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UrbaneAspects

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I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« on: 11 January 2009, 11:27:10 am »
Ugh! Im so pissed off right now. I just came back from a shitty night out with friends. Well how about a booking comes along and some potatoe head asshole comes talking shit in the background about how he's my boyfriend while Im on the phone and causes my client to cancel. Stupid dumb bitch. Now I have nothing to show for tonight because some asshole who I just met fucks it up for me tonight. For God sakes I havent had an hour booking since Christmas week. I so went off on the asshole and allmost beat the shit out of him!!!  >:(

UGH...let me elaborate. This dumb fuck was talking shit in the backgeound while im on the phone about how he wanted to do a 3som and asked my client (on the phone to do a 3 way) AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! iM SO Mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   :'( :'( :'( I cried all the way home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
« Last Edit: 11 January 2009, 11:32:31 am by JoeyR »

brandy@saafe

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #1 on: 11 January 2009, 01:18:38 pm »
Whilst I can understand and feel your frustration, why you brought your business phone with you on a night out I'm not quite sure.
You can't have it both ways. As you can see it doesn't mix. Either leave your work phone home, go enjoy a night out without worrying about taking business calls. Or don't go out and wait home for that last minute booking if that's the way you want to work.
Any type of noise in the background can put a client off. It's why I turn the telly/radio down as soon as my work phone rings. Not to mention it's unprofessional. Taking your phone on a night out with you when you have no control over your environment was a tad stupid.
Dry your eyes and take heed from last night's experience.

UrbaneAspects

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #2 on: 11 January 2009, 10:15:05 pm »
Exactly...and by that time it was already about 4 am or so and had quite a few drinks in me. It was just all wrong.

But then again, its like....Im thinking what can they expect when calling someone at 4am on a Saturday night? Im sure its not the 1st time this fucker seen my ad. They dont bother to call me earlier that evening to say they would like to meet later in the night. Instead they try to go out and pick up someone, doesnt work and THEN they want to call.

Im sure someone can say, well "you shouldnt of picked up the phone". Well its not that easy when you're low as shit and could use a booking like yesterday. The only reason I was able to go out was because I was being treated that night, and not by the idiot who blew off my client.

I know there's a hundred other things I could of done even while I was in the car that could have prevented it, which is also why Im so angry at myself too...

brandy@saafe

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #3 on: 11 January 2009, 10:31:16 pm »
If somebody calls you at 4am and you answer it, then you can't possibly complain Joey. It's not a situation exclusive to you or male escorts, guys call us at all sorts of stupid times too. The difference is I don't answer phone calls at stupid o' clock and I've had weeks in the past where I've been desperate for a booking, so I do understand and empathise with you. But I have my boundaries, and having them is what's kept me sane all these years. If you pander to guys calling you at 4am, then yes, it's going to drive you nuts and you'll most likely end up with a twitch.
You and I know that guys call at stupid hours because they have an immediate urge they want satisfying. But as I said before, you've got to decide what you want to do. Stay home and answer the phone, or go out and leave the phone at home. Or at the very least, don't answer the phone when you're in company. What were you thinking?

You need to find a balance so that escorting isn't taking away from your personal life. You're mixing the two and it's not going down very well, hence your frustration.

lexienight

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #4 on: 11 January 2009, 11:17:11 pm »
What would you have done if he had called early in the day?  Would you have taken a booking for so late at night knowing that he would most likely be pissed up by 4am?  See i wouldn't have.  I made the mistake once (i think id only done 1or2 bookings at the time so i was totally green) of accepting a late night booking but it turned in to nothing anyway.  And if you were already out i expect you had  a few to drinks by then so would you have felt safe going along to a new client without your full faculties in place? 

I'm with brandy on this one.  Night out or Work night,  the 2 dont mix in my world but thats because i choose to keep what i do secret from my friends.  If you answered the phone in a car with people in it, one of which you didnt know very well, then you must be pretty open about what you do for a living so mixing the 2 wouldnt be such an issue i suppose. 

Lets face it, it was likely to have turned in to a waste of your time anyway so forget it.  Is there anyone here who would have taken a 4am booking on a sat night?  (i think i know the answer but thought id ask anyway)  or is there anyone that would even accept a booking early in the day for a 4am sat night booking like joey suggests should have been done?

UrbaneAspects

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #5 on: 11 January 2009, 11:50:43 pm »
What would you have done if he had called early in the day?  Would you have taken a booking for so late at night knowing that he would most likely be pissed up by 4am? 


I would take it, but truthfully I'd probably not take it that seriously since it'd be so late. So chances are I'd still get wasted anyway.

See i wouldn't have.  I made the mistake once (i think id only done 1or2 bookings at the time so i was totally green) of accepting a late night booking but it turned in to nothing anyway.


and whats nothing? what happened?
 
And if you were already out i expect you had  a few to drinks by then so would you have felt safe going along to a new client without your full faculties in place?  Lets face it, it was likely to have turned in to a waste of your time anyway so forget it. 


Maybe you're right, but I have done 2 or 3 bookings around 3-4 in the morning on friday and saturday night and they turn out fine. But whatever, like Brandy said guess I cant have it all. I have several numbers in my phone everytime I go out and its sad to say Im no longer being able to remember who they are, and where I got them from  ???

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #6 on: 11 January 2009, 11:59:47 pm »
and let me just say something else. Of course with me being quite hammered, My friends who I was in the car with....one of whom was a former escort had presumed to egg me on to 'call him back', call him back! after he canceled because I was crying. And everybody knows how I feel about calling clients back. I dont do that shit!

But, my judgement was way off. I looked into my phone today and seen I called the guy back 3 times, and the last time was 30 minutes after he cancelled! And then they were telling me to "leave a message", which I did  :P Of course he didnt pick up. I made a total ass out myself.
« Last Edit: 12 January 2009, 12:02:53 am by JoeyR »

lexienight

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #7 on: 12 January 2009, 12:11:25 am »

and whats nothing? what happened?

Nothing happened, it was a TW.  I'm not going in to details, it was months ago so i can barely remember but it was just a timewaster who took the piss out of a newbie.  Nothing unusuall there really and it wont happen again.

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #8 on: 12 January 2009, 12:18:36 am »
Joey, joey, tut,tut.
I'm not going to repeat anything Brandy or Lexie said and you know yourself why all that went pearshaped!

All i can say is I keep work and private life completely separate, I was at a party last night, where we slept over and I did have my workphone with me, but it was on silent and I didn't check it until the next morning when I was alone. I don't take work calls in public whether it be friends or strangers around me.

Chalk it up as experience, learn from it and move on.  :)

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UrbaneAspects

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #9 on: 12 January 2009, 12:34:19 am »
 ;D.....oooohhh LOL. this reminds me of a time I used to work in a sales job over the phone for a company for 2 years.

One day, a co-worker had a definent deal come through on the other line, ready to spend somewhat of $700 dollars on a package where he'd make something like 200 dollars commission. Some airhead transfers the call to him, and in the background whispers, "get that mother fucker"....

needless to say the client heard, hung up and that was the end of it.

brandy@saafe

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #10 on: 12 January 2009, 07:08:59 am »


I'm with brandy on this one.  Night out or Work night,  the 2 dont mix in my world but thats because i choose to keep what i do secret from my friends.  If you answered the phone in a car with people in it, one of which you didnt know very well, then you must be pretty open about what you do for a living so mixing the 2 wouldnt be such an issue i suppose. 

It's not even so much that Joey's mates knows what he does for a living, it's the fact that they didn't respect his job enough at the time to shut up whilst he took the call. Either that or they were so inebriated they probably didn't have any recollection the next day. In either case it really wasn't a good time to take the call.


Lets face it, it was likely to have turned in to a waste of your time anyway so forget it.  Is there anyone here who would have taken a 4am booking on a sat night?  (i think i know the answer but thought id ask anyway)  or is there anyone that would even accept a booking early in the day for a 4am sat night booking like joey suggests should have been done?

Good god no. The latest I've ever taken a booking was for around 10-10.30pm, and that was with a long-time regular who's been seeing me more or less from the beginning. And his bookings are usually made a week in advance when he lets me know he'll be over to London on business.

I don't answer the phone past 10pm at night. Although saying that, there was one exception I made this past New Year's Eve. It was more to do with the fact that I was buzzing and awake approaching midnight and the phone rang at 11pm and I picked it up. It was a guy wanting an incall more or less right now. Obviously I couldn't accommodate and told him so. He said he'd call the next day (New Year's Day) for a booking, and he did!
This was one of the rare occassions when a guy says he'll call back for a booking and he did. And another rare occassion where I answered the phone after 10pm and it worked out.
But I put it all down to the atmosphere of the holidays. It's not something I'll be doing again.

and let me just say something else. Of course with me being quite hammered, My friends who I was in the car with....one of whom was a former escort had presumed to egg me on to 'call him back', call him back! after he canceled because I was crying. And everybody knows how I feel about calling clients back. I dont do that shit!

But, my judgement was way off. I looked into my phone today and seen I called the guy back 3 times, and the last time was 30 minutes after he cancelled! And then they were telling me to "leave a message", which I did  :P Of course he didnt pick up. I made a total ass out myself.

I think you can safely assume that you'll never be hearing from that client again.

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #11 on: 12 January 2009, 07:31:15 am »
I don't answer the phone past 10pm at night. Although saying that, there was one exception I made this past New Year's Eve. It was more to do with the fact that I was buzzing and awake approaching midnight and the phone rang at 11pm and I picked it up. It was a guy wanting an incall more or less right now. Obviously I couldn't accommodate and told him so. He said he'd call the next day (New Year's Day) for a booking, and he did!
This was one of the rare occassions when a guy says he'll call back for a booking and he did. And another rare occassion where I answered the phone after 10pm and it worked out.
But I put it all down to the atmosphere of the holidays. It's not something I'll be doing again.


Well thats good but i bet if you had not answered he would have left a voicemail or just called back anyway, the genuine ones do (look at me talking like i know what im on about!!!) lol

Ive had a few guys call late to make bookings but like you, if it wasnt pre booked in advance id be reluctant to go out late at night.  Especially in the winter months, maybe i wont mind so much in the summer??  i doubt it though, its still the drunken factor that would worry me.  Worked in to many pubs and bars over the years, i dont trust men when they are drunk, they too often loose all manners and respect (those that have them in the first place)

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #12 on: 12 January 2009, 07:39:06 am »
i dont trust men when they are drunk, they too often loose all manners and respect (those that have them in the first place)

I was on my way to a booking at 1 am the morning after Christmas. Guy tells me he was drinking with friends earlier. I told him, what does that have to do with me  ???  If anyone wants to lose their manners, I'll lose mine right along with them.
« Last Edit: 12 January 2009, 07:41:39 am by JoeyR »

brandy@saafe

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #13 on: 12 January 2009, 01:06:57 pm »
i dont trust men when they are drunk, they too often loose all manners and respect (those that have them in the first place)

I was on my way to a booking at 1 am the morning after Christmas. Guy tells me he was drinking with friends earlier. I told him, what does that have to do with me  ???  If anyone wants to lose their manners, I'll lose mine right along with them.

I guess it depends on how you want to be treated. I don't go to late night bookings anyway, and I would most certainly not see anybody who's lost their basic courtesy and their inhibitions have gone out the window, just because they've had a few drinks. Maybe it's because you're a guy, but as big and strong as I like to think I am, it's still not a situation I'd like to find myself in.

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Re: I'm fucking devastated! What a horrible night!
« Reply #14 on: 12 January 2009, 06:55:15 pm »
Maybe it's because you're a guy, but as big and strong as I like to think I am, it's still not a situation I'd like to find myself in.

oh well absolutely, I mean its just not the best position to be in. I was just using that story as an example. Turns out, he was much more nervous than anything else. Most of the time they are more nervous than threatening. But of course it may not always be the case and I dont want to be caught in a bad situation...

Anyways, Im still pissed off from that night specially since I havent taken a booking since then. No worries, next month all this will be behind me...or whenever the next call comes in   :(