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TantricTease

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I have finally stopped offering penetrative sex and I’m a happy hooker again!
« on: 19 April 2021, 03:14:44 pm »
This isn’t a question as such and I don’t know if I’ve even put it in the right place but I no longer offer sex and I’m so happy and many men have texted me to let me know that they appreciate my honesty in that I no longer want to have casual sex.

I just CANNOT DO IT ANYMORE and as soon as their cock goes in me then I want it out, I even cried on a job a few weeks ago (early menopause) whilst we were having sex and he wasn’t happy about it but I told him that I have something written on my profile that states I won’t put up with penetrative sex for more than 15 mins and he told me he lasted 40 mins and I couldn’t help myself, and just cried and cried, it was awful and an out call!

I’ve had to drop my price by £20 for the hour and £10 by the hour, am I being fair to myself by lowering the price, or am I being unfair to the clients if I don’t? The thing is though is that 80% of my bookings are just oral and CIM and I can handle that, it’s easy and if you’re good at it then they will come and since I’ve stopped offering sex, then my oral just gets better and better...funny that!
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Re: I have finally stopped offering penetrative sex and I’m a happy hooker again!
« Reply #1 on: 19 April 2021, 07:48:09 pm »
You should never offer a service you're not happy doing; you'll make yourself miserable and unless you're a very good actress it will be reflected in the booking if you're unhappy.
As for rates- what you charge is up to you and no one else. Like you I prefer not to offer full sex unless it's with a regular that isn't hard work if you know I mean! I'd suggest asking the client to confirm what he wants during his appointment when you're arranging the booking ; that way you can ascertain whether or not he's actually bothered to read your profile and knows that you don't offer penetration- from experience it can be awkward if half way through the booking they ask for sex, much easier to confirm that they know exactly what's on offer beforehand.
Good luck x
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TantricTease

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Re: I have finally stopped offering penetrative sex and I’m a happy hooker again!
« Reply #2 on: 19 April 2021, 09:21:20 pm »
Thanks for the reply.

Do you think I should stick to my normal rates if they don’t take sex anyway, or will they obviously pretend and say they wanted sex just to pay my normal rate? If truth be told then I’m happy to offer £100 for an hour but oral and deep throat whilst I’m at it, is quite hard but I honestly cannot stand sex and I’ve low energy with MP anyway and I think it does show, and my acting skills at sex aren’t great, oral is fine as it’s my favourite thing to do in real life anyway.
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Re: I have finally stopped offering penetrative sex and I’m a happy hooker again!
« Reply #3 on: 20 April 2021, 01:03:46 am »
I would just have a flat, lower rate for oral etc. (but no PIV). It's what a lot of men are looking for anyway, so what you lose in income per booking you'll probably regain in volume.
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TantricTease

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Re: I have finally stopped offering penetrative sex and I’m a happy hooker again!
« Reply #4 on: 20 April 2021, 04:37:52 am »
Well I still do DFK, CIM, Swallow (discretion) RO and rimming (discretion) and to me, full penetrative sex isn’t worth much so I’m charging £20 less on my 1 hours and a £10 less on my half hours, 15 mins are just oral and cim anyway.

I’ll keep having sex with any regulars that do it but they’ve gotta be quick, and I mean 2-5 mins or I just don’t like it, can’t help it.

My SW friend was a bit like ‘wtf’ when I said I don’t offer sex now, and sort of made me feel like shit about it, but she’s been in the industry for about a fifth of the time I have and kinda thinks she knows it all.
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Re: I have finally stopped offering penetrative sex and I’m a happy hooker again!
« Reply #5 on: 20 April 2021, 05:16:54 pm »
TT, I know exactly how you feel.

The reason why I do I owo so as to limit fucking.  I don't even go anywhere near their balls and I still have clients that specifically come back for the owo.

I don't kiss them all.  But If I do, I kiss him like he's Peter Andre and not Roland Schitt that works wonders. 

Personally, I think men are being over serviced. 
« Last Edit: 20 April 2021, 05:25:05 pm by Saffy »
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« Reply #6 on: 20 April 2021, 11:21:39 pm »
I’m returning back to work at the end of the year and won’t be offering penetration anymore either. My services were predominantly massage & penetration, majority of time spent on the massage but I did have clients come purely for massage and happy endings so i do know there’s a decent market for just that - like you, I am reducing my hourly and 30 min rate. I’ve had many returning clients pay my previous rate but not want penetration but I feel I’d rather reduce anyway to attract more clients only wanting massage & hand relief.

I’ll be looking forward to starting back without sex!
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« Reply #7 on: 21 April 2021, 03:24:26 am »
Quote from: Saffy on 20 April 2021, 05:16:54 pm
TT, I know exactly how you feel.

The reason why I do I owo so as to limit fucking.  I don't even go anywhere near their balls and I still have clients that specifically come back for the owo.

I don't kiss them all.  But If I do, I kiss him like he's Peter Andre and not Roland Schitt that works wonders. 

Personally, I think men are being over serviced.

I'm not really sure what you mean by 'over serviced'? I think the main factor in being a 'happy hooker' is only offering services you enjoy or can at least tolerate, which is going to be different for all of us. I could never do CIM or anal, for example.
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Re: I have finally stopped offering penetrative sex and I’m a happy hooker again!
« Reply #8 on: 21 April 2021, 11:00:15 am »
Quote from: Saffy on 20 April 2021, 05:16:54 pm
TT, I know exactly how you feel.

The reason why I do I owo so as to limit fucking.  I don't even go anywhere near their balls and I still have clients that specifically come back for the owo.

I don't kiss them all.  But If I do, I kiss him like he's Peter Andre and not Roland Schitt that works wonders. 

Personally, I think men are being over serviced.

Totally agree on your feeling that men are being over serviced.
They are coming to expect every service they can think of or enjoy to be included in every SW's offering regardless of the price or their own personal hygiene, or in many cases, total lack of it!
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« Reply #9 on: 21 April 2021, 12:28:09 pm »
Quote from: Kay on 21 April 2021, 03:24:26 am
I'm not really sure what you mean by 'over serviced'? I think the main factor in being a 'happy hooker' is only offering services you enjoy or can at least tolerate, which is going to be different for all of us. I could never do CIM or anal, for example.

My take on what Saffy means by them being "over serviced"  Kay is that they have been spoiled by services that have crept in and been offered in recent years that were not offered some years back.
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« Reply #10 on: 21 April 2021, 02:08:24 pm »
Even though I’m finally glad to stop having sex then I’m pissed off that I’m having to lower my rates, am I being greedy? I mean £100 an hour is still shit hot cash but it irks me that I know it’s normally £120 and when guys only ever want oral with cim anyway and had no intention to have sex, then why should I charge them £100 when they were happy to pay £120 in first place?

I’m so confused but I’m not confused in saying that I no longer want to have sex with clients, I need an emotional connection to enjoy and I’ve tolerated it for years, shagging then that is, but I can’t any more as if I’m crying on a job in the middle of penetrative sex, then it’s obvious I have no control over my emotions regarding not enjoying it.

I’m in this job 100% for cash only but that’s starting to catch up with me now and I don’t want a break, can’t afford it and I like making “easy money”, it’s easy when you’ve been in the game a while as have I.
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Re: I have finally stopped offering penetrative sex and I’m a happy hooker again!
« Reply #11 on: 21 April 2021, 02:45:48 pm »
TT. Maybe keep your prices the same, empasise what you do in your blurb and see what happens. New readers will have no idea of your service or price history. I also have clients who pay full wack and eventually say, 'it's ok forget the sex'.

(BTW you can get hormonal meds which help make the meno seamless without the gremlins. No need to suffer. Just saying. :))
« Last Edit: 21 April 2021, 03:01:32 pm by saltysweet »
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TantricTease

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« Reply #12 on: 21 April 2021, 02:57:56 pm »
Quote from: saltysweet on 21 April 2021, 02:45:48 pm
TT. Maybe keep your prices the same, empasise what you do in your blurb and see what happens. I also have clients who pay the full wack and it turns out they say 'forget the sex'.

(BTW you can get hormonal meds which help make the meno seamless without the gremlins. No need to suffer. Just saying. :))
I don’t want HRT babe, all the symptoms come back again once you stop and mostly every woman that I’ve spoken to, whose been through it has advised to suffer it rather than delay the inevitable.  My antidepressants  help bring down my hot flushes (only certain SSRIs do and I’m on Fluoxetine which is one of the ones) and help with my moods, but I am quite emotional just now hence why I can no longer have sex with clients, I don’t want too anymore anyway and mostly all of my bookings are oral and cim anyway, and RO with DFK.

I’m gonna take your advice though and just stick to my prices without lowering them but I’ll make certain on the phone that they don’t want sex first, without mentioning my price drop just in case, it’s slightly sneaky but I also don’t want men wanting 1 hour oral only bookings as I do DT and I can’t do that for an hour, no fucking way, god I would rather make nothing!
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Re: I have finally stopped offering penetrative sex and I’m a happy hooker again!
« Reply #13 on: 21 April 2021, 03:18:20 pm »
Quote from: TantricTease on 21 April 2021, 02:08:24 pm
Even though I’m finally glad to stop having sex then I’m pissed off that I’m having to lower my rates, am I being greedy? I mean £100 an hour is still shit hot cash but it irks me that I know it’s normally £120 and when guys only ever want oral with cim anyway and had no intention to have sex, then why should I charge them £100 when they were happy to pay £120 in first place?

I’m so confused but I’m not confused in saying that I no longer want to have sex with clients, I need an emotional connection to enjoy and I’ve tolerated it for years, shagging then that is, but I can’t any more as if I’m crying on a job in the middle of penetrative sex, then it’s obvious I have no control over my emotions regarding not enjoying it.

I’m in this job 100% for cash only but that’s starting to catch up with me now and I don’t want a break, can’t afford it and I like making “easy money”, it’s easy when you’ve been in the game a while as have I.

I don't see any need to lower your prices, as you're offering OWO and CIM I'd say thats a good deal and as Salty says, new clients will never know it was any different.
I've noticed prices have been creeping up recently with many asking 140/150 an hour now and sometimes more so maybe point that out to any of your regs who have a moan.
I have a good many clients who don't get around to penetrative sex but are perfectly happy with what they have had and I would never dream of offering them money back.
Leave it as is for now and just see how it goes.
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« Reply #14 on: 21 April 2021, 03:24:07 pm »
Fallen Angel I will do and thanks, you’re so right that why should I lower my rates, I mean imo physically sex is harder work for me, you feel old going through the menopause so even in doggy then my knees are uncomfy immediately, and to be fair I’ve met someone out in real life and whilst it’s just casual, then I just wanna fuck him, he makes me horny and not many men are able too these days and I ain’t giving him and his tongue up!!😂😂😂

It’s been a LONG LONG time since I’ve had a good sexual connection with someone in real life and I can’t fuck for cash AND in personal life because I won’t be horny for personal sex and at this point in time, then I NEED a man in my personal life, he’s my sex toy and he knows it!! 😂😂
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