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[Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« on: 27 January 2020, 01:36:11 am »
Does anyone feel like this? I've been feeling like this a lot, when I leave my place I can't stand them, I'm very rude, but then I need to rely on then for income and this is making me want to rip all my hair out. I tried a mentorship with a company, I tried my best to get everyone to like me, the office games make me hate men and people even more. I feel so trapped. Has anyone experienced something similar?


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« Last Edit: 27 January 2020, 11:01:39 am by amy »
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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #1 on: 27 January 2020, 10:50:14 pm »
Does anyone feel like this? I've been feeling like this a lot, when I leave my place I can't stand them, I'm very rude, but then I need to rely on then for income and this is making me want to rip all my hair out. I tried a mentorship with a company, I tried my best to get everyone to like me, the office games make me hate men and people even more. I feel so trapped. Has anyone experienced something similar?


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Similar. I expend a lot of energy to demonstrate enthusiasm and interest during the bookings and there’s hardly anything left outside of work. In any other context I don’t look at them, talk to them, get irate if they try to chat me up at gym or pool etc. That might be one of side effects of prostitution or Sex work in general.

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #2 on: 27 January 2020, 11:00:36 pm »
Same here.  I put my head down when I walk past men now when the pre hooker me would like the wolf whistles etc, not comments but it was a wee ego boost to get a whistle, now I hate it.

I don’t think this is just limited to sex workers, lots of post menopausal women get this too, but being a hooker makes it worse.

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #3 on: 28 January 2020, 12:48:08 am »
No. I don't feel this way. I like most clients and have a mild interest in blokes. But I don't feel any generalised resentment. Love this job.
I can see how it can happen though.

We have the choice of who we select and reject which is a luxury most jobs don't provide.
Men in general haven't done anything bad to me so what's not to like? :)
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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #4 on: 28 January 2020, 04:37:07 am »
I only feel like this occasionally.

I try to concentrate on more wellbeing when I am going like this.  I book e.g. an extra massage, listen to music.  Anything to help me relax and unwind.  Watching Netflix.  Spending time in the green.  Enjoying the wonders of nature.

It is harder in the winter to keep our sanity intact though.

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #5 on: 28 January 2020, 07:35:06 am »
It can be so easy when only dealing with mainly men to accredit them with everything, I try to remember not to make generalisations and remember that every person is individual, women too make the same mistakes, can be disrespectful even  myself. Since being self-employed my behaviour towards others in business has changed, same with a particular sector I once worked in.

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #6 on: 28 January 2020, 07:49:32 am »
I love gay men and even straight cross dressers and most subs.

But it's the typical alpha males I hate with great passion ... probably due to my own civvy life experience with them  ::)

I actually love men who I feel no sexual interest from and I find that I subconsciously seek them out whenever I can.

I actually live in a gay friendly neighbourhood which makes it ideal for me to have male company without the hetrosexual shit :)
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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #7 on: 28 January 2020, 08:06:32 am »
I hate clients (not all but most) depending on how they treat me. But you love men who don’t pay for sex. Most men worth their salt don’t behave like clients do. A woman won’t meet a decent man in this game, everyone is out for themselves in this game, including us don’t forget.
Try not to let this job tar your opinion of all men.

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #8 on: 28 January 2020, 08:07:30 am »
*i love men who don’t pay for sex

TantricTease

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #9 on: 28 January 2020, 08:20:58 am »
I love gay men and even straight cross dressers and most subs.

But it's the typical alpha males I hate with great passion ... probably due to my own civvy life experience with them  ::)

I actually love men who I feel no sexual interest from and I find that I subconsciously seek them out whenever I can.

I actually live in a gay friendly neighbourhood which makes it ideal for me to have male company without the hetrosexual shit :)

I too like a man who has zero sexual interest in me;)

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #10 on: 28 January 2020, 08:47:38 am »
I too get how you feel. It can be easy to feel like that when some of the clients you see are horrible, smelly and are open and do not care about there wives there cheating on. Then you have the weirdos that deliberately waste your time.

I have to remind myself that not all men are like some of these clients and there is some good ones out there. The most selfish horrible ones are the guys that use a lot of sex workers and have unprotected services knowing they could pick up STI's and pass on to there wives if they had even a small amount of decentsy they would use protection for everything.

I have met a few decent clients though not many but they are out there occassionly.

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #11 on: 28 January 2020, 07:33:00 pm »
I became resentful before I quit full time.

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #12 on: 28 January 2020, 08:21:49 pm »
No hate but i hate being objectified

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #13 on: 29 January 2020, 06:37:49 am »
yes, completely
i am doing only cam for this atm. it is temporary maybe.
i really can not stand men in this moment, and honestly for my mental health i avoid to escort lol even because it is slow...but many times i believe there are idiots. but i know it is not right to think so.
well we can live by extreme anyway. so listen your heart.

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Re: [Feeling as if] I Hate Men
« Reply #14 on: 29 January 2020, 08:08:07 am »
I'm not so much hating men as feeling bitter about the job, if that makes sense? x