It is difficult - I hate talking on the phone and have long since given up trying to find a 'right' way. I'm just myself - if I tried to sound sexy I would sound like a complete idiot (broad Northern accent) and I'd be far too embarrassed anyway, plus it wouldn't reflect how I am in person. Instead I just try to sound friendly and approachable without being too chatty, and professional without being curt. Yu can pick up a 'mood' once you've got started - the first few seconds are the worst.

The time-honoured advice on here has been to smile as you answer - sounds daft but it definitely works. Have a few 'stock' phrases for terminating the call quickly or dealing with the really common stuff (people asking for 'details', or trying to get you to go into detail about services and so on), and don't let them keep you on the phone too long - if necessary say you have to go now, and if they think of anything else they can ring back later or put it in an email. Don't forget that other people may be trying to get through and I have never known a genuine booking enquiry call to need longer than three or four minutes.

Do bear in mind that the 'male escort' has almost certainly never had an escorting job in his life, and any feedback that suggests otherwise is 99.9% likely to be fake. In other words, don't get your hopes up  .

Yeah I thought that too about the escort! He had a load of reviews on Adult Work though so I kind of believed him. We'll see how that pans out. We'll see how I get on. I saw two customers with an agency last year and although nothing went wrong, I didn't feel entirely relaxed and I didn't feel like I gave them their money's worth. I think I'm still gettig used to charging for something I used to do for free! It knocked my confidence a little bit tbh xx

Are the reviews him being booked as a Service Provider, or are they simply him booking other Service Providers?

Please, Jenni, if only to soothe the minds of us ol' cynics here at SAAFE (er, that would be me ), promise that you'll get your fee upfront when you meet this male escort? I'm sure he's an absolutely great guy and you have nothing to worry about but I think it's also true to say that the majority of experiences had by the women here might suggest that there's an increased likelihood of a male escort being, er, a little bit deluded, if not a full-blown scammer and/or fantasist.

You'll be fine, I don't mean to be all dramatic, but with sex work is it ALWAYS a case of Better Safe Than Sorry. So stick to all the usual procedures of fee upfront with a confirmation of duration of booking and services involved during a quick chat before you get started and then you'll be able to relax and get on with having a great time.

As for phone voice... Mine is excellent. I do the smiling thing and try to remember to sound enthusiastic and warm - friendly rather than sexy, but I have a rah-rah-darling voice (more so over the phone than real life for some reason, old office job training) so clients find it very amusing. I do think a professional tone is better than being sexy at them, also, because you don't want to instigate phone sex - you want them to get their diaries out and make concrete plans for an appointment with you! No fanny-arsing about.

Wot Amy said about stock phrases is brilliant, too - I'm not great at them but "I'm sorry, I'm in a public place right now, please could you pop all your questions into an email?" can get you out of various icky phone conversations nicely.

I think the phone thing's taken me ages to get used to and it's only reading the occasional thread on here full of other people's advice that helped me realise I'm not alone! I've relaxed a lot about it and, like all the others above have said, just being relaxed and doing your own thing is definitely the best.

Ho hum- it would have been good though lol, but when I got to thinking about it I think I might prefer to start again with someone who won't notice the lumps and bumps I have in the wrong places quite as much!   

Urgh, I can't imagine anything worse than an appointment with a man who fancies himself such a stud that he spends the whole time nitpicking (silently or otherwise) about your appearance and probably doing stupid poses in the mirror! Talk about a recipe for unsatisfactory sex. I know we're just speculating here about the Male Escort (said in dark and foreboding voice, ha) but I reckon you're better off starting out with a lovely 'gentleman' regular-guy-type for a first client - someone with a bit of a brain and a lot of respect for women, which is a combination that actually almost guarantees a good shag!

Also, the latter are rather common so better to aim for when building a successful business.

Yeah my absolute ideal would be to have a handful of lovely gentlemen who will know what they want and be respectful. Just thought the other guy could show me the ropes a bit lol but now realise after posting that was rather naive! Anyway he booked me online and asked me to call him but he hasn't responded to my voicemail so I'm going to presume it's off now and book confirm someone else.

Logistically it's a bloody nightmare and am seriously considering booking a hotel for next weekend xx

Hi Strawberry, when I received the booking he had written please call to confirm, so as soon as I got the booking I phoned him and left a voicemail (just a 'hi this in Jenni ringing to confirm Saturday's appointment, please call back') and then I also emailed him on the site and let him know I'd left a voicemail and again asked him to call. That was tea time yesterday and haven't heard anything so I emailed him just now and said 'I've cancelled the booking as a I didn't hear from you I'm afraid. Look forward to meeting you another time, Jenni xx'

Didn't want to sound desperate or disgruntled as he may be genuine. Have another guy who has gone quiet about Sunday's booking as well so emailed him today and said please confirm by tomorrow or I'll have to cancel our appointment.

Does that all sound OK? Am striving for friendly but not a pushover! xx