Author Topic: I want too become an escort! (Read 15556 times)

Roxy · « **on:** 20 November 2008, 02:03:01 pm »

I only decided recently that this is what I wanted too do, I?ve done lots of research and found this site which is amazing, good job ladies!

I was wondering if anyone had any tips for me on how to get kick start obviously I have a lot of plans myself so far, but I'm just looking for some input.

I am Roxie, 18 years old from Newcastle, England. I am a down-too-earth, I am a good listener (and talker). funny and witty chic. I love socialising, partying, dancing and travelling.

I have dark hair, bright Blue eyes, great curves, 34E; I am 5'6 and 10 stone.

I want too be an independent escort?I am young and clueless about the whole biz at the minute but I?m willing to learn, I?ve had my fair share of dates and sleezeballs, so why not get paid for it lol?

Also ladies, do you have ?stage names? or do you use your real names?

What are your rates? Do they depend on your looks or?.

Thank you for your time
xoxo

BurlesqueHoney · « **Reply #1 on:** 20 November 2008, 03:45:13 pm »

If you are thinking of becoming a hairdresser ? would you think it to be enough to post on a hairdressers? forum, then sit back and expect others to do all the ?work? for you?

You are an adult - so act like one! Take charge or your destiny and actually do some research and leg work yourself and not just post a blanket appeal for all the information to be presented on a golden plate! Most of your general questions seem to be covered on the main site ? so just read it from top to bottom first. The ladies who wrote it ? really put a lot of time, effort and great amount of care into dealing with each aspect of the industry. I think it is a bit ignorant not to take the time in turn to read all the comprehensive information first! Don?t be so lazy ? if you are indeed hoping to become an independent escort then you have to consider it to be akin to running your own business. That means finding out about each aspect by yourself and not to rely on others to provide all the information on your behalf. If you want to know what people charge then Google other escorts and agencies in your area and do some market research.

Maybe I am grumpy old moo but I reckon that while this and other forums are there to give support, there is a limit and really everyone needs to get of their backside and actually at least make some effort to read up and gather as much info. Do you want us to organise the clients and bookings for you too, and even shag them for you while we are at it? I am not normally this grumpy and really happy to help with specific situations and problems but I cannot stand lazy people who want to earn loads of money by taking shortcuts on the back of other people.

UrbaneAspects · « **Reply #2 on:** 20 November 2008, 06:16:22 pm »

Gees Honey, easy on her! LOL, she's just asking!

But I do agree, when I first came into this, I didnt even know of any forums. In fact, I didnt even know what a forum was. Then again, I never 'chose' to do escorting...escorting chose me. Literally. One day I met a guy and few days later he'd given me hundreds of dollars, and I met him with no intention of escorting, it just happened. Turns out, he hires escorts all the time!

Of course, after that I went on with my normal life, but a year later I met someone else who just decided to pay me for sleeping with him...and from that point on I stuck to and learned the most from experience.

Yes, you can speak with escorts on a forum, but the only way you'll really learn is from experience. What do you think we did back in 1752 when there was no TV, internet, cell phones? Dont rely on a forum to see you along. Its great advice, good when you have questions, but its in no means a way to get it going.

Also I notice you're 18, which is a bit young. Are you still in high school or you just graduated? My 1st experience in this came at 19...with actual doing at 20. but if I had advice, I think 18-19 is too young as one day a client may want you to go to resturaunts and have drinks one day and if you're underage, they may be turned off. Or, they may want to sit at home and to drink a glass of wine solo because you're too young, will also turn them off.

lexienight · « **Reply #3 on:** 20 November 2008, 09:12:03 pm »

She is legal to drink here sweetie, our legal age is 18.

I cant really comment as i have never met you but i'm affraid i cant help feeling that 18 for most people would be too young. I'm 32 so im already a cynical old cow, i would hate for that to have been accelerated by this profession. However, like i said, i havent ever met you so its not easy to say. I will say that if you have been watching Secret Diary of a call girl and think its going to be like that then forget it.

Now, Honey has been a tiny bit harsh on you but she is right. Advice is freely given to those who ask for it on this site but everyone kind of expects you to have done the leg work first. You say that you have done your research but many of the questions you have asked are answered on SAAFE and many have been subjects of posts on the forum. Just have a good read through and then come back with anything you dont fully understand.

And yes, we do use 'stage' names. I'm not sure that every escort does but i think its safe to say the majority do. this is something you would have know if your research had been thorough. I'm not having a go, i just know that when i started a little while ago i felt much better and safer for having done research for months before actually launching myself in to this strange world. Research, research, research... its key.

Really think about what your doing, who your likely to do it with and the repercusions if your friends and family find out. dont rush in to it whether your 18 or 48.

Good luck

BurlesqueHoney · « **Reply #4 on:** 20 November 2008, 09:27:36 pm »

Ladies, yes you are right I have been quite direct and harsh but this is about taking responsibility and is not like some TV show. Doing so little legwork by omitting to do thorough research is really quite risky in our line of business too. This is not about setting up a shop, laying back and thinking about [insert your country] and watch the [insert your currency] rolling in.

And I am happy to support and be a buddy but this is only to ladies that actually think this decision through and really do spend some time and make an effort to read up. Every question asked is answered on the main site and really this ought to be the first stop and even we all can do with reading up occasionally. This is a serious business - if you want to work as an independent escort than you have to do similar market research and work on a business plan just like many other self employed people. Surely, if you want to open up a flower shop - you would not expect other florists to answer all your questions and hand you a working, marketing and business concept. You'd be expected to work out local prices and work out who your client?le might be etc

cassie · « **Reply #5 on:** 20 November 2008, 09:47:01 pm »

Hi Roxie,

I understand that you are young and feel insecure and want help and encouragement, but the best way to do this is to form a plan based on your research and then ask concrete questions based on the areas you are uncertain on.

To be honest i too get the impression you are approaching this with the rose tinted 'Belle de Jour' - if so think again and get as much information on the harsher realities involved.

I don't think you can have researched very much as the basic questions you have asked such as rates, how they are derived and 'stagenames' are things you should have caught on to just by information gathering by looking at escort sites, reading books and even watching Belle De Jour.

At the end of the day I personally think that if you need to be taken by the hand and guided through step by step this is not the right job/environment for you and for your own protection I want to dissuade you for going down this route as you could come to serious harm or be exploited.

Anyway, despite our harsh treatment, if you have a particular question don't be afraid to post it, we really are a nice bunch and are happy to help. Good luck.

UrbaneAspects · « **Reply #6 on:** 20 November 2008, 11:27:51 pm »

Quote from: Roxie. on 20 November 2008, 02:03:01 pm

I only decided recently that this is what I wanted too do, I?ve done lots of research and found this site which is amazing, good job ladies!

I am young and clueless about the whole biz at the minute but I?m willing to learn,

May I dig into this a bit further? you say you've done lots of research but are clueless to the biz? Either you havent done any research or you are being hard on yourself and actually have enough knowledge to get you going. You just have to jump in the water! (without drowning)

By the way, I never seen this secret diary of a call girl but I YouTubed it and it looks ridiculous. Makes it seem you have to be perfect perfect perfect. And it all looks too calculated.

LiverpoolJenny · « **Reply #7 on:** 20 November 2008, 11:31:41 pm »

Quote from: cassie on 20 November 2008, 09:47:01 pm

I don't think you can have researched very much as the basic questions you have asked such as rates, how they are derived and 'stagenames' are things you should have caught on to just by information gathering by looking at escort sites, reading books and even watching Belle De Jour.

Totally agree.

Roxie, as Burlesque Honey has pointed out, there's loads of info on this site. I found it invaluable when I was starting out and there is no doubt that it answered my many questions. But you need to read the site for yourself - sit down with a cup of coffee as suggested, take your time and do your research. There's no shortcut, I'm afraid.

lexienight · « **Reply #8 on:** 21 November 2008, 06:20:36 am »

Quote from: UrbaneAspects on 20 November 2008, 11:27:51 pm

By the way, I never seen this secret diary of a call girl but I YouTubed it and it looks ridiculous. Makes it seem you have to be perfect perfect perfect. And it all looks too calculated.

I wouldnt go so far as to say it was calculated or ridiculous (no more so than any other tv series), its just a tv show based on a book supposedly written by a london escort and so it is sugar coated for entertainments sake. I think its quite good watching really but i expect thats because i dont take it too seriousy, i dont watch it like its research (which i suspect could be what jessica might have done??? ) I think it would be easy to watch it as an 18 year old and think 'wow, i can get paid ?3000 to have sex with men, brilliant!!' Hopefully she and other newbies (much like myself) will find this site and others similar and then really start to do the research before coming to a decision they may quickly come to regret.

lexienight · « **Reply #9 on:** 21 November 2008, 06:49:18 am »

also, some of you probably remember a few weeks ago there was young girl called emilly (i think)who kept coming on the forum every couple of days asking the same questions and blatently asked someone to do the research of local parlours for her. She eventually had a few harsh reality checks posted to her but im not sure even they were not always as harsh as this and definately not as fast. I think if you read jessicas post she is just being vague rather than lazy, she even admits she is clueless and wants help. I dont think she is asking anyone to do it for her, just point her in the right direction.

I just think if i was jessica and that was the response to my first post i might run a mile and not come back and I would hate the thought of an 18 year old out there making mistakes and not feeling their questions are valid. I can understand the response, i expect if you have been around long enough it gets more and more frustrating reading what seems like clueless posts.

So Roxie, i hope you dont run a mile, I do think you should think REALLY hard about what you are considering doing, do some more research (including having a nosey around the websites of WG's in your area for rates etc) and then come back with specific questions.

brandy@saafe · « **Reply #10 on:** 21 November 2008, 07:01:19 am »

Quote from: Jessica. on 20 November 2008, 02:03:01 pm

I only decided recently that this is what I wanted too do, I?ve done lots of research and found this site which is amazing, good job ladies!

I was wondering if anyone had any tips for me on how to get kick start obviously I have a lot of plans myself so far, but I'm just looking for some input.

I am Jessica, 18 years old from Newcastle, England. I am a down-too-earth, I am a good listener (and talker). funny and witty chic. I love socialising, partying, dancing and travelling.

I have dark hair, bright Blue eyes, great curves, 34E; I am 5'6 and 10 stone.

I want too be an independent escort?I am young and clueless about the whole biz at the minute but I?m willing to learn, I?ve had my fair share of dates and sleezeballs, so why not get paid for it lol?

Also ladies, do you have ?stage names? or do you use your real names?

What are your rates? Do they depend on your looks or?.

Thank you for your time
xoxo

Roxie.
Forgive me if I sound patronising. But please make sure that this is what you want to do. The telly makes this job look easy and it isn't really. It takes more hard work than one would imagine. I also think you're a bit too young to be jumping into this business, it can be mentally debilitating. But I also do recognise that there are mature 18yr olds out there.

If you have thoroughly thought it out then read this 10 point guide: http://www.saafe.info/10point.htm
Read the rest of the main site, search through the forums here using the search facility, and if after all that and you think this is a job you can take on, go for it. Ask any other questions that you don't feel is covered on here.
Good luck.

PS. Don't sign up to any "agencies" that ask you for money up front. Have a read of Scamblog: http://www.saafe.info/scamblog/

Welsh Lass · « **Reply #11 on:** 21 November 2008, 09:07:05 am »

Hi Roxie,

Honey,
That first post of yours was really not very nice.
Roxie was asking for advice and I have read other new girls posts on here that are far, far worse than hers.
This is exactly the place to come and ask for advice in the way Roxie has done.
It was exactly how I started out. I came here, I asked basically what Roxie asked, I got some advice, went off and read about things, thought about things, came back and continued on asking advice and am happy to say I am now a busy and happy in my work.
If she can not come here and ask for advice, where do you suggest she goes? We can point her to the right information here, the correct information, and we should be doing it in a kind tone, not attacking people in the manner your post was, had I got that when I first came here asking for some help, I would have made a terrible mess of things probably.
This is not a chat room - this is a site for advice and support.

Roxie - at 18 years old, you might be a little young to be considering this, but, as we do not know you, you might be pretty mature for your age, I agree with Brandy's post just before this one, read all the information here, google things as much as you can, and think very, very hard about the ramifications of this on your 'regular' life. The lies to your family and friends, the whole way your thinking and outlook will change once you begin this way of living. The fact that you will meet men you have zero tolerance for in normal day life yet will have to treat with kindness and yes, actually sleep with them and treat them as if they were the best thing since sliced bread.
Think of how you plan to watch your back, keep yourself safe.
There is no way to say this without sounding patronising and I don't mean to come across that way, think about your reasons for doing this.
Are you mentally and emotionally strong enough to earn your living this way as it is my experience, personally, that mentally I am more exhausted than physically, it takes a lot out of you to be charming and lovely and hold conversations with your clients, the physical side of this, I personally find very easy in comparison to the whole 'act' we have to put on sometimes.
There is a business side to this, you have to learn that also, how to advertise yourself, how to make your business work, how to cope when you have a quiet week, how to pay your tax and keep accounts and so on.
There are many other considerations also so please think carefully about your feeling you would like to do this.

Please do think about it all and if you decide this is for you, your quite entitled to go ahead and do it. Keep on coming here and asking questions if you can not find the answers another place. We will help you as much as we can do. You have to do the majority of the legwork yourself, yes, but there is nothing the matter with asking for help and this place exists to give help.
Good luck and please don't be put off posting here if you need any advice.
Jo

BurlesqueHoney · « **Reply #12 on:** 21 November 2008, 03:41:03 pm »

Joanna ? yes, my post was not very nice but meant in earnest and at the very least I actually bothered to respond. For absolute ages no one took any notice of the OP ? it was viewed loads of times but no one took the trouble to post a reply before I stuck my oar in. So at the very least I got the ball rolling. I cannot comment on your first foray on here, as I did not read it. But for a start even at the top of this forum section there is a polite request to go to the main site to read through all the ample information provided. This is an invaluable resource, which I have and still use extensively and always recommend to anyone else. And this is a forum that seems to combine some really great chat with a lot of advice. I am happy to give and seek. But there is a difference when someone has not even taken the very first and basic steps to read through what is there.

Niceness is all very well but this is not some glamorous TV show but reality. Someone who does not even do the most basic reading up on all the tips and information already provided may also take a similar negligent approach to safety and common sense. Are you going to be there to hold her hand if she gets hurt and also protect here from all the more unsavoury stuff? I may be grumpy but I would rather give this young lady a sharp shake and urge her to do her homework for her own well being! So by all means continue your lovey dovey group tittie hugs but there is a difference between seeking help for concise issues and not bothering to really think things through! The latter can lead to disaster!

And yes she might be very young or too young by some consensus. But the law says she is old enough to do this, to vote and do a whole heap of other stuff, including drinking. It isn?t up to me to determine her emotional age or readiness. Regardless of anyone?s age this is a big step and we need to embark on this kind of work with all the research and as much information as possible. There is no quick fix but any newbie should be taking the time to read this and other forums as thoroughly as possible. And as I commented before, anyone seeking to enter a business or work self employed would be expected to do their homework and would soon be rebuffed if they just went on a board and asked their peers to hand them information in a small digestible morsel without doing any legwork! This and other businesses are far too complex to be answered in one blanket thread! There are loads of ladies with genuine queries and concerns and I would be as happy to try and pass on any info I feel might be useful.

Anika Mae · « **Reply #13 on:** 21 November 2008, 04:23:47 pm »

Quote from: BurlesqueHoney on 21 November 2008, 03:41:03 pm

But for a start even at the top of this forum section there is a polite request to go to the main site to read through all the ample information provided.

Actually, I just added that today. It occurred to me that people like Roxy may be coming straight to this forum from a google search or something, in which case it's not that obvious that the forum isn't the focus of this site.

brandy@saafe · « **Reply #14 on:** 21 November 2008, 05:33:51 pm »

Quote from: BurlesqueHoney on 21 November 2008, 03:41:03 pm

Joanna ? yes, my post was not very nice but meant in earnest and at the very least I actually bothered to respond. For absolute ages no one took any notice of the OP ? it was viewed loads of times but no one took the trouble to post a reply before I stuck my oar in. So at the very least I got the ball rolling. I cannot comment on your first foray on here, as I did not read it. But for a start even at the top of this forum section there is a polite request to go to the main site to read through all the ample information provided. This is an invaluable resource, which I have and still use extensively and always recommend to anyone else. And this is a forum that seems to combine some really great chat with a lot of advice. I am happy to give and seek. But there is a difference when someone has not even taken the very first and basic steps to read through what is there.

Niceness is all very well but this is not some glamorous TV show but reality. Someone who does not even do the most basic reading up on all the tips and information already provided may also take a similar negligent approach to safety and common sense. Are you going to be there to hold her hand if she gets hurt and also protect here from all the more unsavoury stuff? I may be grumpy but I would rather give this young lady a sharp shake and urge her to do her homework for her own well being! So by all means continue your lovey dovey group tittie hugs but there is a difference between seeking help for concise issues and not bothering to really think things through! The latter can lead to disaster!

And yes she might be very young or too young by some consensus. But the law says she is old enough to do this, to vote and do a whole heap of other stuff, including drinking. It isn?t up to me to determine her emotional age or readiness. Regardless of anyone?s age this is a big step and we need to embark on this kind of work with all the research and as much information as possible. There is no quick fix but any newbie should be taking the time to read this and other forums as thoroughly as possible. And as I commented before, anyone seeking to enter a business or work self employed would be expected to do their homework and would soon be rebuffed if they just went on a board and asked their peers to hand them information in a small digestible morsel without doing any legwork! This and other businesses are far too complex to be answered in one blanket thread! There are loads of ladies with genuine queries and concerns and I would be as happy to try and pass on any info I feel might be useful.

The time it took for a response is irrelevant. It happens here. This is a small forum and it doesn't have a steady stream of posters on here at all times of the day. I know there are lurkers though.

I do appreciate you taking the time to respond. You replied only as Burlesque Honey can. I'm not sure you gave the OP so much of a sharp shake than have her running for the hills,lol. There could've been gentler ways to tell her to do her own research, but I bet you know that.

As for the way the advice is given on here, I'm sorry that you don't agree with the "lovey-dovey group tittie hugs". It's not always the way, sometimes I do get carried away myself. But isn't advice advice, no matter how it's meted out? Does it make it any less valuable? Do you think everybody needs to be screamed at when they first join? Do you reckon that fits into the credo that Saafe works by? If it did there wouldn't be any new ladies posting asking for help and advice. It would kinda defeat the purpose.
There are ways of getting your point across without feeling that you have to "shake sense" into people.

There is a happy medium to be had and I'm happy to work on that.

See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

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