Ok just a quick exclamation...Dont you hate it when people dont make specific times for plans! here it is around 8 pm on a Saturday fucking night. I have a regular who has made a booking for tonight earlier this week, for the evening. So far so good right? WRONG ! Problem is, I have no idea what time we going to meet!

Then, I have a date afterwards tonight with a guy who I told him to confirm with me by 10pm if he's going to go or not. No word yet! Then, I have another friend who wants to go out, but I dont know what to tell him because if I dont do this booking then Im not going out! Then, I had another friend who called me wanting to pick me up, but I already told him I have plans for tonight....but if the other plans fall through then Im going to be stuck because I already told a 5th guy that I have plans tonight! AHHHH 

People just dont like to make specific times these days. What the hell? You have cell phones, PDA's and shit, use them!

Its not about that. I had already made a time with this person to call me around 5 or 6 to make the damn appointment time. I had already went over this a couple times. And then I had emailed him and he says he was waiting for me to call him? Bad communication! I told him I dont fucking call clients for bookings its the other way around.

Dont start this shit Saturday, dont fucking start this with me today please!

It is hard to draw that line, when you're really hoping for a booking that night and relying on it if you've done something naughty like spent money before you've earned it , then one comes through but you don't get the confirmation. You end up thinking, "What if I just somehow missed the confirmation? What if this is just a silly mistake?? I can't afford to lose this booking!" and all sorts of thoughts that, later, when you feel calmer, seem pretty negative.

Joey, I seriously don't want to seem like I'm poking into your private life or trying to do that thing where people 'therapize' people they don't even know! So please only take this as the vague suggestion/idea it is, specially since it's based on my own mistakes and no one else's. But anyway, I'm wondering if maybe not taking care with your finances is adding unnecessary stress to your working life? I know that when I've been "relying" (AKA desperate for cash!) on a booking in the past, I'm not in the right state to make sensible decisions about it. Such as, if I don't get a confirmation at least 90mins before the booking (that's my personal rule because I have to allow 60 mins for travelling into central London if I don't want to be getting totally sweaty en route ) then sod it. It's out of my mind and I take other bookings or make other plans.

Forgive me if I've missed anything important that you've said. I'm only trying to say something hopefully helpful because it does sound like you're going through some trying times at the moment and I think even at the best of times, escorts can often become severely worried about not earning enough (for now, or for the future, or whatever you can think of to worry about!) and you need to be putting your physical (and mental!) health first before clients and the whims of the business.

Hope things improve this weekend

Hi,
Agree with Emily.
At Christmas, due to one thing and another leading up to Christmas I had to rely upon bookings to pay for the Christmas gifts for my offspring! It was not a nice few weeks as the panic you feel when you get a cancel or the wait for the confirmation..... Terrible.
I couldn't do anything about the situation, I had to pay out for a lot of things right before Christmas so I had no choice but to rely upon bookings to finance the event itself.
I did pull it off, but the stress of it all was huge.
Now this year, forget that happening again! I am squirreling away everything and have been from January 1st. Unless I need something badly, like car tax/MOT and so on, my earnings don't get touched after regular expenses and bills. They will sit and they will wait for when they are needed as I don't ever want to be put through the frustration of a cancellation when in my head, that cash was spent.
I have taken a cold, hard look at things and I don't need anymore clothes, underwear, shoes and so on. Not for a year anyhow. I can wear for a year merrily what I already have now. So I simply don't go to the shops except for food. I have frozen my credit cards with the peas! I will not go online, I don't care how good a sale is.
I am treating it as an experiment rather than a deny myself.
I want to see what I can achieve in a year - let's see what I can do in a year. If I do very well and I keep to it, I will get that new wall mounted Tv to free up space on my living room floor in the next January sales. So what if it's 12 months away. A year goes very fast you know, that's what I tell myself. And I have wanted to get one of those Tv's for ages as I have a tiny living room and need the floor space....
With this mentality, I had 2 cancellations this week - the pressure is off me. I am not cussing over them at all. I simply wait for the next call or mail.
Some clients don't understand we have lives away from escorting Joey. Some of them seem to think we sit, all togged up and wait for their call/arrival and don't need proper notice, just a vague idea, like, I will call you on Tuesday, let you know what time I will be by - well great, but, that means I turn down another booking perhaps while I wait for your call? No, I don't think so. Try and pin them to a time always.
And calm down, you always seem so frustrated and hoping mad...
x

I'm not blaming you Joey but your OP made it sound like you had just arranged to meet a client and not confirmed times.  infact the Thread is called 'i need specific time-frame...' so you can see how i misunderstood that.  

You dont do incalls do you?  SO where do you go?  Do you meet at their houses/hotels or do you book the hotel?  And do you do to check they are going to be in the hotel before you leave?  We cant get to the bottom of the problem if we dont know the details, and i think a little while ago you told us you dont get full names and you dont call the hotel to check they are there.  is that right or am i thinking of someone else??

I have sometimes had guys call, say "I'll be in your area Thursday, so will call you in the morning/when I get to town", ok - so does that mean you want an appointment? "I'll call you in the morning"........in the meantime I've accepted definite appointments for definite times that day.........50% of the time the guy doesn't call, 50% you get an angry voicemail (because you are in an booking when they call) "I'm in town, why aren't you answering your phone?".

So, make it clear what the rules, times are and that if they don't book you will let them know when/if you can see them - when and if they call.

"call at a specific time" is more for my clients benefit than anything - it gives a clear time I can speak to them and am able to give them my full attention. Often the times when guys have said they will call at a very vague time i.e. in the morning/afternoon/Thursday etc (for appt or otherwise) they've have then called at a random time when I've been with a client, booking or been doing something incompatible with using a mobile!

That's why it's best to just get on with your day as usual, if he calls and you are free then great - if not you have a life and business to be getting on with.