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cecilia.chic

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I'm new - any first date stories?!?!!!
« on: 16 October 2008, 06:01:36 pm »
Hi ladies,

My name is Cece and I'm just starting out across the pond in Canada.  I have had one date so far and it was very nearly a disaster, but he ended up calling again anyway!

Do you have any advice to me as a newbie?  One thing that surprised me was how my date expected me to take the lead.  I thought he would very clearly say what he expected of me, so there were some awkward moments while I got my bearings and tried to figure out this type of mating dance!

I'll start seeing clients more regularly over the next week.  Can you give me some advice on protocol so I don't look like a novice?  I know to receive the money and count it upfront.  I need to know the things to do to keep the date moving along smoothly.

Any advice would be great.

Thanks!!!

Also,  care to give your first date stories, I'd love to hear them.
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Re: I'm new - any first date stories?!?!!!
« Reply #1 on: 16 October 2008, 09:35:16 pm »

Also,  care to give your first date stories, I'd love to hear them.

Hi Cece, welcome to Saafe. Hope you get a lot out of the site and enjoy it as much as I have.

My first experience was fantastic actually, and he has now become a regular and frequent client.  I have a lucky habit in these instances of when I'm nervous I crack jokes as though I am totally at ease and seek to make the person feel relaxed- Doing this kind of makes me feel in control I guess. So when I went for it I had him laughing and chilled out pretty fast and he never realized I was absolutely dying of fear or a complete novice.

He expected me completely to just do my thing, I've found this is common. I'm asked 'What do YOU want?' So I say what I want, and that is mostly what happens. so I just proceeded in the way that made the most sense, and it was swell. We chatted as well and got to know each other, and that really helps break the ice also. They can be just as nervous! You'll get a real vibe by reading as much of Saafe as you can. Also, it helped having had a chat with another woman I met via this site beforehand.

The best advice is just to read and research as much as you can- Are you all set on a security procedure? x Ev

cecilia.chic

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Re: I'm new - any first date stories?!?!!!
« Reply #2 on: 16 October 2008, 10:19:07 pm »
Thanks for your response. 

One thing I'm still trying to figure out are my boundaries.  How do you set them?  I thought I wouldn't give the GFE to every client, but I didn't see how I could avoid it with this first guy.  And I liked it.  He was nice, attractive so it made it better for me.

Do your boundaries change with different clients?


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Re: I'm new - any first date stories?!?!!!
« Reply #3 on: 16 October 2008, 10:42:07 pm »


 No one can tell you where or how to set your boundaries except you, you have to decide what you are comfortable doing and this is variable person to person. As far as health and safety boundaries go, again all i can suggest it to do some research :) And if you aren't comfortable with doing something just don't do it!

 I have based mine on my own comfort levels, wants, and health concerns. My boundaries are set where I am comfortable having them and that's where they stay, this doesn't change with the person or anything else. x

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« Reply #4 on: 16 October 2008, 11:09:05 pm »


 No one can tell you where or how to set your boundaries except you, you have to decide what you are comfortable doing and this is variable person to person. As far as health and safety boundaries go, again all i can suggest it to do some research :) And if you aren't comfortable with doing something just don't do it!

 I have based mine on my own comfort levels, wants, and health concerns. My boundaries are set where I am comfortable having them and that's where they stay, this doesn't change with the person or anything else. x

No matter what anyone tells you (ie: you'll get more business if you do x & x & x and so on), don't do anything you're not comfortable with, whether it's kissing, OWO or whatever.

I couldn't not do GFE because on the odd occasion I have taken bookings where the client didn't want any kissing (or even any talking/affectionate behaviour) I felt like a blow-up doll, and now avoid these clients wherever possible. I can't do PSE or roleplaying because I feel self conscious and ridiculous (I can't act either ;D). If you are uncomfortable with what you are doing it will show - don't worry about being firm on where to draw the line. I was asked about rimming (giving) in a polite and articulate email yesterday by a potential client who sounds very nice, but I won't do it and told him so. As long as you are clear about where your boundaries are from the start, nobody can argue the toss later on!

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Re: I'm new - any first date stories?!?!!!
« Reply #5 on: 16 October 2008, 11:14:58 pm »
I agree, clear boundries make things easier for you. You might need a little time to work out what you're comfortable with, but once you have, stick with it.

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« Reply #6 on: 16 October 2008, 11:19:51 pm »
You girls are great, thanks!!!

I wish I found this sight months ago, I could be giving someone else advice by now!

Keep the replies coming they are very helpful.

Another thing I wanted to know is whether I will need to get surgery to be successful.  I have a great face, great body but I am about as far from busty as anyone can be. ;)  I do have the J.Lo bum though.  Do all body types sell?


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« Reply #7 on: 16 October 2008, 11:29:21 pm »
Don't get surgery. The vast majority of clients I have met (and I know, it's easy for me to say at 34G) hate fake boobs. OK, clients who like busty women won't book you any more than clients who like slim 20 year old blondes won't book me - but clients who don't like busty ladies and prefer more athletic looking bodies will flock to you. Fortunately for me, there is also a healthy and thriving market for short, gobby, Northern brunettes with big boobs and little legs ;D.

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Re: I'm new - any first date stories?!?!!!
« Reply #8 on: 16 October 2008, 11:35:42 pm »
Great, that settles it!  I'm not a boob job kind of girl anyway, I really like my small breasts. 

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Re: I'm new - any first date stories?!?!!!
« Reply #9 on: 17 October 2008, 03:57:23 am »
Keep em if you love em.  I am a size 16 with 38 E boobs and i bloody hate them but the only way i will ever let a scalple near them is if they start to look like spaniels ears. 

As for first dates, mine was ony recently but it was about as perfect as it could be.  he booked for an hour, was passing through town and was his first time using an escort.  I'm a bit like Evie in that  i just totally faked my confidence from start to finish, unfortunately for the guys that means that i just talk shite and loads of it but it usually works for me.  he was nervous and quite young, id say about 25ish and the whole thing was over in 25 min.  i think he was a bit embarrased but said it was all he needed so off i went back to my car, straight to tesco for a bottle of wine and off to work for a couple of hours.  i too was lucky that one of the girls from saafe was my security so i called her as soon as i got out and had a chat about it like a couple of teenagers but to be honest i dont think the nerves went away untill i got to work and didnt have time to think about it. 

My tip, count the money infront of them but turn your back to them... so they dont see the nervous hands shaking :-)  I had to do similar when getting the condom open aswell.

Welcome CeCe.  like bet midler from beaches, i love that name. x


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Re: I'm new - any first date stories?!?!!!
« Reply #10 on: 17 October 2008, 03:05:32 pm »
Thanks, Lexie!

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« Reply #11 on: 17 October 2008, 04:39:46 pm »


Damn Lex, you've got some guns on you  :) You should really emphasise that fact, guys who love busty must go gaga for you!

I'm convinced my breasts are shrinking. I think it is more 36 C now rather than D, I fluctuate a lot through the month. This I dislike.

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Re: I'm new - any first date stories?!?!!!
« Reply #12 on: 17 October 2008, 06:42:15 pm »
yeah men love em, its me that hates them. 

To be honest tit men get a bit montonous, its like the first time they have ever seen boobs everytime you get them out... actually that bit isnt so bad  ;)

However, apparently many men think it is socially acceptable to stand in a bar, in a street. next to my mum.... and discuss the size of my ample boosom regardless of what im wearing and how i have them 'displyed'.  It can sometimes be a bit embarrasing and to this day i havent found a witty or scathing remark to make them understand they are embarrasing me and themselves.

You would be amazed at how many men (drunken i admit) feel that it is not just acceptable but actually well within their rights to reach out and grab my tits!!!! I have been bruised on a few occasions from it.

Ive never seen a really good boob reduction though so would never consider having that done and now that i have put some weight on i look a bit more in proportion so its not so bad.   Would be nice to be able to run though  :D

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« Reply #13 on: 17 October 2008, 07:01:05 pm »
yeah men love em, its me that hates them. 

To be honest tit men get a bit montonous, its like the first time they have ever seen boobs everytime you get them out... actually that bit isnt so bad  ;)


Oh my god this made me think of this: http://www.daniellecorsetto.com/GWS327.html

As for the touchers, you'd be surprised how much an atomiser of perfume in your bag will sting if it gets in your eyes. I'd go absolutely insane and go cage fight style.

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« Reply #14 on: 17 October 2008, 07:09:14 pm »
many men think it is socially acceptable to stand in a bar, in a street. next to my mum.... and discuss the size of my ample boosom regardless of what im wearing and how i have them 'displyed'.  It can sometimes be a bit embarrasing and to this day i havent found a witty or scathing remark to make them understand they are embarrasing me and themselves.

You would be amazed at how many men (drunken i admit) feel that it is not just acceptable but actually well within their rights to reach out and grab my tits!!!! I have been bruised on a few occasions from it.

Lexie, mine are three cup sizes bigger than yours and I don't get this! You need to go to some nicer places :D (and don't worry about running; be honest, how many people have you seen out jogging that don't look like tw*ts?)