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EvelynWho

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Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« on: 28 June 2019, 04:01:32 am »
Starting to offer a social booking (yes inspired by one of the posts on here but in no way the same thing (I’ve not got nearly the experience / skill set to offer as exciting a session as that)).
It’s got me wondering how incalls differ to a booking involving an outside social section. Would you put more pressure on vetting clients? What are the things I should look out for in a social session that I may be unused to having only provided incalls / (sparsely) outcalls up to now?

If you’ve been providing a social aspect to your bookings what are the things most commonly expected by clients, before during after the booking? By which I mean before are they usually willing to pay a deposit, do they expect full on action when in public ?

Basically if you have experience with providing incalls and social meets what’re the things you’d suggest keeping an eye out for, the very basics I should expect to have expected of me.
I hope this makes sense. It is 4am haha. Thanks xx

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Re: Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« Reply #1 on: 28 June 2019, 09:35:54 am »
Depends on what it is and what you consent to.
Do you mean dinner or other events eg clubs?
Not sure there is a common thread with socials.
I ask exactly what is required, if it's my cup of tea I accept.

I've attended an award dinner for the client's industry, and was required to be pleasant and chat with his employees, no sex.
Also gone to a film premiere, no action afterwards, some nice chat with his colleagues in the movie.
Other social events eg dinner, overnights.... action is after the dinner which is usually leisurely 2-3 hours.
Oh I went to a nawty sauna a couple times with a client and chose what I did. No direction from him.

I've been invited to fetish clubs which I go to anyway....but their expectations were unrealistic,
with loads of specific scenarios and silly low fees. So I haven't accepted.

I haven't been asked to do public displays on jobs we're just a normal couple.
I use my normal vetting procedure as it's pretty strict.
I have never asked for a deposit.
Hope that helps?
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Re: Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« Reply #2 on: 28 June 2019, 10:16:15 am »
Well with incalls you'll be having sex within 5 mins of the booking starting.
With social meets it will be about 2 hours, which is boring as fuck.

Most inquiries for social meets will be TW. Always get a deposit.
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Re: Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« Reply #3 on: 28 June 2019, 10:20:38 am »
Social meets I need to have an itinerary partly my security, partly so I can set price, partly so I can make sure the activities are compatible for example I don't drink and not interested in being with someone who is wanting to get squiffy.

I currently use a deposit system for all first bookings with all new clients incall or outcall, and sometimes the second if they mention it or there's significant travel or have cancelled within a certain number of bookings. I also now take deposits for all tour bookings.

Basically I want to know when, where, how long for (doesn't have to be to the minute!), roughly where we are going.

I have had bookings in which there's a large social component, gone to see a show, concert, others which we were alone in a hotel room but mostly talking, lying in bed, watching TV not a lot of actual sex action.

All are great so long as I have a rough idea so I can plan, some of that planning is my nutrition because I had a specific diet to follow much of the year and only a bit of room to relax with that other times. One guy on hearing I was bringing my own stuff, took a cue to bring his own and we had a little 'picnic' in our room.

I have had coffee meets now these aren't so clear and I would encourage you to check out everything before hand. The problem I found is that the person expected me to put hours on hold in case he decided he wanted to go back to mine for incall time, so £50 coffee charge meant I was turning away full price bookings for the remainder of the time I had available. Then there was getting back to my place ok only a 5 minute walk but chatting, etc starts to add up. Then when does the incall paid time start, we had to sort money, when does it end.

A few similar experiences combined with the turning full price bookings away, resulted in me deciding to charge my full rate for any time booked based on the time and potentially distance I would travel.

With a bit of practice it might work, but as you can start to see it was a bit stressy and vague. I find it far easier to have a package agreed in advance, not on the hoof or on spec.

With the coffee then back to my place option I also found security is also a consideration, for example when letting an incall in you are behind a door which you can close. When with someone coming back to my place the person may be behind you, and in my opinion it's difficult to defend yourself from behind (I have practiced a martial art which involved escaping attacked from behind but I still don't like it). Remember you'll be the one putting the key in the door, and that's the moment I felt/feel very vulnerable.

My current location makes coffee and back to mine almost definitely an impossibility these days, it's too indiscrete/too local. I might consider it when touring but as above I'd want a definite outline rather than 'look see'.


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Re: Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« Reply #4 on: 28 June 2019, 10:21:23 am »
Well with incalls you'll be having sex within 5 mins of the booking starting.
With social meets it will be about 2 hours, which is boring as fuck.


Most inquiries for social meets will be TW. Always get a deposit.

Not necessarily.

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Re: Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« Reply #5 on: 28 June 2019, 11:30:37 am »
Not all in call meets result in sex in first few minutes, in my experience anyway.  Yes if a half hour booking but longer bookings and some men like to lead up to sex with talking and cuddling and teasing etc.

I can not comment on the social meetings as dispensed with those a very long time ago.

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Re: Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« Reply #6 on: 28 June 2019, 12:36:21 pm »
Thankyou all for your replies!! Helpful as always ! :)
I’m marketing it as a structured meet, an amount of time for ‘bedroom activities’ and the rest for the more social part of things. Set price. Strict boundaries for behaviour outside the room.
Added a touch of sweet to the wording (I hope at least) to appeal to someone looking for an evening of company, go for a walk, film, bar for a drink ( I don’t drink either!, but I’d be happy to have a Diet Coke while they had a beer or whatever, within reason).
Something with slightly a ‘personal’ touch. If I’m honest it’s as much for me as it is for the potential clients. I think this in and out incall system (not quite revolving door but it’s almost feeling that bad haha) has me down on the dumps plodding through working days, feeling a bit disconnected to the whole thing.
So thought I’d add in a taste of fresh air for myself whilst still getting paid ;)
Thanks again all of you xx keep the advice coming, lord knows I need it !

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Re: Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« Reply #7 on: 28 June 2019, 04:01:58 pm »
I have "dinner dates" set up on my site just for this & they're quite specific. The 3 hour booking says 90 minutes public time, 90 minutes private time, the 4 hour is 2 & 2. Anything more than that is a case by case basis.

I'm very strict on the timing with these, i.e. if dinner takes 2 hours, you're only getting an hour back at the hotel with me, bc it's a 3 hour date. Had 1 guy ask a few months back if I could extend ~ & was willing to pay ~ but he was hammered & I wasn't interested in sticking around with his drunk ass🙄.
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Re: Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« Reply #8 on: 28 June 2019, 10:59:27 pm »
I'd say ir's always best to be very specific on what your social time does and does not include.

I offer dinner dates, like others here, which is a set time for public and private time. I make it clear that there I to be no public displays of affection, particularly as my clients are considerably older than me - it makes it too obvious. One client, whom it was very clear was not a personal date, tried to kiss me when I got up from the table to go to the bathroom. I was mortified and spent the rest of the evening with everyone at the surrounding tables sniggering and whispering, which ade me feel very uncomfortable. So I tell them straight - absolutely no affectionate shit, which I know kind of goes against the whole "companion" thing, but I don't care.

I have one social client in particular that I have seen almost weekly for 4 years and we've never had sex. We will either stay in and blether for a few hours or go on little trips, cook together, go for walks etc. Today we spent 3 hours in the parks just walking and chatting. It was lovely.

My social only time is cheaper than my full rate and sonetimes I do get a little resentful that I turn away full rate bookings for social bookings, when sometimes the social booking is more mental effort.

But other times it's a welcome break from being naked.

So swings and roundabouts.

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Re: Incalls // social meets. How do they differ.
« Reply #9 on: 28 June 2019, 11:09:32 pm »
I'd say ir's always best to be very specific on what your social time does and does not include.

I offer dinner dates, like others here, which is a set time for public and private time. I make it clear that there I to be no public displays of affection, particularly as my clients are considerably older than me - it makes it too obvious. One client, whom it was very clear was not a personal date, tried to kiss me when I got up from the table to go to the bathroom. I was mortified and spent the rest of the evening with everyone at the surrounding tables sniggering and whispering, which ade me feel very uncomfortable. So I tell them straight - absolutely no affectionate shit, which I know kind of goes against the whole "companion" thing, but I don't care.

I have one social client in particular that I have seen almost weekly for 4 years and we've never had sex. We will either stay in and blether for a few hours or go on little trips, cook together, go for walks etc. Today we spent 3 hours in the parks just walking and chatting. It was lovely.

My social only time is cheaper than my full rate and sonetimes I do get a little resentful that I turn away full rate bookings for social bookings, when sometimes the social booking is more mental effort.

But other times it's a welcome break from being naked.

So swings and roundabouts.

I’m hoping to attract a couple per month day as a break also.
I’ve set out boundaries, no heavy petting outside the room that kind of thing.
Thanks for all the tips and advice!! I need of if those ‘escorting for dummies’ type books hahaa. Xx