Hey girls

So I'm living with my boyfriend. I met him as a client but never charged him as I knew I liked him. Its been a year but 2 months in, we met his ex on a night out and she came back to his, I left and then found out 6 months later she had stayed in his bed but apparently nothing happened. He then messaged her again after hinting about an after party at hers. He started begging me to give this up and then I found out he paid to sleep with another escort behind my back but he says it because I'm doing this. He has always used escorts in relationships. He then went on a 4 day bender in London and swears nothing happened
 
I love him but don't think I can trust him girls. I don't want to give this up for a man who cheats and isn't financially stable. But I can't keep doing both

I'm 29, if I walk away from this industry, do I have more time to be able to come back in a couple of years or am I silly to give this up for a man who has already lied and cheated?

I can't believe he had his ex in his bed and didn't sleep with her.. and why beg me to give this up but go and sleep with another escort?

Every time he gets drunk he says we should get an escort.

He's put such a thing in my head about doing this but truth be told, it's saved me when he's broken me.

Thanks girls xx

Ps. Always looking for more friends. X

Your just a free shag to him. Sorry. Ive caught feelings for a client in the past and its usually always a bad idea to express those feelings. He sounds like a twat and doesnt sound like he has much to offer you apart from sex and you can get paid for that. Im sure youll look back on this time of your life and think wtf was i thinking xx

Oh my girls


This is the first time I've not felt alone in months!

I want time to learn to love myself and financial freedom to decide what I want to do in years to come when I have the choice.

I thought it was my job fucking my confidence but its him isn't it.

To top it off, he also googled escorts when he was on a vender in London and said he was checking i wasn't working there. I feel like I've been lied too this entire time and to make it worse I wasted my entire first years money on him.

Anyway, I appreciate you ladies so much. My number is [removed] and I'd love to hear from you ❤️

I know lovely

I think that's why I now think so low of myself. Which is right where he wants me because I'm then unable to my job and tied to him!

He even said when I get deployed, let's just have a hall pass!

Bambi I've removed the phone number from your post - it's a public board and whilst it isn't against the rules I don't think you need all and sundry being able to contact you claiming to be a SAAFE member (or even a sex worker, or even a woman). If people here want to get in touch they can send you a PM

This isn't about your job. This is about whether you want to be in a relationship with a lying, cheating man who has no intention of stopping - you deserve a faithful partner and sex work (which presumably you're doing to support yourself, not for the fun of it) doesn't affect that at all.

Geez... What are you doing? 🤦🏽‍♀️ I wanted to tell you some HARD TRUTHS But upon rereading ur post, I decided it's best life to teach you the lessons you need to learn. For you to grow up to become the woman you need to be. As I'm surprised at 29yrs old woman-- a man is using ur head to play football
But I'll rest my case here.

Thanks girls

I appreciate all your honesty ❤️

I'm an old lady
and doing this for 30 years.
I've seen a lot.

trust me.
Leave - run - don't look back.

You might feel like you love him

but soon you will realise you had a lucky escape.

He is controlling and manipulative. Possibly a narcissist. Definitely not to be trusted.


I have seen this before.

Absolutely seconding this^. I don't post here often but really needed to chime in here. Do not ever give up your job and financial freedom for any man - especially not a man like this one. Guard your independence and do not let it go. He will continue his behaviour regardless of whether you quit escorting for him or not. At least if you keep the job, he cannot fully control you.
Men like this very rarely change, and they leave a lot of damage in their wake. When people show you who they are, believe them.

Run. Do not let him ruin your life.