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emilyofsuffolk

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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #15 on: 22 September 2011, 02:54:03 pm »
Ewww lol I foget some like "hard sports" I didn't know what that was until recently   :o

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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #16 on: 22 September 2011, 11:27:54 pm »
Thank you so much for all the advice! I hate when it gets awkward and they say something like, 'Oh but we're having such a good time'. And it feels AWFUL as I get so embarrassed. I offer a proper gfe, so it's all chatting, cuddling, drinking tea, snuggling on sofa etc and a bit of sex. So it just makes it sound so businessy if I say something like 'Ok would you like to extend the booking for an extra ____' espesh as I'm sure they don't have that extra money on them!

I'm too nice to my clients, that's for sure...

I have one guy and he constantly rings me just to chat about how things are, what he's been up to, what he's bought at the shops, and he's always texting and emailing me too. How can I say nicely that I can't keep chatting to him all day every day without losing him? He's a really nice guy!

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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #17 on: 22 September 2011, 11:49:44 pm »
You don't have to suggest they extend if you don't want to, but in that case your various excuses for why they have to go away are the concession to the GFE. They know that you're not really their girlfriend, and not wanting to spend as much time as possible with them is just part of that. If they don't play along then you have to stop trying to keep up the fantasy and act like the professional they've come to see.

I think you need to be less hung up on the GFE thing in general. You seem to be putting it ahead of having professional boundaries, which is why you now have this nice chap who thinks you give a crap about his shopping, and now you've got him thinking that it may not be possible to disillusion him without hurting his feelings (or maybe he only ever liked you because you put up with more friendly pestering than anyone else he's ever paid for sex). If you need an excuse for him, say you have a new boyfriend and he's ok with you working but doesn't like you being all pally with clients out of hours. Then stop trying so hard to convince your paying customers that you don't really care about their money.
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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #18 on: 23 September 2011, 12:44:17 pm »
Have you tried setting an alarm for when the time is up. I know its not the best of solutions but just say that you set your alarm on your phone because you have an urgent appointment straight after.

Or get a somebody to send you a text message or phone you when your time is up. Clients can't argue with that. Imagine if you were working with an agency then you would be on tight schedule and the client would know that as well!!

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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #19 on: 23 September 2011, 12:51:16 pm »
Hi Elle, I know its tough but I think you've just got to stop being 'too' nice with the guys that are reluctant to leave...they will be reading your signals and know that they can get away with it.

I keep a strict eye on the time (hopefully without the client noticing!) and if it seems they are unlikely to finish off in time I say 'look I hate to say it but times nearly up.'  If they have some decency they will take the hint.  If they are just chatting afterwards I just say 'would you like a shower' and that usually gets them into gear.

I would say that it took me a few months to get strict on this

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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #20 on: 23 September 2011, 11:43:02 pm »
I had 3 bookings today, and it was great. I tried a few different things, the first one I said "Oh look at the time! I really need to get a move on to get ready for lunch". The second I just got up and put my dressing gown on and suggested him showering, and the 3rd I said, "Oh is that the time already?! Would you like to extend the booking?" and he actually did and left on time. Thanks everyone :)

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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #21 on: 24 September 2011, 04:34:17 pm »
I had 3 bookings today, and it was great. I tried a few different things, the first one I said "Oh look at the time! I really need to get a move on to get ready for lunch". The second I just got up and put my dressing gown on and suggested him showering, and the 3rd I said, "Oh is that the time already?! Would you like to extend the booking?" and he actually did and left on time. Thanks everyone :)

YAY! Well done. So glad you had a great day. :D
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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #22 on: 24 September 2011, 09:20:39 pm »

I'm too nice to my clients, that's for sure...

I have one guy and he constantly rings me just to chat about how things are, what he's been up to, what he's bought at the shops, and he's always texting and emailing me too. How can I say nicely that I can't keep chatting to him all day every day without losing him? He's a really nice guy!

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Lol...you could always make up a new management system.

And send out an email to all of your clients: "We are pleased to announce that the service provider previously referred to as "Elle" (Henceforth, Latisha Lovely); in the interest of stream-lining services for all clients and maintaining the standard of service you have grown to appreciate, several features which you have become accustomed to will no longer be available: particularly, text/call-a-friend on demand and uncompensated time extension.

Best regards,

Anna "Big Pimp-ette" Darling.

And henceforth, get a look of genuine concern when time starts to go over and say "oh, dear me, I must call my manager" or hand over the phone to an especially gruff female friend when said client calls...

(Er, sorry, I was bitching about this to a friend in social work school and she jokingly suggested this.)

Otherwise, perhaps tell calling client that
a) you are quite busy with personal life/trying to earn enough income, and that if you are unable to answer the phone/an email, he shouldn't take it personally; or hint at some kind of financial arrangement which would give you the flexibility to do this?

Re. clients who overstay booking times, maybe something like

Elle: (still screwing, hour up) - oh dear me, we're almost out of time; would you like to wrap things up or extend this by another half-hour or hour?
Client: But we're having so much fun!
Elle: Oh I know--I love my job...too much! If I kept going as long as I was enjoying myself, I'm pretty sure all one-hour bookings would become four-hours and overnights; in which case, I'd never get longer bookings and I would end up homeless, hungry and with no life outside of escorting [laugh] So one does have to draw the line somewhere!


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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #23 on: 25 September 2011, 11:47:51 pm »
Oh Meg that really cracked me up! Hahahahaha. I think I'm going to tell him that university has started back so I'm back to being busy.

And to get rid of clients I'm using a few of these tips, and also a new one I've come up with. My housemate Charlotte also escorts so I'm just going to say, "Oh dear Charlottes client is going to be arriving in the next 10minutes!"

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Re: How to get rid of a client??
« Reply #24 on: 26 September 2011, 03:30:34 pm »
Oh Meg that really cracked me up! Hahahahaha. I think I'm going to tell him that university has started back so I'm back to being busy.

And to get rid of clients I'm using a few of these tips, and also a new one I've come up with. My housemate Charlotte also escorts so I'm just going to say, "Oh dear Charlottes client is going to be arriving in the next 10minutes!"

:) xxx

Haha I use that one too. If they have already been getting sexual services for the last hour then they are not going to be officers about to raid so I just say that my housemate "Sarah" who also escorts has a client due soon and she'll need the room (in reality there are no other escorts but they don't know that). It means they don't get to 'blame' me for being production-line and a clock-watcher. There's a look of rabbit-in-headlights before they scurry off in fear of running into another punter!
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