I was lonely when I first started and ended up with drama from getting involved with other escorts. Drank to deal with the isolation, now sober 19 months. But honestly for me my home life is always busy with family, when I escort I actually get to concentrate on myself and some peace and quiet in between bookings, i like being alone now. For me it's boredom that can kill my motivation when Escorting, like if I'm waiting for bookings if I have long gaps. I try and stay close to town so I can pop out for a coffee or a bit of shopping or take new pics for my profile. I'm early forties and 4 years Escorting.

You could ask on the buddy up link for another escort to just whatsapp with to have a rant or just chat or local to meet up.

Making friends with other escorts should be a good move but like others I found my trust in fellow sps was a huge mistake.  Inviting them to my in call place for a couple of hours chatting and cake/coffee etc. started off well but when they asked for a quick tour of my bedroom and bathroom and hearing "wow this is lovely!"  then learning from someone else that I was being ridiculed for my taste in decor etc. made me so sad but also very angry.  More examples which I won't go into but disloyalty is something I don't ever forgive.

I think I find it easier as I am a bit of a loner now myself as I had to after cutting off my own family. I've learnt to enjoy my own company. Also the autism helps but I do still have times where I would like more company.

I think finding ways of being at peace with your own company helps, I take myself shopping/breakfast/coffee/lunch and dinner all the time! If you think of it as a work outing where you get out your diary and phone/ipad and take emails and text bookings if you dont mind sms contact at your leisure. I remembered my own personal experience when I first started doing this I really relished in the independence I felt being a business woman and doing all of this by myself (with the help of this forum!) and it built up my confidence massively I think if you can try to turn it into a positive thing it can help xx

You can also use twitter and here as a way to connect more with your sex work community. There is also sex worker breakfasts in London and other areas too, here is a link-

https://saafe.info/main/buddy-link-up/breakfasts-for-sex-workers-in-london/

The friends I do have are dotted about the uk and I chat and vm them a lot. Not to turn you into a crazy cat lady like me haha but have you also considering getting a furry companion? I have a few and they are a real joy to have around too and I genuinely have full blown conversations calling them my little shits when they do diabolical poops. I am pretty sure that 90% of the SW population that I have seen have an animal of some sort and its for a reason!

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So escorts that have been closer by who I've had more contact with have always ended in tears and drama so I actually avoid a lot of prolonged contact with any lady so its easier for us all! Most the ladies who have been booked with me in a duo booking have also been a nightmare so I even avoid that now! Maybe thats just my luck but I have made some escorting friends in my time online and over WhatsApp and met a few who work in London away from where I live and had positive experiences so I think maybe thats the key!

Overall I think escorting can be very isolating but depending on your situation its what you make of it and you shouldn't give up on making connections if you can as there are options out there for you I assure you! We are all in this together

Hi

I'm in exactly the same position, in my 40s, been doing this for 6 years and I'm finding it harder and harder. It's really difficult to make 'normal' friends because I hate having to lie about what I do. I try and keep busy but there's only so many box sets, books you can read to keep yourself company. I'm in London and I wish there were more meet ups. Sending you a hug x :/

I’m lucky I have a day job and partner owns a gym so I do still normal
People so to speak on a daily basis but I like my own company so I don’t actually have true female friends really which is kinda sad .


My best mates are mainly male .

I like no drama in friendships and do find it men less crazy lol

I've always found female friends a rarity. My only girl friends are also sex workers or heavily involved in the swinging scene, I don't deal with judgement well.

Being part of a WhatsApp group helps. I also like to go to gym class three times a week and always see the same ladies to talk to which is nice. Luckily I enjoy my own company so the quiet times don’t bother me at all, always have a book to read or something to watch!

I’m on several Watsapp groups for escorts with different ladies that we have connected with over times
There is one on here as well that’s worth joining

Good example Is that a lady booked a hotel that had no signal and she wasn’t able to work within in mins of posting someone had message her to give her details on another hotel that had a signal and workable nearby


the ladies are fab very supportive loads of good chat and information that you can get quickly





Ive also got several really amazing friends that escort and we know each well