Please take massive steps ASAP to make sure that doesn't happen to you. It's not just physical health that's important, Mental Health is too.

  what an insprirational story 

Over the years, I've felt this myself at times and seen it in others. Without a doubt the best way to deal is to take time off but that is often only possible if you have planned ahead.

Sadly, girls who have to work through those times, often eventually, turn to alcohol or drugs to cope which begins a vicious circle of unhappiness that they kind of mentally try and block out by putting up an ever more fake front to clients and worse, themselves which just makes it all worse.

There is no getting away from it, this is a job that burns girls out and if they dont take measures to avoid that or if they pretend it isn't happening, they end up bitter and on a donwward spiral.

That's a bit depressing really but many girls do manage the job well, usually by maintaining other interests, avoiding other doom and gloomers - some of whom will be pretending to be happy in themselves - and planning ahead both mentally and financially.

If this is not a career for life, girls really should use the time wisely to re-train for something they really want to do as a normal 9 to 5 job wont give the same opportunities for available time.   

The are pro's and cons to employed work.

Yeah I am aware that there is someone there making sure I do my job properly but I dont have to worry that I am not going to make any money the next day or worrying about your book keeping when u have no idea what ure doing.

Escorting can chew you up and spit you out if you aint careful and even if you are it can still sneek up on you. As most of us keep our work secret noone notices when if we start doing odd things while we are working. I started doing this when I became unemployed and used it as a stop gap while i get back into work and I am resillient enough to cope and I dont take shit from anyone. It was six months and I put a lot into this...I wanted to do well, be successful at creating a business from scratch. In those six months tho my social life became nothing and I lost the man I loved.

When all the shit started hitting the fan I even considered doing some part time waitressing and still having the escorting as my main money maker because I felt I had noone (well noone real), just u guys on here.

The are pro's and cons to employed work.

Yeah I am aware that there is someone there making sure I do my job properly but I dont have to worry that I am not going to make any money the next day or worrying about your book keeping when u have no idea what ure doing.

Escorting can chew you up and spit you out if you aint careful and even if you are it can still sneek up on you. As most of us keep our work secret noone notices when if we start doing odd things while we are working. I started doing this when I became unemployed and used it as a stop gap while i get back into work and I am resillient enough to cope and I dont take shit from anyone. It was six months and I put a lot into this...I wanted to do well, be successful at creating a business from scratch. In those six months tho my social life became nothing and I lost the man I loved.

When all the shit started hitting the fan I even considered doing some part time waitressing and still having the escorting as my main money maker because I felt I had noone (well noone real), just u guys on here.

Sorry to hear about losing your man. The social stigma and the need to not tell others in your life about your work attached to this job creates a lot of problems.  That is often why burn out is even more difficult as you cant share your troubles with anyone else.

I was lucky and met a true friend early on in my escorting career but met far too many pretend friends along the way too who took their toll on my own well being. That is one of the reasons why this forum is so great as true friends who are 'normal' are quite rare in this business so having somewhere to 'talk' candidly is great.

Well if you get the balance perfect Joey, bottle it and sell it. But remember us from SAAFE if you have any sample gift bags up for grabs.

Thankyou for all the kind replies guys,much appreciated

Ive decided to work only 2 days for my agency this week (its the minimum i can do whilst still being able to afford to eat) My work phone is remaining resolutely turned OFF until i go back to work on Thursday.

So i am going to ride my horse,spend time with my dog,cat and other half and make obsessive plans for my wedding (even though its not until summer after next) and probably bore him to death about it.

Yes this job isolates you and i see too many girls at my agency turning to drink and drugs to get through their shifts because its the only way they can deal with the clients,very bleak and depressing.[

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Ive got a horse and i haven't even ridden him for over a month so that's going to be me project for next week,get out on my horsie in the fresh air.

A horse? Colette you're spoiled, Im jealous    I once had a puppy (who turned into a dog) and that took up so much of my time back then. A long walk was an hour, the morning walk, the hair brushing, etc. I can imagine a horse would be 2 or 3 times the work. Do you live out in the country, or do you just live in the city and go out when you need to see the horse?
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Yep Joey ive had my horse for nearly 8 years now (hes only 14hh so a pony really) I live on the outskirts of a city but hes about 20 minutes away in the countryside. My friend keeps her horses at same stables and looks after him for me. I dont get to see him as much as i would like cos im always working etc . Im very lucky to have him but he costs a fortune to look after,i would be a lot richer if i sold him but the thought is unbearable. If your ever up in the North east of england you can come and see him.

I am veeery late to this thread but there has been plenty of sound advice (of course, it's what we do best!). For me personally, burn out feelings occur when I start to feel like everybody owns a little piece of me- even though I am aware that I make the rules and am not "owned" by anyone.

It is that constant giving giving giving to people who you wouldn't necessarily want to give to naturally, which is ten times harder than giving yourself to those you love. The job of stroking egos and treading carefully to make other's happy, as is necessary to be a good escort, really does make you feel like bloody worn down battery sometimes- one day you sit there and feel really drained and angry and depressed that all day, every day, you are giving out little pieces of yourself to the hungry masses of clients who just seem to get more and more demanding.

Went off on a bit of a rant there- but you know, my main point is that we give for a living. And sometimes, not taking for ourselves (be it an afternoon, a month, or even bloody retirement) can really affect you in quite an extreme way. I hope you feel better after some R and R Colette xx

Hi Carla

Yes you are right it is the constant 'giving' of yourself that is the most draining part of this job. Painting a smile on your face and being charming and lovely to people all day long grinds you down. Sometimes i go home feeling like a shell of the person i was when i started working 8 hours earlier.
I'm personally starting to find this job very dehumanising. Spending time with men who see you as nothing more than a one dimensional sex object isn't the most empowering experience in the world. I may be earning good money but frankly at the moment it doesn't seem worth it. Even then i don't think I'm making enough money considering what i have to do for it.

This job has affected my life even more deeply than i realise i think. Before i started working as an escort i used to love sex and have a great sex life with my boyfriend. Now i just cant look at the whole thing in the same way,i still think my boyfriend is gorgeous and i fancy him rotton but my attitude towards sex is totally mixed up. Frankly half the time when i come home my body is physically worn out and the last thing it wants to do is have sex again. How do you explain that to a partner though without causing deep hurt? its like saying 'sorry everyone else has had a piece of me but now I'm so knackered that theres nothing left over to give to you'

messed up in the extreme i think