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cassie · « **Reply #15 on:** 01 March 2009, 01:28:11 pm »

Ladies, I think you should calm down a little, before you embaress yourselves!

Ok, so Joey is hot, but he is young enough to be a son to most of you, he is gay and most of all he is a mate.

Look on it this way, if this were a gang of guys and he was a girl, everyone would be outraged at their behaviour and though I am not opposed to the occaisional letch and tease, this is getting a bit out of hand.

Sorry, on the offchance of offending I had to say it. $:-\$

Anyway, the only person on here who stands a chance with joey is bennyboy.

anonymoussw · « **Reply #16 on:** 01 March 2009, 02:03:08 pm »

Quote from: cassie on 01 March 2009, 01:28:11 pm

The only person on here who stands a chance with joey is bennyboy.

It's a nice idea, but I think the Atlantic would have something to say about that

Nell2 · « **Reply #17 on:** 01 March 2009, 11:49:04 pm »

Quote from: cassie on 01 March 2009, 01:28:11 pm

Ladies, I think you should calm down a little, before you embaress yourselves!

Ok, so Joey is hot, but he is young enough to be a son to most of you, he is gay and most of all he is a mate.

Look on it this way, if this were a gang of guys and he was a girl, everyone would be outraged at their behaviour and though I am not opposed to the occaisional letch and tease, this is getting a bit out of hand.

Sorry, on the offchance of offending I had to say it. $:-\$

Anyway, the only person on here who stands a chance with joey is bennyboy. ;}

Please tell me you are joking!

Surely the comments are taken as they were meant - as a joke!!!!! Joey knows us well enough to know we are jesting and I really have to say I do not agree with the point you raise at all.

I don't actually want to "stand a chance with Joey" - I have been joking and am sure Joey has taken it in the manner it was intended. If you read any of my previous posts about or to Joey, you will note that I have always spoken about him with the respect that he deserves.

Whether he is gay, or young enough to be my son is neither here nor there as this was purely a joke, nothing more, nothing less and I am sure Joey thought the same.

brandy@saafe · « **Reply #18 on:** 02 March 2009, 06:59:54 am »

Quote from: cassie on 01 March 2009, 01:28:11 pm

Ladies, I think you should calm down a little, before you embaress yourselves!

Ok, so Joey is hot, but he is young enough to be a son to most of you, he is gay and most of all he is a mate.

Look on it this way, if this were a gang of guys and he was a girl, everyone would be outraged at their behaviour and though I am not opposed to the occaisional letch and tease, this is getting a bit out of hand.

Sorry, on the offchance of offending I had to say it. $:-\$

Anyway, the only person on here who stands a chance with joey is bennyboy.

What the hell?....Joey's got a big enough gob on him to speak up for himself. If he's felt uncomfortable enough in any way I'm sure we would've heard about it by now.

I'm fully aware he's gay, you'd have to be blind not to realise that. And I'm also fully aware that he's only 21. As Alex says that's neither here nor there because I see him as nothing other than another member of this forum, a valued one. 'Though I do remember not so long ago when some people on here were ganging up on him, trying to get rid of him. Twice. If anything I feel a little protective of him because of how he's been treated on here in the past. One thing I detest is the mob mentality. Not to mention some of the bad choices he's admitted to making in his work.

And regardless of age, and if this were the case here (which it isn't), men have been "letching" over women for centuries, including those young enough to be their daughter. I have no problem "letching" over men. As long as they're over the age of consent. And I've had customers young enough to be my son, but at the end of the day, they're not.

Welsh Lass · « **Reply #19 on:** 02 March 2009, 08:18:09 am »

Brandy and Alex -
Violette threatened to spank Joey before and I asked if I could watch! Can I watch you both as well please? Can I ? Can I?
Cas - we all love Joey on here. He seems all out there on his own, perhaps that's just the perspective of distance from us lot, America to Britain, but he oozes the come and mother me appeal some guys have, gay or otherwise.
I shall come and spank you if you don't lighten up Cass!
In fact, spanking all around! Immediately!

If/when I go to America again, I want to go visit Joey to give him a great big hug. I think your lovely Joey, now please take the cash upfront and don't make us all book flights to come over there and hunt you down. If you carry on with such extraordinarily naughty behaviour Joey, I shall do my bad mother bit and you will be grounded on the naughty step until you have thought about what your doing!
x

anonymoussw · « **Reply #20 on:** 02 March 2009, 09:17:19 am »

Wow

Drama!

brandy@saafe · « **Reply #21 on:** 02 March 2009, 11:15:08 am »

Quote from: Joanna on 02 March 2009, 08:18:09 am

Brandy and Alex -
Violette threatened to spank Joey before and I asked if I could watch! Can I watch you both as well please? Can I ? Can I?

Ha! You're on.

cassie · « **Reply #22 on:** 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm »

I know it was/is all in fun, but I felt it was starting to go a step too far, as nearly every thread with him was ending up like this.
Many cases of 'harassment' start out as innocent jokes, as a young friend of mine can attest to, his female colleagues were having a laugh with him and he took it in good humour at first, but when it became the norm he started to feel uncomfortable with it, but didn't want to speak up as he felt it was silly of him to do so and also didn't want to upset the women involved as he knew they meant it affectionately.

I am not saying this is happening here and I am not defending Joey, I am not saying he is embaressed, I was trying to say I was getting that way.

I know this will spark controvosy again, but I can't help but notice that, you all got your knickers in a twist about the age and gay thing, the 'most importantly a mate' part has not been referred to, which when I said most importantly I mean most importantly.

I am not trying to stop your fun, it is a free world and forum and will butt out in future.

The last line about standing a chance was an attempt to lighten the whole thing hence the '

' smilies and I think Bennyboy got that bit.

Forgive me for having an opinion and feeling a little sensitive to this and feeling the need to voice it. $:-\$

A grumply old woman called Cassie

brandy@saafe · « **Reply #23 on:** 02 March 2009, 02:46:09 pm »

Quote from: cassie on 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm

I am not saying this is happening here and I am not defending Joey, I am not saying he is embaressed, I was trying to say I was getting that way.

Maybe that's what you should've said in the first place. Instead of telling me to calm down before I embarrass myself.

Quote from: cassie on 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm

Many cases of 'harassment' start out as innocent jokes, as a young friend of mine can attest to, his female colleagues were having a laugh with him and he took it in good humour at first, but when it became the norm he started to feel uncomfortable with it, but didn't want to speak up as he felt it was silly of him to do so and also didn't want to upset the women involved as he knew they meant it affectionately.

I am not saying this is happening here

Yes, you are. Because of your above example, you're making comparisons.

Quote from: cassie on 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm

I know this will spark controvosy again, but I can't help but notice that, you all got your knickers in a twist about the age and gay thing, the 'most importantly a mate' part has not been referred to, which when I said most importantly I mean most importantly.

I'll untwist my knickers enough to explain that, with no disrespect intended to Joey, I don't see him as a mate. At least not until I ever have the chance to meet him. I don't bandy the word "mate" about willy-nilly and I never view on-line personas as mates. To me Joey's a board member and fellow escort. Which is why I never referred to it.

Quote from: cassie on 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm

The last line about standing a chance was an attempt to lighten the whole thing hence the ' ' smilies and I think Bennyboy got that bit.

Yeah, I got the smilies. And the attempt to soften your post. But being called a letch and told to calm myself down this morning for fear of embarrassing myself, it was kind of wasted on me. Would you be in the mood to smile after that if you were me?

Quote from: cassie on 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm

Forgive me for having an opinion and feeling a little sensitive to this and feeling the need to voice it. $:-\$

A grumply old woman called Cassie.

Don't worry about it. You have your opinions, I have mine. We're bound to disagree at some point. That's what being on a forum is all about.

lexienight · « **Reply #24 on:** 02 March 2009, 06:14:42 pm »

I'm just going to add a little something here, dont shoot me for it!!

Im not a big fan of flirting on Saafe, it just doesnt really feel appropriate place for it somehow. in places like SEP where escorts flirt with each other and punters on a daily basis, it makes me laugh but for some reason i just dont like seeing it here. Maybe thats just becasue it doesnt usually happen but hey, some people love a good flirt amongst friends so go for it. My main bug bear is that Joey is actually not a kid, he's a grown man. Gay, straight, black, white, american or British.... he is a grown man and i doubt (and i think he has said it before also), i doubt he needs mothering. that side of it i just find a little bit patronising. Having said all that, Joey isnt complaining and I doubt he will (we know you love a bit of attention good or bad!!

)

And one tiny last bit, actually we dont all love him. i dont hate Joey, he does my head in quite a lot actually but i dont hate him. I definately dont love him either. Yes there are some on here who have a soft spot for him but not everyone. Sorry Joey, Im sure thats mutual though so you wont mind me saying

Now, Ive added as many smilies and winks as i could without making this post look like a teenager wrote it but just incase it angers or upsets anyone i shall add the following as spares and you can just pop em in if you need to. xx

cassie · « **Reply #25 on:** 02 March 2009, 06:57:12 pm »

Quote from: brandy@saafe on 02 March 2009, 02:46:09 pm

Quote from: cassie on 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm

I am not saying this is happening here and I am not defending Joey, I am not saying he is embaressed, I was trying to say I was getting that way.

Maybe that's what you should've said in the first place. Instead of telling me to calm down before I embarrass myself.

I agree maybe I should have though more about the way I worded that and again apologise for that part.

Quote from: brandy@saafe on 02 March 2009, 02:46:09 pm

Quote from: cassie on 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm
Many cases of 'harassment' start out as innocent jokes, as a young friend of mine can attest to, his female colleagues were having a laugh with him and he took it in good humour at first, but when it became the norm he started to feel uncomfortable with it, but didn't want to speak up as he felt it was silly of him to do so and also didn't want to upset the women involved as he knew they meant it affectionately.

I am not saying this is happening here

Yes, you are. Because of your above example, you're making comparisons.

I beg to differ, I am comparing it and saying that I don't think it is the same, moreover I am trying to explain my motivation for feeling unhappy about this and explaining how something harmless could easily get out of hand.

Quote from: brandy@saafe on 02 March 2009, 02:46:09 pm

Quote from: cassie on 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm
The last line about standing a chance was an attempt to lighten the whole thing hence the ' ' smilies and I think Bennyboy got that bit.

Yeah, I got the smilies. And the attempt to soften your post. But being called a letch and told to calm myself down this morning for fear of embarrassing myself, it was kind of wasted on me. Would you be in the mood to smile after that if you were me?

Understood and accepted, the reason I mentioned this was that someone read this part as an attack on them and i was just saying that it wasn't meant that way.

Quote from: brandy@saafe on 02 March 2009, 02:46:09 pm

Quote from: cassie on 02 March 2009, 01:16:12 pm

Forgive me for having an opinion and feeling a little sensitive to this and feeling the need to voice it. $:-\$

A grumply old woman called Cassie.

Don't worry about it. You have your opinions, I have mine. We're bound to disagree at some point. That's what being on a forum is all about.

Thanks, I agree to disagree.

We are all coloured by our experiences and are all sensitive to different issues in different ways.

Welsh Lass · « **Reply #26 on:** 02 March 2009, 07:46:02 pm »

I think Joey is hiding behind his couch till all this dies down!

It struck me while there are disagreements here, it has not turned into a cat fight. That I respect as so easily things turn that way, more so on a forum where there is no eye contact and tone can not be fully understood or recognised.

So, that nicely takes me back to the topic of the thread - thank goodness for Saafe as a place we can all meander along to.

lexienight · « **Reply #27 on:** 02 March 2009, 07:47:41 pm »

Quote from: Joanna on 02 March 2009, 07:46:02 pm

I think Joey is hiding behind his couch till all this dies down!

He'll be lovin it

Nell2 · « **Reply #28 on:** 02 March 2009, 08:49:04 pm »

Now I know why sometimes I leave this place and don't post for a while.

May I just point out here the following

Joey is not my "mate" - he is a person on a forum that I have some compassion for = why? Because he has been attacked verbally here and I feel somewhat protective over him - wrongly or rightly but I do. At 21 I don't think we are mature enough to have been round the block a few times, so whilst he is clearly a grown man, I think he would agree that knowledge comes with experience and age.

I have to confess that I don't think I was very pleasant to him when I first came across him, but when I discovered that he is only 21 and seems to not have much support over there, then yes I do feel for the guy and respect him as when he makes a mistake he will willingly come and open up to all and I have great admiration for that in him.

Secondly, I am offended greatly that a few jokes in a forum are seen as "flirting" - if that is flirting then maybe I need to go and have some form of relationship counselling because I never considered a one line joke or two to be flirting.

Finally, isn't it a shame that something that was lighthearted and jovial has ended up being ruined?

I was not going to bother posting as I am sure this is going to turn into one of those long and boring saga's that I witnessed here before and put me off coming here for a bit.

However, I have taken offence to it and therefore feel justified in saying so. I made a joke - I thought it was funny. Life should be fun and laughter and spreading joy amongst others - why do we need to be critical of each other? Why moan and groan about other people having fun?

What is embarrassing now I think, is any outsider, coming here and reading all of this will think that we clearly have nothing better to do than pick on each other?

Anyway it won't stop me having a laugh in future! Life is for living.

I used to have a tag line to my blogs on aw - maybe I should use it again - it was this : Spread the Love

Alex xx

lexienight · « **Reply #29 on:** 02 March 2009, 09:18:46 pm »

Oh ok, i take back the word flirt, i know its not serious 'phwoar, i fancy my chances with him' kinda flirting and i know its just jokey stuff. thats all i meant. it wasnt meant to offend. Like i said, you get used to seeing it on some forums and its pretty much normal to see it. Its just unusual on saafe to see is all i meant. it was just a comment, not meant to offend and certainly not meant to stir in any way. i shall crawl away now before i dig a larger hole!!

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