hello everyone, i am 32 and have a meeting with a agency on Wednesday. really want to go ahead with it i hope they take me on. i am pretty enough but concerned about scars on my arms from self harm from a few years ago. do you think this is going to be a problem?and what about faint stretch marks? everyone seems to have flawless skin!!

everyone seems to have flawless skin!!

This is good lighting, makeup and Photoshop. Nobody has flawless skin in real life, I promise you! Even in my candid pictures (ones I take at home for my Adultwork private gallery in case clients fancy seeing the natural me), I obviously don't choose ones where the lighting makes me look washed out - this means I have to take about five pictures to get a good one, mind, but I'm not photogenic and clients always tell me I look surprisingly decent in real life.

So please don't worry that you won't match up to the army of flawless bronze goddesses that escorts can appear to be if you've been browsing agency sites (indie escorts are more likely to ask for less photoshopping on their pro pics because we are more concerned about clients being disappointed upon meeting us, cos we have our reputations to protect etc) - nobody looks like that in real life!

I do work on my body (eating well and occasionally even exercising! ) so that I feel confident when working but there's absolutely no point my trying to hide my real shape or size so I generally don't worry about it at all. Men like all different sorts of women so there's a niche for skinny, for curvy, any extreme and anything in between. If you work independently, you can market your unique qualities and personality just as much or even more than you market your looks and services, but if you join an agency you'll likely just end up with some super-'shopped pictures like the others on the site because they tend to be much less good at marketing their girls as individuals. "You want blonde or brunette?" is usually about as in-depth as they get!

Apologies for this off-topic reminder, but have you read other posts on this forum about what to expect when meeting with a potential agent? You must remember to keep your standards high and do not accept any nonsense from them. Also, please make sure you've got your own security organised as agencies have higher priorities than your safety - they want you to earn them money, first and foremost. It's hard to call an agent and tell them you want to leave a booking because the client's stinky/mean/rude, for example, but if you have a real friend you can call and who knows where you are and when you should be finished, you'll have some genuine backup and support. Most essential in this biz.

What they said, really. Clients you would actually want tend to be grateful that they have a real person prepared to be sexual with them rather than having a magnifying glass out looking for pores that are bigger than they like. A few will find a reason to complain about everything, usually to cover up their own inadequacy, and I am sure that everyone has been described as too big by some and too small by others.

Without knowing how good a job you did of making them, the scars could be as much of an issue as you make them. They could be commented on, and it's a good idea to think about what to say. Be positive - you're happier now and I know some very successful and sexy people whose arms look like someone has practised cross-hatching on them.

Don't forget too that clients can have big scars &  can be very self conscious about them,  it's just part of life & being human! You can always wear those long fingerless gloves on bookings if you are overly self conscious but men are men & lets face it they don't notice much...lol

Hi Hettie
I agree that confidence is the key, and that your clients wont notice anyway - but if you are having a moment of wobbly confidence then a dress like the one in this link might help. I have some lingerie that is similar and it kind of covers me, but shows a lot too. Clients love it
R xx

http://www.annsummers.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplay_et!letc~ev!39326||et!letc~ev!10210||et!letc~ev!46975||_40151_-1_10210_98259_10001_

I tried veilcover it does cover things but is full of nasty chemicals..

http://www.live-naturally.co.uk/article/Parabens-and-their-effects

thanks again! got the job! he asked about the scars and said he had seen them in my pics. but i told him  i would get them covered for work. so all seems fine i hope. gonna order some makeup next week when i get paid from my day job as a teacher ha ha! if only they knew.
how much advance do they normally give you for your first job? xx

advanced notice. yes i have to get the cash. just wondering, as i my hours are all weekend but my mother is ill and i said i would visit her, but she is a couple of hours away. can i just ask at this early stage not to work sunday for example?or must i be ready for a call at anytime during the weekend? bit confused? and dont want to start demanding on my first weekend.  a whirl wind of confusion, excitement and nerves not to mention a million lies! need to practice some memory techniques to remember what story i have told! lol xx