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How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« on: 23 June 2013, 11:21:01 pm »
I have been thinking about that many clients could have been bisexual without me even knowing. Is there any pointers that gives the game away?.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #1 on: 23 June 2013, 11:48:17 pm »
Feel free to say more, but if you would treat them differently if you knew, your choices - safer sex? screening? something else? - are wrong.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #2 on: 24 June 2013, 12:59:53 am »
I wouldn't treat them different was curious.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #3 on: 24 June 2013, 02:05:41 am »
I'd never even considered the fact till one client told me
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #4 on: 24 June 2013, 04:32:55 am »
What they do, with whom and how often is not even crossing my mind as I operate as safely as possible.

I'm not even sure what on earth could 'give the game away' as none of my bi male friends act any different to the straight ones, goodness knows I have straight male mates that have a certain 'campness' about them and say things like 'Suchandsuch bloke is so good looking' etc and gay male mates that are far from camp and say things like 'Suchandsuch girl is hot' etc.

The only thing I have noticed with friends, is that the bi/gay ones tend to be far more liberal politically and in their 'live and let live' attitudes.

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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #5 on: 24 June 2013, 09:12:16 am »
I had a client who told me after I had given him oral uncovered that he had been with a man. I no longer offer OWO. It's wrong of me to make assumptions about him possibly carrying something due to being with men I just don't want to risk it. I stupidly believed that because he was seeing me he wasn't into men  ::). I felt like kicking him where the sun doesn't shine!  :FF
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #6 on: 24 June 2013, 10:09:00 am »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 24 June 2013, 12:59:53 am
I wouldn't treat them different was curious.

Then try asking, if you're having a post-sex conversation about sex...

You need to know if you're thinking about bisexuality in thought or word or deed (more usually put as 'attraction, identity or behaviour'!) because, for example, many of the people who are sexual with men and women don't identify as bisexual.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #7 on: 24 June 2013, 02:54:22 pm »
Quote from: Jan10 on 24 June 2013, 09:12:16 am
I had a client who told me after I had given him oral uncovered that he had been with a men. I no longer offer OWO. It's wrong of me to make assumptions about him possibly carrying something due to being with men I just don't want to risk it. I stupidly believed that because he was seeing me he wasn't into men  ::). I felt like kicking him where the sun doesn't shine!  :FF

Yes, that was a big assumption laid on top of a bit of prejudice ;D

If you change what you're prepared to do based on what they tell you, they often won't tell you. In general, if you work on the basis that they're all having unprotected sex with someone, and act accordingly, you'll stop having to guess if they are or not.

What 'accordingly' means will vary from person to person. Some will still be happy to do OWO and some won't, for example. Both are fine, because everyone has their own position on what risks are ok to take.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #8 on: 24 June 2013, 04:04:20 pm »
Frankly unless I was looking for them to take part in a film shoot that involved them sucking cock or being shagged by another guy, then it's none of my business wether they are bi or not.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #9 on: 24 June 2013, 08:57:00 pm »
Quote from: Jan10 on 24 June 2013, 09:12:16 am
I had a client who told me after I had given him oral uncovered that he had been with a men. I no longer offer OWO. It's wrong of me to make assumptions about him possibly carrying something due to being with men I just don't want to risk it. I stupidly believed that because he was seeing me he wasn't into men  ::). I felt like kicking him where the sun doesn't shine!  :FF

I just was thinking the bum is full of germs if they do it. I never think during bookings as is all about having fun. I offer owo and ow depending on thier hygene.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #10 on: 24 June 2013, 09:32:06 pm »
Quote from: xw5 on 24 June 2013, 02:54:22 pm
Quote from: Jan10 on 24 June 2013, 09:12:16 am
I had a client who told me after I had given him oral uncovered that he had been with a men. I no longer offer OWO. It's wrong of me to make assumptions about him possibly carrying something due to being with men I just don't want to risk it. I stupidly believed that because he was seeing me he wasn't into men  ::). I felt like kicking him where the sun doesn't shine!  :FF

Yes, that was a big assumption laid on top of a bit of prejudice ;DIf you change what you're prepared to do based on what they tell you, they often won't tell you. In general, if you work on the basis that they're all having unprotected sex with someone, and act accordingly, you'll stop having to guess if they are or not.

What 'accordingly' means will vary from person to person. Some will still be happy to do OWO and some won't, for example. Both are fine, because everyone has their own position on what risks are ok to take.

I know my bad. ;D. I am going to stick to covered from now on though that way I am not worrying whether to offer it to this one but not that one.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #11 on: 24 June 2013, 09:37:58 pm »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 24 June 2013, 08:57:00 pm
Quote from: Jan10 on 24 June 2013, 09:12:16 am
I had a client who told me after I had given him oral uncovered that he had been with a men. I no longer offer OWO. It's wrong of me to make assumptions about him possibly carrying something due to being with men I just don't want to risk it. I stupidly believed that because he was seeing me he wasn't into men  ::). I felt like kicking him where the sun doesn't shine!  :FF

I just was thinking the bum is full of germs if they do it. I never think during bookings as is all about having fun. I offer owo and ow depending on thier hygene.

I know and a risky thing to do if they don't wear condoms when doing it.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #12 on: 24 June 2013, 11:13:55 pm »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 24 June 2013, 08:57:00 pm
I just was thinking the bum is full of germs if they do it.

a) It's oral sex, not anal, that's the near universal act for sex between men

b) What are you doing with their bums? (Also known as 'why do you care?') If it's licking them, using a dam is a sensible idea regardless...
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #13 on: 24 June 2013, 11:26:40 pm »
Quote from: xw5 on 24 June 2013, 11:13:55 pm
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 24 June 2013, 08:57:00 pm
I just was thinking the bum is full of germs if they do it.

a) It's oral sex, not anal, that's the near universal act for sex between men

b) What are you doing with their bums? (Also known as 'why do you care?') If it's licking them, using a dam is a sensible idea regardless...

c) Women also have bums.
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Re: How To Tell If Clients Are Bi?.
« Reply #14 on: 25 June 2013, 05:23:03 am »
Really doesn't bother me or affect my choice to do owo.

However what did bother me was a client who booked me for an hour. He was 19 and a very young looking one I had to ask for ID! Just wanted to hug him really. He told me he decided to book me as he didn't know his sexuality and wanted to find out in that time. He bought a strap on along and other toys but he couldn't become erect. Hr then sat on the bed with me and asked if it wad ok to cuddle. He broke down about how confused he was and said he didn't want to offend me that he couldn't get erect. I reassured him it was ok.but couldn't help feeling so sorry for him. He kissed me on the cheek told me I was lovely and left bless him. That made me uncomfortable because of how young and vulnerable he was.
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