If it's painful, why do you want to do it?

I wouldn't recommend toys bar those designed for anal (so butt plugs and whatnot), and certainly not anything very rigid - I offer anal but I wouldn't want anything that didn't have at least some flexibility and softness in there and even fingers can be really painful and unpleasant.

If you're determined I would have a look on Lovehoney or similar and find some beginner stuff - it'll likely be labelled as such

Thank you so much! i want just to try to give it a go! not sure if painful lol, never done. buy a set for beginner and appropriate lube! 

Thank you so much! i want just to try to give it a go! not sure if painful lol, never done. buy a set for beginner and appropriate lube! 

Or just start with a small buttplug, or indeed even just your finger or thumb.

I have done anal for years and it has never affected my sphincter muscles.

My female R.E teacher said something and it stuck. Vagina muscles will go back after being stretched arsehole doesn't so I dont want to be old and shitting myself everywhere  if I can help it.

If you have never done it before then I really wouldn't have the first time you do be with a client.

I absolutely agree. Or with a caveat that I would do it with a client who I had been seeing for years and trusted to be sensible (and who had a small-to-average dick)

Yes an anus is less flexible than a vagina. It doesn't produce lubrifaction like a vagina does, so you need to use a LOT of lube, and preferably lube which is specifically for anal. It's a lot more common to get an anal injury than vaginal (through sex).

However it's a total homophobic myth that anal sex causes sphincter damage if you have a sensible partner (or are one.)

What you have to be careful of is porn hounds who think they want to "destroy your ass" (why?) who have no idea how to "warm up" and just want to stick it in and fuck like a pneumatic drill. uggggghhhhhhhh.

I get a lot more enjoyment fucking guys (carefully!) up the arse with my strap on 😜