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JellyBean

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Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« on: 27 August 2011, 12:20:32 am »
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #1 on: 27 August 2011, 12:42:23 am »
Have you tried telling him that you're not happy with it? Given that you're not happy, why are you going to the ball?

Does he understand the consequences of carrying on with this? No more bookings with you and/or you telling everyone 'No, I'm not his girlfriend, I'm just someone he thinks he can pay to pretend that I am, sad isn't it?'
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #2 on: 27 August 2011, 10:28:49 am »
I hope you're charging him accordingly and not your normal hourly fee. One thing is to have sex with him behind close doors (and nobody knowing about it) and another is to be "dragged" into a social scenario thus being perceived as some gold digger or WG by a whole bunch of strangers. What if you bump into someone you know??? Definiately I would charge A LOT for this  cause it sounds pretty stressful and there's the risk of being outed. Otherwise I wouldn't do it.
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« Reply #3 on: 27 August 2011, 11:07:38 am »
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #4 on: 27 August 2011, 11:42:43 am »
I refuse to do social event for all Of the reasons the other girls have listed.
If your not happy don't go, I'm sure the dress can be returned :-) xx
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #5 on: 27 August 2011, 11:56:10 am »
I would only do this in exchange of double fee of an overnight, otherwise I don't think the stress is worth it. This is not 2 hour dinner date in some discrete restaurant. This is a 7:00 to early morning ball , dancing, chatting with strangers, being the center of comments and feeling  awkward for many hours. Too much work and too much exposure. Regarding the dress it can be returned as it hasn't been used yet. Give the guy enough notice in advance regarding what you decide so he can withdraw more money from the bank (cash only, no checks)  or hire another WG (and have her exchange your dress to another one more of her liking). Good luck and whatever decision you make don't feel bad about it.
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #6 on: 27 August 2011, 12:17:05 pm »
Thinking about this from a slightly different angle - how likely are you to meet any of his friends again? If you're probably never going to see them again, who cares what they think?
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #7 on: 29 August 2011, 08:44:12 am »
From his point of view  he is probably wanting to show you off and make his friends envious. 
He obviously feels comfortable with you, because there is a risk involved, after all you could get drunk, start crying, strip tease, try and get off with his pals, or just tell everyone! ;D

If you have a nice new dress and he is good company, just go and have a nice time, no one is saying you have to talk to his mates.

Gold diggers, well who cares about their opinions!

I'm curious to know what you decide though, so keep us informed!

ps I do agree though, if you REALLY dont want to do it, then DON'T xxxxxx
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #8 on: 29 August 2011, 11:55:17 pm »
 It might not be as bad as you think. His friends will probably suspect that you are a WG but will be polite enough not to ask you.  At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what they think of you...it's him that is going to look silly!

Hey, you could always look at it as alternative marketing. I have business cards that I will occasionally hand out to a gentleman if I get talking to him and think that he may be the type to see a WG.
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #9 on: 30 August 2011, 09:34:21 am »
One of my clients paid for me to do a journalism course with him, and he called me his girlfriend too. I had a few funny looks, but no-one said anything. I was worried about it, at first, but you just need to get on with it and charge a bit extra. It mainly depends on the risk factor - how likely are you to bump into someone you know?
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« Reply #10 on: 30 August 2011, 10:19:18 am »
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #11 on: 30 August 2011, 10:31:43 am »
Personally I would have a chat with him and tell him about my concerns.

If he was nice and reassuring about it I would mention an increase in the fee and assure him of a partial refund if you were unable to go ahead with the booking for any reason.

If he is arsey about it I would wish him look finding a girl matching your measurements for the dress. If he's going to be a pain just making arrangements the booking will probably not go well.
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #12 on: 30 August 2011, 12:18:04 pm »
Hi Laila,
I agree with all the posts above but mostly with Don't do it if you Don't feel like it's right.
Just re-iterating that you don't have anything to feel guilty about - if he can afford to pay for one made to measure outfit I expect he can do it again. While your working life is not your real life, on this occasion, as mentioned above, the increased exposure for HOURS is a high risk if you're not comfortable with verbally fending off idiots...after all if the alcohol is flowing perhaps one of his colleague might be brave enough to ask if you are a WG and that person might not be the only one to do so.

You don't owe this client anything but an apology. Bigger picture is you're allowed to change your mind.

Keep us posted as to what you decided to do and good luck either way!
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #13 on: 30 August 2011, 12:56:38 pm »
Or like Ellie said, you can tell the guy that your only condition is that you'll be handling "business cards" to the guys. If he doesn't like the idea (which I'm sure he won't lol)  then...sorry he'll have to look for someone else. Business comes first. Any excuse is good to break the deal.



 
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Re: Introduced as his Girlfriend at an event
« Reply #14 on: 30 August 2011, 01:10:14 pm »
If I did it I think I'd be telling people I'm a student. Of course they'll still think it's about money, but I'd rather be thought of as a student sugar baby than a gold digger. Would that work for you? It's ok if you're not in your 20s, you could have been a housewife/carer/shelf stacker previously.
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