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Kitty LC

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Is honesty best policy?
« on: 12 August 2014, 07:20:30 pm »
Hello, I am going to be starting escorting soon but before I do I have to break it off with my BF. I've decided this is the right path for me but still care a lot for my BF. I've always believed that on the whole honesty is the best policy but do you think that in this case? I feel he deserves to know the truth as to why I can't be with him.

Really don't know what to do for the best!?!  :FF
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Re: Is honesty best policy?
« Reply #1 on: 12 August 2014, 07:21:38 pm »
Is there no way you can have both?

It is possible with acceptance and openness.
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Re: Is honesty best policy?
« Reply #2 on: 13 August 2014, 12:43:51 am »
Yes, what Rosa said.

You may be pleasantly surprised by his response but only you can judge if it is the right thing to do.

Im with someone now, once I started having feelings for him I decided I needed to either tell him or let him go.

To my surprise he was so understanding and really respected my honesty.
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Kitty LC

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Re: Is honesty best policy?
« Reply #3 on: 13 August 2014, 03:35:25 am »
I would love to have both! I would love to think he will be so accepting!

Thanks both your replies   :)
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« Reply #4 on: 13 August 2014, 06:32:03 am »
I would be inclined to wait and see how the escorting goes first, and how you feel about it then.

Actually doing it changes a lot of the perspectives you have from how you see it before.

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Re: Is honesty best policy?
« Reply #5 on: 13 August 2014, 09:21:15 am »
Yes I'd agree with the above, you've no idea how you'll actually feel about it yet. Also I think there can be a lot of nervousness or excitement when you first start, and as with any job that wears off
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Re: Is honesty best policy?
« Reply #6 on: 13 August 2014, 09:45:52 am »
All good advice and it really is a bit of a guessing game as to how people will react.

The one thing that I will say is that be careful of what you tell anybody, especially your boyfriend, if he does not like the idea and you ditch him to take up working. he may not be forgiving and tell everybody that you both know why you split up, his words may not be the nicest as he may be angry / upset.

Sarah x x x
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Re: Is honesty best policy?
« Reply #7 on: 13 August 2014, 10:55:58 am »
Quote from: Wife4rent on 13 August 2014, 09:45:52 am
All good advice and it really is a bit of a guessing game as to how people will react.

The one thing that I will say is that be careful of what you tell anybody, especially your boyfriend, if he does not like the idea and you ditch him to take up working. he may not be forgiving and tell everybody that you both know why you split up, his words may not be the nicest as he may be angry / upset.

Sarah x x x


What Sarah says ^^^^^ after years of experience in the business I think honesty is a nice policy but not ALWAYS.  It can end up biting you on the bum and end your career before it even starts.

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Re: Is honesty best policy?
« Reply #8 on: 13 August 2014, 05:33:51 pm »
Step one, if you want to tell him, is to say that you don't want to be monogamous at the moment. If he can't accept that, there really is no point in telling him cash is involved - you can't 'un-come out' and once you've told him, you have no control over what he is going to do with the info.
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« Reply #9 on: 14 August 2014, 03:14:00 am »
Quote from: xw5 on 13 August 2014, 05:33:51 pm
Step one, if you want to tell him, is to say that you don't want to be monogamous at the moment. If he can't accept that, there really is no point in telling him cash is involved - you can't 'un-come out' and once you've told him, you have no control over what he is going to do with the info.

That is exactly right. I've been in this situation, more than once, and I'm not inclined to say too much too soon having already made that mistake. It might seem deceitful, but until you know how you will feel about escorting as a career there is no point in burning any bridges prematurely.
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Re: Is honesty best policy?
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Re: Is honesty best policy?
« Reply #11 on: 14 August 2014, 08:53:57 pm »
I'd say it also depends on the stage of your relationship. On how long you've been together etc...
And also I don't believe in telling boyfriends "everything". Every girl should have her secret garden...
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