Author Topic: How to tell a returned you don't like seeing him (Read 2507 times)

Miffy · « **Reply #15 on:** 22 November 2021, 07:11:54 pm »

But that's booking by deception, so he's not nice in any way at all.

Milf-G · « **Reply #16 on:** 22 November 2021, 08:12:33 pm »

Quote from: Miffy on 22 November 2021, 07:11:54 pm

But that's booking by deception, so he's not nice in any way at all.

True, but no way I can stop it now I'm advertising my number instead of just relying on AW emails. It is one of my fears, especially as I've had stalkers, but, he was a perfect gent. I sent mr potential drug dealer away but had decided I may have given him a 2nd chance. I have a panic alarm by my front door and I'm my bedroom, linked to my alarm company and police.

Miffy · « **Reply #17 on:** 22 November 2021, 08:16:16 pm »

I think we have very different ideas about what makes someone a 'perfect gent.' Still, am glad all worked out for you.

Ana66 · « **Reply #18 on:** 23 November 2021, 06:25:37 am »

I also have a couple of returning clients like that, whom I really don’t want to see anymore (mainly because lack of manners or sex is way too rough). I’m always scared of blocking people because I don’t know how they could react. But to be honest some guys are quite stupid, I mean you ignore their messages and tell them you can’t see them because you’re busy but they still don’t understand the signals that I don’t wanna see them anymore and they keep trying again and again.

Miffy · « **Reply #19 on:** 23 November 2021, 08:29:27 am »

Natalya,

If the man/sex is too rough, stop and tell them. If they continue to be rough, tell them to leave - just because someone is paying you, it doesn't mean they can treat you like this. Remember this. If you're passive and ignore bad behaviour like this (and lack of manners), these clients will return and could push boundaries further.

Why are you scared of blocking someone? What do you think they will do? The answer is very little. As you say, men are quite stupid, but neither can you rely on them to read between the lines of what you're telling them or understand the signal; you need to be direct. In this instance, if you really don't want to tell them or to block them, just ignore their messages and don't interact with them.

Mirror · « **Reply #20 on:** 23 November 2021, 11:11:13 am »

Quote from: Natalya on 23 November 2021, 06:25:37 am

I also have a couple of returning clients like that, whom I really don’t want to see anymore (mainly because lack of manners or sex is way too rough). I’m always scared of blocking people because I don’t know how they could react. But to be honest some guys are quite stupid, I mean you ignore their messages and tell them you can’t see them because you’re busy but they still don’t understand the signals that I don’t wanna see them anymore and they keep trying again and again.

Sometimes people are genuinely busy, some regulars have in the past thought my 'I am fully booked/already booked at your required time' meant I did not want to see them. My policy is to tell them that if I do not want to see them I will say so, but I understand that can be scary some will turn it on you but so far, apart from one person most in well over ten years have been fine - have accepted it. I always give the person a chance, explain there's something I am not comfortable with they can then decide to find someone else, stop booking, or make a change.

Also understand every one is different, different ways of working.

MissWolf · « **Reply #21 on:** 23 November 2021, 11:17:52 am »

Quote from: Mirror on 23 November 2021, 11:11:13 am

Sometimes people are genuinely busy, some regulars have in the past thought my 'I am fully booked/already booked at your required time' meant I did not want to see them. My policy is to tell them that if I do not want to see them I will say so, but I understand that can be scary some will turn it on you but so far, apart from one person most in well over ten years have been fine - have accepted it. I always give the person a chance, explain there's something I am not comfortable with they can then decide to find someone else, stop booking, or make a change.

Also understand every one is different, different ways of working.

This is my way too, I'd rather be open and upfront with people, no ambiguity and if we don't tell them I'm sorry I don't want to take another booking from you because A B C etc then how the fook will they ever learn

Petlover29 · « **Reply #22 on:** 23 November 2021, 03:42:31 pm »

Hey

I have had this happen on a couple of occasions.. I once had a client who had very large penis… he would book me for an intense hour full on pse session.. he would cum right at the end.. I was drained.. he tried to book me again and i just told him he was to big for me and I told him I was very sore after the meet with him.. I explained to him that I couldn’t handle the type of service he wanted from me..he was fine about it and said he understood..

I think it’s best to be honest.. best way to get out of it is just say you can’t handle the type of service he expects from you .. just say it’s nothing personal against him and wish him well in finding another service provider who would be better suited for him..

English Green · « **Reply #23 on:** 23 November 2021, 04:37:35 pm »

I have had this a couple of times. Depending on the personality of the character in question i even am honest just say the booking is not for me best you book someone else or in some cases i just block or ignore there calls and make it that i have no availability when they contact then eventually they get the hint.

Ideally i prefer to be unfront if i can though.

ana30 · « **Reply #24 on:** 23 November 2021, 08:32:25 pm »

The way I do that is I ignore, end of. They get the message and move on. Sometimes I got someone who was REALLY persistent (aka: didn't get the message) a brief text with a polite "I don;t think I'm the right person for you because of x,y,z and would rather not see you" will do it just fine.

Ana66 · « **Reply #25 on:** 24 November 2021, 02:05:27 am »

Thank you girls for your advices, indeed I have to express myself more but sometimes I’m a bit scared of telling them what I really think because they pay and I want them to have a good opinion on me. But from now I’ll definitely be more straightforward.

Mirror · « **Reply #26 on:** 24 November 2021, 07:45:21 am »

Quote from: Natalya on 24 November 2021, 02:05:27 am

Thank you girls for your advices, indeed I have to express myself more but sometimes I’m a bit scared of telling them what I really think because they pay and I want them to have a good opinion on me. But from now I’ll definitely be more straightforward.

Some will like that you assert yourself.

ana30 · « **Reply #27 on:** 24 November 2021, 08:49:56 am »

Quote from: Natalya on 24 November 2021, 02:05:27 am

Thank you girls for your advices, indeed I have to express myself more but sometimes I’m a bit scared of telling them what I really think because they pay and I want them to have a good opinion on me. But from now I’ll definitely be more straightforward.

It's the other way round nataly: YOU want clients who you have good opinion of, nobody cares what they think about you. It's not instagram, nor a popularity contest and you're not in this line of work to be "liked", but to be safe and happy. Giving them this message that you're in this job to be liked will get you the predator types.

denise96 · « **Reply #28 on:** 24 November 2021, 10:52:14 am »

Quote from: ana30 on 24 November 2021, 08:49:56 am

It's the other way round nataly: YOU want clients who you have good opinion of, nobody cares what they think about you. It's not instagram, nor a popularity contest and you're not in this line of work to be "liked", but to be safe and happy. Giving them this message that you're in this job to be liked will get you the predator types.

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denise96 · « **Reply #29 on:** 24 November 2021, 10:56:33 am »

I forgot to add to my previous round of applause to ana's comment.. that most of women probably are 'afraid' in telling their clients ex. You're too big or too rough etc.. because we think we will get a negative review on a certain website. But nobody should care about those reviews, those are their frustrations only.

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