Sorry if this is a bit longwinded and ranty, but I’m stuck in a situation which is slowly making me lose my mind, and could really use some advice…. I’ll try and keep it short and sweet, but I’m not quite sure how possible that is.

So everything seems to be falling apart right now for me. I’ve always had shitty luck with my immune system, and I’m poorly more often than not. I started escorting about a year ago, and I’d say I had to cancel at least 30% of all bookings that year. Every other week, I came down with something. Some things were small and just really inconvenient - early periods (despite being on the pill), colds, a sinus infection, the flu. But I also got stuff like a kidney infection, pneumonia that wouldn’t go away, and I had a cancer scare that turned out to be a parasite. I’ve been to the doctors about all of this, about my immune system, and about a number of other ongoing things, but nothing recommended has really helped.

Since October, it’s gotten ridiculous. It’s been one thing after another – cold, flu, pneumonia (which lasted ages,) early period, coldsore, and now I have thrush. Because I’ve had so much time off, I’ve lost most of my clients and traffic to my page (I’m on AW). I guess people have given up contacting me because they know even if they book me, I’ll probably be too ill by the time their session comes around. There are people I’ve cancelled on 4 or 5 times in a row now. My clients are disappearing and I’m helpless to it. I tried going back to work during parts of my illnesses where I thought I could, but I probably only managed about 4 bookings in total.

I have a booking tomorrow, and a fair few lined up for the days after that, but now I’m terrified that I’m going to have to cancel again. I still have thrush. I’ve been using treatments and it went temporarily then came straight back after a couple days. I’m so stressed out - I feel like a joke, cancelling every time, but I really don’t know what else I can do. I’ve offered oral-only sessions but people don’t seem interested.

What do I do? Should I cancel yet again? I’m so ashamed of the flaky reputation I’ve gained, and I hate just sitting here waiting for my body to fix itself. I’ve basically done nothing since October and I wish I could work because I’ve lost all my savings in the months I’ve had off. I was meant to move house at the end of this month but that’s not happening, and my partner can barely afford to pay his half of the bills, let alone all of them.

Ahhhh! Stress! Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do I handle this, and how do I keep money coming in, even if I’m not able to offer sessions? Everything is so overwhelming at the moment, and I don’t know how to handle it.

Just in reference to some of the illnesses you have mentioned as I was in a similar boat leading up to retiring. Have you been tested for either Diabetes or Thyroid issues as both of these can give you recurring thrush and also effect your immune system.

Poor immune system can be caused by stress, bad thyroid, diabetes, poor diet, vitamin defiency or other illnesses. here we can only speculate. Have you tried to go to your GP and tell him/her all this?  They will probably send you to get all sort of tests and get to the root of the problem.

Really sorry to hear your poorly. Unfortunately this job means we need to be up close and personal with people which means your going to catch cold etc. You sound stressed which isnt going to help, sounds like a viscous circle! How about you stop taking advance bookings and only accept bookings on the day. Dont advertise until you know your definatly up for taking them. Could save alot of cancelling. You dont need to explain to them but if you feel you need to you could just say you have a civvy job that you may have to go to on the day so you can only take on the day appointments

Thank you everyone for calming me down and helping me out x Honestly, it's been an extremely stressful few months, but this is making me feel a lot calmer.

 

sounds similer to my life , i have kidney failure and had parisites too 4 years ago and not beenright since!
 best i can say is when ill offer just massage and had relief!! or just 15 mins quickies to earn a little! xx

Thank you!! Taking your advice, I offered this to a few clients actually and managed to get an hour's booking today - just a relaxed chat and some oral - so that's a success in my mind x

Poor immune system can be caused by stress, bad thyroid, diabetes, poor diet, vitamin defiency or other illnesses. here we can only speculate. Have you tried to go to your GP and tell him/her all this?  They will probably send you to get all sort of tests and get to the root of the problem.

I've been to the doctors so many times, but they haven't really batted an eyelid. I'm going to be changing doctors soon though, so hoping they'll be able to check me over and help me out eventually. Tbf, I probably have quite a few vitamin deficiencies, and my diet is pretty bad (I never have an appetite and food makes me nauseous -  which I've also been to the doctors about)

+1
 You can always get more clients in the future. You only have one body.

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Thank you! This honestly cleared the head-fog up a lot for me xx

How about you stop taking advance bookings and only accept bookings on the day. Dont advertise until you know your definatly up for taking them. Could save alot of cancelling.

I never thought about that, but actually it's genius!! I may try this out, or maybe limit my advanced bookings to maybe 3 or 4 a week (just to keep myself accountable) and go with the flow for the rest of it  x

sorry your not well

and for being blunt but did you in the past or now offer bb service?

No, I've never offered bb, why?

I'm sorry to hear about this. I think I've been having problems with my health lately too, I'm starting to get some type of circulation problem, and I'm always stressed, I feel trapped and I honestly just hate people. I'm so defensive now, I hate everyone, and I hate being nice to people and men I don't like. I think it's slowly ruining my health but I'm not in a good place at the moment. I'm hoping to get a job related to my degree but it's been very difficult because I'm sensitive. And people can be cruel, and I can't picture myself trying incredibly hard to kiss someone's ass for some shitty entry-level job. I'm getting the worse anxiety, I hope that you feel better

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