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martine21

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Intense touching and cuddling..
« on: 24 June 2016, 06:14:36 pm »
Just had a client for an hour who when he wasnt shagging me, kept hold of me quite tightly cuddling me. Literally there was point in the hour he didnt have some sort of his body tightly pressed against me.
Its quite hot here today and i was sweating like mad it was just too much.
Bless him he was lovely but having a man 38 years your senior that close to me has freaked me a little, i felt as if i couldnt breathe at one point.
I do offer gfe and dont mind a little cuddling, like an arm around my shoulder but this was too much.
Is it wrong to ask the client to give you some space in this type of booking?
I felt awful cos i really rushed him off when time was up and it was obvious i did so. He had the full hour with me but once it was done, i made it clear in my body language and rushing off downstairs it was over.
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trashbaby

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #1 on: 24 June 2016, 06:30:49 pm »
This gets to me sometimes as well. I can usually hack it for a while but in longer bookings I do find myself drained and touched out by the end of it.  I wouldn't say it was wrong to ask for space, but you could maybe frame it like "My goodness it's so warm today! I think I need to cool down! Would you like some water?" and extricate yourself for a short while to have a breather.

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #2 on: 24 June 2016, 07:40:07 pm »
Yeah, the cuddlers can be a bit claustrophobic, but I advertise GFE, and unfortunately an intense clinch is part of it for lots of guys.
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katrina

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #3 on: 25 June 2016, 01:12:53 pm »


 I sometimes wonder if they're just trying to cram as much extreme close contact into the booking to 'get their money's worth' or if they have been genuinely starved of affection and cuddles all their life so feel the need for this unnatural way of intense 'locking into an embrace'  without the need for air  :-\
« Last Edit: 25 June 2016, 01:14:48 pm by katrina »

meetingdiversity

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #4 on: 25 June 2016, 01:23:02 pm »
I think maybe it is more to do with them missing the closeness feeling to a woman they might be lacking. But it can get a bit much in this heat.

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #5 on: 25 June 2016, 01:37:01 pm »
I think maybe it is more to do with them missing the closeness feeling to a woman they might be lacking. But it can get a bit much in this heat.

Not just closeness to a woman but any sort of close contact, period, I'd imagine. It's kind of depressing how many people are completely deprived of physical affection, be it from a partner, family or both. I know people who haven't had physical contact with another person aside from shaking hands for -years-. >.<

Emma_C

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #6 on: 25 June 2016, 03:05:24 pm »
Space invaders. Had one kissing me all over once, made me want to slap him, slobbering around my eye sockets too  :-\ I just pull away & say lets have a breather.

Willow Summers

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #7 on: 25 June 2016, 04:34:35 pm »
I think im starved of affection too because i really love cuddling and being held. I do this with a lot of my clients, we cuddle and chat away. However, i couldnt cope with one of those that wanna plant slobbery kisses  everywhere or licks my neck or face. That turns my stomach  :-X

katrina

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #8 on: 25 June 2016, 05:29:55 pm »
I like kissing and cuddling too, and love all the touching etc, its a basic human need there's nothing wrong with that and I too feel sorry for people who don't get any affection/cuddles in their life....


 But this is about about the intense excessive smothering right in your face type of guys who won't allow breath, they are rare with me but some have been totally obsessive and often they are the types who've tried to dribble in my mouth too. I think its a form of boundary pushing with *some* who do this type of thing,  they should take notice when an escort drops subtle hints that she needs a bit of space, so I think the OP shouldn't feel any guilt at all for rushing to end the booking when the time was up.   

Emma_C

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #9 on: 25 June 2016, 09:29:24 pm »
some have been totally obsessive and often they are the types who've tried to dribble in my mouth too. I think its a form of boundary pushing with *some* who do this type of thing, 

 :o jeez if someone did that to me I'd flip out. How Vile. I've had one yesterday admit to "trying to wind me up" by pushing boundaries. Don't understand how these idiots don't realise it's a massive turn off for us.

Willow Summers

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #10 on: 26 June 2016, 12:48:41 pm »
:o jeez if someone did that to me I'd flip out. How Vile. I've had one yesterday admit to "trying to wind me up" by pushing boundaries. Don't understand how these idiots don't realise it's a massive turn off for us.

Have you seen him since?  I had a gross dirty old man rhat tried dribbling in my mouth. I blocked him after that.

katrina

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #11 on: 28 June 2016, 10:33:09 am »
Have you seen him since?  I had a gross dirty old man rhat tried dribbling in my mouth. I blocked him after that.


I think the look of utter disgust on my face said it all really, especially with the one when I literally sat upright and wiped my mouth lol.


The other type of intense obsessive behaviour is almost always with elderly clients where, at the end of the booking they squeeze me to try and stop me from leaving....If its incall I can just lead them to the door but I've noticed with outcall its a bit more difficult to get away without being abrupt. Last night I literally had to pull my arms from the clients grip after he had me there for almost 10 minutes, he looked shocked and I felt I had been a bit harsh but then thinking about it, that's a form of boundary pushing too.

katrina

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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #12 on: 28 June 2016, 11:00:04 am »
:o jeez if someone did that to me I'd flip out. How Vile. I've had one yesterday admit to "trying to wind me up" by pushing boundaries. Don't understand how these idiots don't realise it's a massive turn off for us.

Yes the ones who think its really funny to behave like 2 year olds touching something inappropriately then looking to see what response they get...They need to have their hand moved and firmly told "No"  ::)  Had one the other day kept looking at me like a retard whilst pinching my nipples after I'd said several times to stop doing it, I told him I'm keeping my bra on in future if he doesn't behave, the twat!!



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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #13 on: 28 June 2016, 10:14:34 pm »
Oh yes the smother brigade as I call them, I'm short and tiny in stature and they can easily suffocate me with their bigger frames whether they are tall or fat either way they are bigger than me. I normally move away or physically get off the bed and suggest a drink of water etc. if it is getting too much with the squeezing.

However I have no problem with the guys that want to cuddle or stroke my face etc. to establish some kind of faux intimacy with me, I just close my eyes and think of the money as I imagine most of us ladies do.
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Re: Intense touching and cuddling..
« Reply #14 on: 28 June 2016, 10:16:09 pm »
Have you seen him since?  I had a gross dirty old man rhat tried dribbling in my mouth. I blocked him after that.
 

 ;D  isn't that why they need us lowly prostitutes?  (Tongue in cheek, of course)   ;D ;)