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loveamber

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How would you reply to this client?
« on: 05 January 2009, 09:30:48 pm »

Hi everyone,

I saw a client a few weeks back for an hour and since then he has emailed me quite alot about another booking, although till now it hasnt happened for different reasons. In the emails he wanted details of what we were going to do next time etc and he said he wanted 'explicit details'
Obviously I didnt go into much detail as im not running a sex line, and hes not exactly a regular but I kept it polite and he now wants to book me again tomorrow. From reading this forum I knew that anyone who wanted details of what was going to happen is usually a timewaster, but as he had booked before im not sure I can call him that. Anyway when I asked him how long he wanted to meet for he replied with this


Amber you are so funny
 
It will only ever be for 1 hour - with you I could come after 2 minutes so why go for more?


Which I thought was quite rude. Im sure im being over sensitive as he probably thought that was a compliment but im seriously considering not seeing him again now as hes a bit of a pain really.

What would you reply to this, or would you just ignore it altogether?

Amber xx

Hermione

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #1 on: 05 January 2009, 09:48:44 pm »
Sometimes regulars get a sense of entitlement and think that the rules don't apply to them.  If he's wanting discounts, as he implies, I think it's best to kick him to the curb.  I'm sure you have other more dedicated regulars who pay the same fee every session without complaining.  Don't waste your time with this one. 

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #2 on: 05 January 2009, 11:33:46 pm »
Ah, bless him!

Amber, personally I honestly think he meant it as a compliment - ie that you are so hot he couldn't last any longer. He might also not be able to afford more than one hour at a time, but not want to 'lose face' by saying so and tried to add a complement.

I don't know what else has gone on in your email conversations, but if he is getting on your nerves and you can afford to lose him as a regular I would stop seeing him. Only you know how you feel, but if he makes you uncomfortable in any way it's not worth it.
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lexienight

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #3 on: 05 January 2009, 11:50:38 pm »
I cant see that he is implying he wants a discount, usually they just come right out and ask. 

I agree with Cassie, i think he just knows that an hour is all he needs.  He could be emailing you about overnights and 4hour bookings and that would make him a timewaster but he is just being honest and saying its only ever going to be an hour at a time.  If you dont want to continue with the emails just explain to him that you dont indulge clients with dirty emails and that really your too busy to be emailing clients everyday.  If he really wants dirty emails charge him and see if he still wants them lol.  I bet he wont.

Like Cassie says, if you can afford to loose a regular that might be an hour every few weeks or so then ditch him off but personally i would keep him and just ditch the emailing.

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #4 on: 06 January 2009, 12:59:01 am »
Yeah, forgot to say I didn't think he was looking for a discount either.
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loveamber

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #5 on: 06 January 2009, 01:20:48 am »

Ok thanks guys, i guess i took what he said in the wrong way. I kind of saw it as rude as I felt like he was laughing at me for thinking he might want longer than an hour, as if to say 'you silly girl why would I see you for longer' although I  was obviously reading into it too much! When I read it I just felt a bit stupid for asking how long he wanted, even though we have to do that!

I know what hes paying me for and why im there but I think he didnt need to say it that bluntly, but then again im just in a bad mood today lol!

xx

UrbaneAspects

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #6 on: 06 January 2009, 02:52:19 am »
Amber, personally I honestly think he meant it as a compliment - ie that you are so hot he couldn't last any longer. He might also not be able to afford more than one hour at a time, but not want to 'lose face' by saying so and tried to add a complement.

She said it...I think he may have even been implying he only wanted a half-hour rate, which you could have suggested/offered. Maybe he was hoping you'd offer, but then again its your choice.

However, be careful just because someone had booked you once. I have stories where I had been booked once...and they carried on conversation for weeks on end without ever making a second booking. That was when I was sorta a newbie of course, but point is...still dont allow someone to abuse your time just because they booked you once. At one point I had to tell someone, "well Im going to have to ask you not to contact me again until youre ready". And that was that.

lexienight

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #7 on: 06 January 2009, 02:57:40 am »
I quite like it when they are blunt and to the point about it, in my small amount or experiance its the ones that just say it as it is that are the most reliable rather than the sort that talk about it alot but come to nothing.  And your right to ask how long, your not a mind reader but some do expect you to be. I think he was just trying to be funny but yet again the old email talk came across the wrong way.  I could be wrong but i think he was taking the piss out of himself not you.  He obviously fancies you and knows it wont take long to reach his goal when he visits.  Take it as a compliment.

xx

lexienight

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #8 on: 06 January 2009, 03:12:46 am »
She said it...I think he may have even been implying he only wanted a half-hour rate, which you could have suggested/offered. Maybe he was hoping you'd offer, but then again its your choice.


Nah, i still dont think so.  Half hour appointments are pretty common place so i think he would have just asked.  After all, the worst that could have happened would be that you say no.  and he said it after booking his 2nd hour so i dont think he was pushing for anything less.

I think its REALLY easy for us all to instantly be suspicious of clients and think they are after discounts etc but sometimes they just want a little bit more of a connection than others.  I'm not saying thats ok, but maybe he just needs to be told (politely so you dont loose him as a potential regular) that its not common practice to relay emails back and forth.  And there is no harm in pointing out that actually there are plenty of men out there who DO want more than one hour of your time so thats why you asked.    :D
 ;)

UrbaneAspects

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #9 on: 06 January 2009, 03:45:04 am »
Nah, i still dont think so. and he said it after booking his 2nd hour so i dont think he was pushing for anything less.

No, you missed something. she had said...
I saw a client a few weeks back for an hour

meaning she only met him once. Thats why she was suspicious this whole time.

I think its REALLY easy for us all to instantly be suspicious of clients and think they are after discounts etc but sometimes they just want a little bit more of a connection than others. 

Now I agree with you on that one. Not everyone's out to waste time. Chit chat doesnt always spell BS. But like I said, I've met people who carried on with me after a 1st booking, and didnt come through with a second.

lexienight

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #10 on: 06 January 2009, 05:40:41 am »
No i didnt miss it.  she had one booking and he then booked another and then he made that comment.  From what you have said in the past i doubt you do 30min bookings because you dont do incalls and often have to travel far for a booking (i wouldnt travel for 30min either) but its pretty common i think if you offer incalls and even if you dont its not likely that you would travel huge distances so guys arent shy to ask for 30min bookings. 

I only offer them as incalls and because i dont live at my incall flat im still reluctant to accept them unless im already at the flat for other bookings.  i still think he would have just asked.  I havent experianced guys being shy to ask for shorter bookings even when i could only do outcalls and even though i had my 1hour rate as my minimum rate.  they would ask, i would say no.  i think (correct me if im wrong) they are more likely to push it at the other end of the booking.  by that i mean they will start getting aroused 10 min before the end of the hour they pay for and push their luck for more time and hope you dont charge for it. 

I could be wrong but i really do think this guy just knows that Amber is going to turn him on so much he will get his desired effect within a very short time, she can then offer him the same effect a second or third time as long as he gets his hour.  he just doesnt need any longer.  good on him for not making her think she will get more from him than he can give and good on Amber for being able to make a man cum so quickly lol. 
« Last Edit: 06 January 2009, 05:55:55 am by lexie »

UrbaneAspects

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #11 on: 06 January 2009, 06:13:15 am »
No i didnt miss it.  she had one booking and he then booked another and then he made that comment. 

I read it 3 times now and I just dont see where she said she saw him a 2nd time. Im looking closely! She only saw him once...


Hi everyone,

I saw a client a few weeks back for an hour and since then he has emailed me quite alot about another booking, although till now it hasnt happened for different reasons.  Anyway when I asked him how long he wanted to meet for he replied with this


"Amber you are so funny
 It will only ever be for 1 hour - with you I could come after 2 minutes so why go for more?"

Now I see where I may have mistaken because she did asked him, "how long do you need". So she didnt really need to offer a half hour because he said, "It will only ever be for an hour". But I'm not seeing where she saw him a second time.

lexienight

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #12 on: 06 January 2009, 06:37:23 am »
she hasnt seen him the second time yet, he has just emailed her to book the second time then she asked how long for then he made the comment.

loveamber

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #13 on: 10 January 2009, 01:54:21 am »
Hi, Thanks for the advice guys, I guess I should take it as a compliment and stop being suspicious!

Although this client has been a real pain before, before I met him he wanted me to get on the train he was on (he called me 15 mins before I was meant to jump on this train- as if lol!) just so he couls see me, and he said he would pay me 'alot' for this on our first official booking, obviously I didnt. Then, he didnt want to give me his full name when I visited him at his flat and kept trying to convince me to 'break the rules' for him and this went on for so long I told him I wouldnt visit him. After a few days he called and apologized and I ended up taking the booking from him and about half an hour into it he said he wanted to be my only client, and he would pay me a certain amount each week, even if I didnt see him that week. He seemed deadly serious and I laughed it off but since then he has kept asking for explicit emails, I know I didnt explain this before lol. This email just got to me more than all that other stuff, I think because I know what hes like and I thought it was more of an arrogant statement more than anything! I dont think im going to see him again anyway he's to stressful!

xx

UrbaneAspects

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Re: How would you reply to this client?
« Reply #14 on: 10 January 2009, 02:46:59 am »
Hi, Thanks for the advice guys, I guess I should take it as a compliment and stop being suspicious!

this is another reason why an on-going 'relationship' with a client outside of regular bookings is just not appropiate. Just as one wouldnt carry on with a business client...neither should you with your client (nor allow him so). The only chit chat should occur when a booking is being arranged and the actual booking itself.

None of that hi, how you doing chit chat BS throughout the week. He's not your husband (yet  :D