as I connect with them quite well and we kinda agree that we're not going to focus too much on the cock and we do other activities instead, sexual or not which is usually pretty good fun.
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I like it if they tell me at the start but really, it doesn't bother me. To me it's their problem if they can't get erect and like Amy, I've seen younger ones with this issue as well as older men and for different reasons.
In my experience, I don't think the client is too bothered as long as they get to enjoy some female company. Some still manage to pop too, which is something.
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I’ve had a few and no matter them saying ‘it’s not you’ I still take it personally. I do know there are certain things that affect the clients erection but I’ll still, I try and try until there is nothing I know I can do to get them hard :)
Alcohol, nerves etc but maybe it’s me too but as long as I’ve tried my best then that’s all I can do :) Sometimes they can be too rock hard ;D
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It's not you, never is. It's them, obviously. And if they can't get it up that is their issue. They shouldn't have had a wank that morning, which they do. All you can do is try and work with the moment, do some caressing, stroking, maybe some oral etc. But at the end of the day if it doesn't happen then it doesn't, and when their time is up, it's up.