Author Topic: How would you reply to this client? (Read 4076 times)

lexienight · « **Reply #15 on:** 10 January 2009, 03:41:13 am »

Well if you had explained that before i would have said fuck it. See i dont mind them pushing it a little bit with the chats and for someone who seemed genuine i wouldnt even mind the emails but once someone starts asking for exclusivity and pushing to break the rules just for them im affraid i would have to risk loosing their business by explaining in a very clear and precise way that its just not going to happen. Infact it is very possible that i have lost a good client recently, i wont go in to details but i had to tell him that it wasnt necessary to call me every few days with an update or a new provisional date of when he might be able to book and i wouldnt be able to keep replying to emails etc. I think he had gotten/wanted the impression that i relied on him or that he was important to me or that he was looking after me (i cant quite work it out really but something like that, maybe it was him having a power struggle thing with me) so i had to tell him straight. Now i havent heard from him for ages so it could be that he got offended and has gone else where or that he will call when he gets things sorted for a booking. Either way, I had to take the risk of loosing his business and i felt better for doing so.

UrbaneAspects · « **Reply #16 on:** 10 January 2009, 03:52:14 am »

Quote from: loveamber on 10 January 2009, 01:54:21 am

and he would pay me a certain amount each week, even if I didnt see him that week.

Bullshit. Once again...I dont believe it. Even clients who've I seen dozens of times wouldnt hand over any money if I didnt show up for work. I know because I tried it before.

I believe you, but I dont believe what he offered you. It is possible he would pay you each week, but no way in hell would he pay you without seeing you. I wouldnt buy it.

loveamber · « **Reply #17 on:** 10 January 2009, 04:09:48 am »

Oh no, I totally agree, I was using it as an example of why hes a pain! I obviously knew what he was saying was bullshit, just like the rest of what he says and im just getting tired of it. Its quite similar to the experience you had lexie, where he sends me an email all the time about when he might be able to see me, when I just want to know wether he wants a booking or not! i didnt mention the other stuff before because I wasnt too fussed about it-although it was annoying it wasnt offensive and I just assumed because he was new to this he didnt understand how it works.

Im not going to see him again, if its only ever going to be hour appointments (as he so helpfully pointed out!) once a month and he causes me this much grief id rather leave it, i met him once a month ago and since then have had to reply to close to 50 emails, its not worth it!

By the way, even though I didnt reply to the original 'why would I pay for more' email, he sent me one the following day saying the flat he uses was out of bounds and he had to cancel! im not going to reply to him at all next time

xx

cassie · « **Reply #18 on:** 10 January 2009, 01:03:35 pm »

Quote from: loveamber on 10 January 2009, 01:54:21 am

Hi, Thanks for the advice guys, I guess I should take it as a compliment and stop being suspicious!

Although this client has been a real pain before, before I met him he wanted me to get on the train he was on (he called me 15 mins before I was meant to jump on this train- as if lol!) just so he couls see me, and he said he would pay me 'alot' for this on our first official booking, obviously I didnt. Then, he didnt want to give me his full name when I visited him at his flat and kept trying to convince me to 'break the rules' for him and this went on for so long I told him I wouldnt visit him. After a few days he called and apologized and I ended up taking the booking from him and about half an hour into it he said he wanted to be my only client, and he would pay me a certain amount each week, even if I didnt see him that week. He seemed deadly serious and I laughed it off but since then he has kept asking for explicit emails, I know I didnt explain this before lol. This email just got to me more than all that other stuff, I think because I know what hes like and I thought it was more of an arrogant statement more than anything! I dont think im going to see him again anyway he's to stressful!

xx

Amber, Amber - as lex said if I had know all this before I would have advised differently, not that I am saying you should do what I say, that's up to you of course.

What you have discribed there are the actions of a manipulator and a control freak. Don't play his games, messing you around like this and demanding your only and full attention are what are giving him the real satisfaction. I have been on the receiving end and sometimes still am too many times and recognise all the signs.

Someone posted a link on here to a very informative site regarding this kind of man, but I can't remember it - help ladies if you can!

Personally I'd say - hands off, babe! Don't reply to him anymore, he will try to make your life hell.

See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

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