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PinkR2021

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Should I confront client?
« on: 05 July 2023, 10:47:31 am »
Sorry for the too much info

Just seen a client I have know for years. Excellent client in every way. However, today, we have sex, from behind , which I always find an awkward position. I don’t know why, but I could feel something wasn’t right but I just thought it was the angle.
When we finish, I notice there is cum on the bed and I feel very wet down there. Now, I can get very wet but I tend to notice that and it’s not everywhere. In this situation I was covered from pubic area pretty much to my arse. I checked the condom and there was no cum in it(remnants but not the normal amount), but then that could have beeen it on the bed.

I don’t want to loose a client but I don’t offer bare services at all. 
I don’t know what to do here.0

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Re: Should I confront client?
« Reply #1 on: 05 July 2023, 11:32:35 am »
So he never said nothing like oops condom came off before you saw the cum on bed and in you?

If so as the condom had barely anything in it he either took it off as was doing bare or he pulled out and the condom stayed a bit in you? If he never said a word i find that strange as he would be the first to notice it slipped off and if that was the case i would suspect it was done on purpose.

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Re: Should I confront client?
« Reply #2 on: 05 July 2023, 11:32:48 am »
Ugh :(

Was the condom still in place when you were finished? I wouldn't contact him now if you didn't say anything at the time but if you see him again and he wants the same position I would make some heavy weather of checking the condom is still on, and if he touches it then stop and change it for another (I find this quickly teaches them to leave it alone). Did he say anything or act oddly?

I wouldn't block him on the basis of this, but I'd be very cautious in future and I'd tell him why.

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Re: Should I confront client?
« Reply #3 on: 05 July 2023, 05:53:44 pm »
He didn’t say anything. I’m not sure if the condom was in place- I provide bags to put them in after and he always just puts them in that quite quickly (quite well trained now 😂).

I’m not sure if the condom slipped or stayed in a bit but it felt odd when he pulled out. It’s hard to describe. He didn’t act any more odd than normal. He left sharpish but that’s fairly normal so that in itself isn’t a red flag.

We were doing it doggy (which we seldom do) and there was literally fluid from my stomach, to my arse. It’s such a weird place to have it.

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Re: Should I confront client?
« Reply #4 on: 05 July 2023, 10:18:12 pm »
We were doing it doggy (which we seldom do) and there was literally fluid from my stomach, to my arse. It’s such a weird place to have it.

That is really weird because if he finished inside you (which it sounds like he did) then how could the cum have spread like that. If he'd deliberately gone in bareback and cum and then pulled out I'd expect a bit of mess but not like that.

Do you think it's possible the condom was slipping off as he pulled out and it sort of swung off and emptied onto you?

I think if it was a reg I would ask him - just "Can I just ask if you noticed the condom slipping off when you pulled out?" and just see what he said. And if he said "yeah I think it did" I'd say well FGS tell me next time.
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Re: Should I confront client?
« Reply #5 on: 05 July 2023, 10:25:27 pm »
That is really weird because if he finished inside you (which it sounds like he did) then how could the cum have spread like that. If he'd deliberately gone in bareback and cum and then pulled out I'd expect a bit of mess but not like that.

Do you think it's possible the condom was slipping off as he pulled out and it sort of swung off and emptied onto you?

I think if it was a reg I would ask him - just "Can I just ask if you noticed the condom slipping off when you pulled out?" and just see what he said. And if he said "yeah I think it did" I'd say well FGS tell me next time.

I spoke to a male friend  and that’s what they said.  I also found he used a king condom not a normal. I don’t think that helped.I didn’t feel much inside if you know what I mean. It’s been nearly five years since I’ve let anyone have sex without a condom so I’m a bit out of practice with knowing what’s “normal”.The problem is English isn’t his first language  and I’m not sure how to word it so he’d get it. I’m starting to think it wasn’t deliberate. He really doesn’t come across like that sort of person . But he is the type to have this sort of thing happen and get embrassed and not tell me.

 I’ll have a think of what to say to him. He’s an excellent client who books near on weekly and pays above my rate so I don’t want to piss him off over what may have not been deliberate .

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Re: Should I confront client?
« Reply #6 on: 05 July 2023, 10:45:22 pm »
I would not confront him now. But I might have asked him at the time. Aftwerward it's over, it's happened move on.
Get tested,
Get the morning after pill if you need it.

In future - what I always used to do in that position is make sure I had my hand there to feel the cock going in (yes it is awkward )- so I could be completely sure it was covered. I've been with too many guys who've  tried to slip it off.

If at any time their hands go there, then so do mine - I don't do penetrative sex anymore but when I did, I 100% concentrated on that condom, and I'd feel often to make sure it was still there.



I have had the experience of a condom coming off inside and a condom splitting with a client, and luckily no consequences. I always took the morning after pill as I've never been on the pill.

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Re: Should I confront client?
« Reply #7 on: 05 July 2023, 10:49:30 pm »
I suggest you only have the correct size of condom out and available for him to use and better still ensure you put the condom on yourself soon know it is fitted correctly,  I never allow clients to choose their own condom I always pick the one I know will fit correctly.

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« Reply #8 on: 05 July 2023, 11:48:42 pm »
It's happened to me several years ago and I remember it well as it gave me the ick (the smell of semen is gross to me). He was on top though and as he pulled out of me he accidentally slipped out of the condom too. It was probably slightly too loose on him. My guess is that the op's client did the same but can't know for sure. If he's indeed a reliable reg who's never played silly games before then it sounds a genuine mistake.

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« Reply #9 on: 06 July 2023, 09:00:20 am »
I suggest you only have the correct size of condom out and available for him to use and better still ensure you put the condom on yourself soon know it is fitted correctly,  I never allow clients to choose their own condom I always pick the one I know will fit correctly.

Yeah I don't trust them to put their own condoms on either! I always pick it out and apply it.
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Re: Should I confront client?
« Reply #10 on: 06 July 2023, 09:11:42 am »
Hey PinkR, you said when he pulled out you were "wet" down there. I know it might sound strange but did you try to grab a bit of the liquid on your fingers and smell it ? Indeed, when I have a doubt that some semen leaked or there was a problem with the condom I always smell the liquid on my vulva (if there is any), and you will clearly be able to tell if it's your natural vaginal lubrication (which isn't supposed to have any odor) VS semen "mushroom" horrible smell which makes me gag every time  :-X :-X :-X