The man who told me he has sex with men was not gay so keep your assumptions about homophobia to yourself! I asked if he wore protection when having sex with other men, he said no, never. No where did I say that ALL men indulge in bareback sex so that's another assumption on your part! As the OP was referring to her clients who are male I chose to address it based on males only too. I am quite aware that men will have bareback sex with women and only tell me what they want to. But the subject was about men not women,gay men etc.
Gay, bi or just curious, the comments are still homophobic as you made your comment solely based upon the fact your male client had been sexually active with another man.
Given that several other people have pointed out that your comments can, and have been, construed as homophobic/biphobic (if we want to get into semantics), then I don't think its just me making the assumption that your comments are offensive.
Oh, and it wasn't just your comments I pointed out as being offensive, but also the OP's comments. As one of the moderators pointed out, its none of her business how a client identifies his sexual orientation. Whoever he had sexual contact with before me is a moot point as for the length of time he is with me he is engaging in heterosexual activity.
As you clearly stated "It's wrong of me to make assumptions about him possibly carrying something due to being with men I just don't want to risk it", it was simply put to you that you know
nothing about anyone's sexual history, but you appear to make a judgement about someone solely based on his activity with other men.
Clearly you are aware that your comments could be, and were, perceived to be offensive towards members of the LGBT community. So no, as a member of that community, I won't be keeping my 'assumptions' to myself as I don't see why anyone should be spoken about in a disrespectful, discriminatory manner. Instead of taking some responsibility for the comments made, you roll your eyes. Three other people have pointed out exactly the same thing so its clearly not just me finding your comments out of order.