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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: jellib33 on 27 January 2020, 01:36:11 am
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Does anyone feel like this? I've been feeling like this a lot, when I leave my place I can't stand them, I'm very rude, but then I need to rely on then for income and this is making me want to rip all my hair out. I tried a mentorship with a company, I tried my best to get everyone to like me, the office games make me hate men and people even more. I feel so trapped. Has anyone experienced something similar?
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Does anyone feel like this? I've been feeling like this a lot, when I leave my place I can't stand them, I'm very rude, but then I need to rely on then for income and this is making me want to rip all my hair out. I tried a mentorship with a company, I tried my best to get everyone to like me, the office games make me hate men and people even more. I feel so trapped. Has anyone experienced something similar?
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Similar. I expend a lot of energy to demonstrate enthusiasm and interest during the bookings and there’s hardly anything left outside of work. In any other context I don’t look at them, talk to them, get irate if they try to chat me up at gym or pool etc. That might be one of side effects of prostitution or Sex work in general.
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Same here. I put my head down when I walk past men now when the pre hooker me would like the wolf whistles etc, not comments but it was a wee ego boost to get a whistle, now I hate it.
I don’t think this is just limited to sex workers, lots of post menopausal women get this too, but being a hooker makes it worse.
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No. I don't feel this way. I like most clients and have a mild interest in blokes. But I don't feel any generalised resentment. Love this job.
I can see how it can happen though.
We have the choice of who we select and reject which is a luxury most jobs don't provide.
Men in general haven't done anything bad to me so what's not to like? :)
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I only feel like this occasionally.
I try to concentrate on more wellbeing when I am going like this. I book e.g. an extra massage, listen to music. Anything to help me relax and unwind. Watching Netflix. Spending time in the green. Enjoying the wonders of nature.
It is harder in the winter to keep our sanity intact though.
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It can be so easy when only dealing with mainly men to accredit them with everything, I try to remember not to make generalisations and remember that every person is individual, women too make the same mistakes, can be disrespectful even myself. Since being self-employed my behaviour towards others in business has changed, same with a particular sector I once worked in.
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I love gay men and even straight cross dressers and most subs.
But it's the typical alpha males I hate with great passion ... probably due to my own civvy life experience with them ::)
I actually love men who I feel no sexual interest from and I find that I subconsciously seek them out whenever I can.
I actually live in a gay friendly neighbourhood which makes it ideal for me to have male company without the hetrosexual shit :)
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I hate clients (not all but most) depending on how they treat me. But you love men who don’t pay for sex. Most men worth their salt don’t behave like clients do. A woman won’t meet a decent man in this game, everyone is out for themselves in this game, including us don’t forget.
Try not to let this job tar your opinion of all men.
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*i love men who don’t pay for sex
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I love gay men and even straight cross dressers and most subs.
But it's the typical alpha males I hate with great passion ... probably due to my own civvy life experience with them ::)
I actually love men who I feel no sexual interest from and I find that I subconsciously seek them out whenever I can.
I actually live in a gay friendly neighbourhood which makes it ideal for me to have male company without the hetrosexual shit :)
I too like a man who has zero sexual interest in me;)
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I too get how you feel. It can be easy to feel like that when some of the clients you see are horrible, smelly and are open and do not care about there wives there cheating on. Then you have the weirdos that deliberately waste your time.
I have to remind myself that not all men are like some of these clients and there is some good ones out there. The most selfish horrible ones are the guys that use a lot of sex workers and have unprotected services knowing they could pick up STI's and pass on to there wives if they had even a small amount of decentsy they would use protection for everything.
I have met a few decent clients though not many but they are out there occassionly.
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I became resentful before I quit full time.
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No hate but i hate being objectified
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yes, completely
i am doing only cam for this atm. it is temporary maybe.
i really can not stand men in this moment, and honestly for my mental health i avoid to escort lol even because it is slow...but many times i believe there are idiots. but i know it is not right to think so.
well we can live by extreme anyway. so listen your heart.
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I'm not so much hating men as feeling bitter about the job, if that makes sense? x
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I'm not so much hating men as feeling bitter about the job, if that makes sense? x
Why do you feel bitter about the job?
It may help to think of the plus points like being totally in control of who you see if you're indie. Being your own boss. Getting to work when you want and being able to have a life as well etc :)
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I think I'm just a bit worn down with it, I'm hoping to go back to being my own boss soon but currently I'm working in a parlour, which isn't ideal but suits my circumstances right now. I suppose everyone feels like that every so often :)
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Why do you feel bitter about the job?
It may help to think of the plus points like being totally in control of who you see if you're indie. Being your own boss. Getting to work when you want and being able to have a life as well etc :)
Without men we wouldn't have the custom, and the independence.
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That's a good point, and 99% of men are fine, sorry :)
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My thoughts on this one are that while I absolutely do not feel any kind of hatred towards men since doing this work I do have a different outlook compared to when I was just a civvy with no experience of being paid.
I used to think of certain men (relatives, high profile gorgeous fit blokes, gym bod and handsome men, older men who still have a wife after 40plus years and seem devoted and loyal etc) would not cheat or pay pro's because why on earth would they do that? but they are just as likely to pay us and not always because they have to but because they want to. Many of these men are in relationships and I even see their social media profiles with their partners and in laws devotedly praising them to god standard.
Before anyone asks why I would look at their social media I will say that before the data protection rules tightened up I could screen new men and search their phone numbers very easily and up would pop their facebk accounts. Currently I get a few men giving me their full and real names. I can google what the hell I want and do that. Surprising what emerges and I am a curious soul so if their names are linked to a sofa they want to sell on a local buy and sell site I take a little look. So much more personal info is easy to see.
How could I hate men when they have provided me with what I have now and that is a mountain more than I had 11 years ago!
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I tried a mentorship with a company, I tried my best to get everyone to like me, the office games make me hate men and people even more. I feel so trapped. Has anyone experienced something similar?
A toxic work environment will make you feel awful.
Good on you for leaving!
If you feel trapped, have you thought of other ways to supplement your income?
I only hate men who are misogynist, evil or prey on women. In my heart, I don't hate all men.
I'm quite fond of some clients. Although you hear me complain a lot about them...
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Some times if I'm having a bad day I think it god all men are wankers. Usually I'm lucky enough to then get a complete sweetheart who makes me think oh yeah not all men are dicks :)
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I love gay men!
Men can be bastards and women can be bitches.
I would try to focus in the good in people, both male and female.
All I would say that escorting does make you often hate men just because they come across as being selfish by paying for sex. Once the deed is done, they fuck off. We know the score by being in the business so maybe best not to dwell on the facts!
However, there are lovely men out there that do not fall into the above category, whether they pay for it or not.
One thought is, that the prison population is made up 75% men and 25% of women!!