Author Topic: insults and lies from a mean bastard (Read 3208 times)

Secret_me! · « **on:** 30 June 2008, 03:10:52 am »

I just need some kind words after reading this jerks email and this forum was so helpful to me last time I posted.

This asshole called, I told him my fee, we made an appointment.

I know I should have collected the fee before we got going and I am a complete idiot not to. But he was a new client and I kinda have this hesitancy about asking for the money. And some of the reason I'm so naive is I've never had a problem. Anyways we got into it, and after he "asked" what my fee was, I told him 500 again, and he made up this complete lie about how he had read this review of me and contacted the man who posted the ad, who told him I was blonde and $200.

I know this is not true, cause I actually posted the review myself.

So he left 200, and said he would bring the rest the next time. I didn't believe him but I really didn't know what to do so I just played nice.

after a few email exchanges he told me I was not a PETITE blonde, my apartment was a mess, and my feet were dirty. I had just moved and the place really was a wreck but I let him know that from the get go.

And it's not as though I hadn't showered minutes prior to his arrival.

I just feel really fat, stupid, dirty, and used.

I don't know why he had to be so mean about things. I am so insulted . I'm trying to use it as motivation to work out harder, be cuter, all that good stuff. Any advice?

Any things that work to reaffirm your confidence after situations like this? I am going to go into the salon tommorow to get spruced up a bit. I really am a bit over my normal weight right now and his comment about how I wasn't petite is really really bothering me. I've had a borderline eating disorder before and was just starting to pull myself out of it. And in that process, yes I did gain 7 pounds.

Boo.. : ( frickin' hoo... I know, I know, stop being a sad sack!

Thanks in advanced for any help..

Anika Mae · « **Reply #1 on:** 30 June 2008, 01:38:55 pm »

Quote from: Secret_me! on 30 June 2008, 03:10:52 am

I don't know why he had to be so mean about things. I am so insulted . I'm trying to use it as motivation to work out harder, be cuter, all that good stuff. Any advice?

Because he's an arsehole. The way I read the situation: he has issues with women and wants to feel in control. He got a kick out of using you, abusing you, and totally getting away with it. He's a vile person and I'm sorry you crossed paths. I hate the idea that you're trying to make yourself "better" for him, the faults are all his and I believe his reaction had nothing to do with any of your attributes. All you should take from this is that not everyone is nice and reasonable; some people want to take advantage of you and hurt you, and you should do what you can to protect yourself from them.

If you want to make yourself better in any way, go for it, but do it for yourself. You mustn't allow your ideas of your worth to be determined by people like this, it's an unhealthy way to be, especially in an industry like ours.

What to do for your confidence? Hopefully you at least partly believe me that the problems aren't yours, that should help. You could think about all the clients who've had a great time with you. Also make sure your photos and descriptions are accurate so you're attracting people who are into you. Men like all kids of bodies and there's no need to lose weight for the sake of work, although you're probably like most women and more critical of your fat than anyone else ever could be, so that your extra seven pounds really don't matter.

Finally, there must be somewhere that deals with your geographic area where you can post warnings. Let other girls know to avoid this one.

Sasha · « **Reply #2 on:** 13 July 2008, 08:12:03 pm »

Hi Secret_Me!

I agree totally with the last post, dont lose weight for the job! Im with an agency and the majority of the girls on the site are a lot slimmer than me, but, although it bothered me at first, Ive had more than a few comments from guys saying how they prefer a fuller figure. then there will be those who dont. its a matter of taste.

And as for that fella, he's been a prat, and always remember, he wouldnt have a chance with you if he tried to chat you up in a bar! he's paying for it! sometimes its better to think of that way!.

take care
sasha
xxx

BurlesqueHoney · « **Reply #3 on:** 28 July 2008, 03:15:22 pm »

Aaah petal! Sadly some guys are inadequate and get their jollies from insulting and denigrating women. Sadly, almost every women has a weak spot, and her looks and figure are nine times out of ten a source of insecurity. Sadly, you will get the occasional mean guy but there will be nice people who adore your figure to compensate. You do need to develop a slightly thicker skin so and try and shake it off. Treat yourself by all means but for the right reasons.

In the moment, I am the biggest I have ever been but to be honest - I am made to feel sexy by guys who adore a plump voluptuous woman. Anyone, who tries to put me down is likely to be someone I might have turned down or cannot afford my fees - so what does his opinion matter lol

So you weigh a little more than usual - big deal - being a great escort is about the interaction and giving pleasure. However, this guy would have put you down even if you were a perfect size! Write off the sum unless you are prepared to legally pursue this person. Sadly, you made an error by not getting the money upfront. However, this person might have been trouble anyhow. Just learn from it and be more assertive about getting the full fee before giving your service. Good luck!

Hermione · « **Reply #4 on:** 29 July 2008, 06:04:32 pm »

This guy must have the world's smallest willy. When a client insults you, insult his willy! It helps everything.

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