That is the most difficult part of this job, the emotional part, it takes it toll on you after awhile. But you learn ways to cope with it that aren't destructive.

Nicely said Jo.

But...right in the middle of this sentence (not sure if it's the same in the UK) I thought, here you have to be 21 to rent a car, but only 16 to drive? Where does this come in at? Maybe we could see it the same way.

Just in aid of cultural information exchange: UA in Britain you cannot get a full drivers license and drive until you are 18, anyone that has a full drivers license can hire a car. I think at 16 you can get a license to ride a moped and at 17 you get a provisional/learners license, but you can't drive without an experienced acompanying you.

The only reason I would say is because I think the worst part of doing this is the fact that one has to understand to not take rejection personally.

I agree and double that.
My recent background is in customer service, which is where I discovered that I can distance myself from rejection and abuse and actually found it easy.
I don't think that that will be enough in this business though, as we ourselves are the commodity here and a rejection of our product is a rejection of ourselves. I had a timewaster who told me I had no business advertising on PBE as I didn't have huge boobs and being fat without 'big knockers' is not what a bbw is about. I know he said it because he was p***d off that I wasn't playing his game, but I did hurt - but I managed to deal with it.
So - a really thick skin is recommended and the knowledge that for every bad egg there are good and nice people out there.
 

I agree...and yes it is more of a personal rejection. Its different than a customer or a phone client yelling at you (a mere stranger) than someone making comments directly at you. ITS ABOUT YOU! 

In the midst of being adored by these perfect strangers who all seem to love us...there's those few people who may cancel bookings, end bookings early...and so on. I've had rare occasions where someone ended a session with me for no apparent reason. Some people say, "as long as you got paid it shouldnt matter"....but in truth it does matter to me because it feels like rejection and you dont want it to happen again.

Cassie,

That's really spitefull, what a wanker. By the way , I looked at your website and you look great -very sophisticated

LD

Fair enough regarding how to phrase any advice, and yeah the main thing is that this is a site where ladies hopefully get information to avoid a lot of pitfalls in the industry.  Partly, my exasperation was due to actually a knee jerk reaction of how dangerous it can be for any lady to not do her homework.  I get quite frequent emails as probably do many of you ladies of women of actually different ages who want to know how to get into this business.  Always find it a bit odd as I personally would not approach another lady and research the net in general but I reply with a link to SAAFE and mention different boards.  I may be at times outspoken but unlike a lot of ladies who remained silent as usual, I also gave my total support and spoke out on other boards when posters with their own warped agenda tried to attack SAAFE.       

For the age issue - yes personally the idea of a young lady working in this industry aged 18 sits not entirely well.  My personal concern would be that they may have never had a chance to experience an equal normal sexual relation ship and may develop a very warped and skewered view of all men.  However, I do have to respect their right to do what they are legally entitled to and cannot patronise them like a lot of female politicians aim to do.  It's hard to issue a blanket ban on anyone working that young as some ladies are much more mature than others and I have encountered ladies my age who seem not ready for this work.

As for the rude caller - any abuse about our appearance does sting but while this is not really a consolation I am just glad you did not actually meet this guy and perhaps avoided a very volatile situation.  Although it sounds like it was a typical time waster who was upset that you did not indulge him and who subsequently lashed out.  Most ladies I know cannot avoid feeling a little low when there are no bookings as it sort of does knock our confidence even subconsciously.  So a nasty caller probably will effect us even more.  Just hope you will experience the usual Ying and Yang of nice clients to compensate. 

I know in future I will have too be more? lets say,  professional then that, bookings, checks, buddy?s (I?ve studied the keeping safe section just now) and I know that it wasn?t that wise of me too do that now he could have been anyone but it was my first time so I?ll learn!!

xoxo J

Damn right you need to be more professional about it.  Security is key, especially when starting out.  Ive only been doing this a couple of months and i still get caught out by the timewaster phone calls and the twats emailing me, i wouldnt even think about going anywhere with a guy if i couldnt let someone from my network know what was going on.

Not only could that guy have been anyone, pissed, drug fu**ed or anything else, he could have also laughed in your face and gone and told everyone in the room what you do to earn money.  You need to realise the stigma that is attached to this job title and know that you might not care right now what people think but when your 28 or 38 or 48 and people in your home town are pointing and saying 'thats the one that was a whore' you might regret it.  your family and friends might not be so cool about it either, lots of people can get hurt if rumours about you are being spread and you might need to think about them too.  Think long term, its so important.