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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Meetingdiversity on 15 February 2018, 03:06:13 pm
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Good afternoon,
I have been thinking about how to work mainly via text message arranging the initial booking. I understand that many clients prefer verbal for reassurance plus many time wasters via text.
Currently I ask them to phone me for details most do. Is there such thing as screening by text message?.
When moved most bookings will need to be arranged by text for the first one any way.
I read on here of a few escorts who arrange the first booking via text message for various reasons.
I would like to ask is there a set theme to arranging like this with keeping clients interest?. Being able to part the two like genuine and time waster?.
Many thanks.
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I can't add much here as I wouldn't do a booking without a phone call first.
But really I just wanted to say 'hello' to you MD :)
Perhaps create a texting step-by-step template that they have to follow to make a booking?
Something like: 1. Name 2. Date and time 3. Duration of the booking 4. Where they found your ad/ What services... etc
If someone is genuine, they will make this minimal effort and follow the template.
Could be the first thing to sort the wheat from the chaff.
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Good idea.
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I can't add much here as I wouldn't do a booking without a phone call first.
But really I just wanted to say 'hello' to you MD :)
Perhaps create a texting step-by-step template that they have to follow to make a booking?
Something like: 1. Name 2. Date and time 3. Duration of the booking 4. Where they found your ad/ What services... etc
If someone is genuine, they will make this minimal effort and follow the template.
Could be the first thing to sort the wheat from the chaff.
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There is a chance you will lose some good clients too ime some are not bothered to follow simple instructions and will move on to the next escort who accept calls. I tried it when i had a regular job and wasn't able to take calls during work hours. Only few texted back with required info. Most kept on calling or called another day.
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Why don't you want to talk with them first ?
It's your initial gut feeling about a complete stranger that is important decider if your going to go ahead with the visit isn't it?
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It may suit some sps to arrange bookings by text but not me. I have never and would never consider letting a man visit me unless he has phoned me first. This only applies to new clients. I can check out his number and his voice and manner will alert me to anything which sows seeds of doubt. No guarantees of a genuine man even if they do this but it is a huge help to me and the way I organise my bookings.
Once he has turned up and got my thumbs up he can text for his subsequent bookings but even then he knows I do not do multitudes of texts before a meeting.
Not sure how it would work anyway, initial text asking are you free etc. you reply, he responds, you reply and so it goes on and on. A quick call gets it all done in a jiffy. Ladies who are at work in a day job or with children or family may have problems answering calls yes but I imagine it just means several messages which is time consuming and distracting when trying to do other things non sex work related.
If I had to arrange first bookings without speaking to the men I would have given up long ago.
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I have the exact template mentioned by 80?s synthetic on my profile.
It really does work well!
My booking procedure is for clients to text me using that template, then I can reply via text whether I have availability or not. I do state on my profile that a quick call is required to see if we are compatie. If it?s during the day and the guy has followed my text message procedure, comes across as polite & froendly I will book him in without that phone conversation. If I?m a little apprehensive I will insists we need to chat on the phone first.
I like text messages, as I can refer back to them- I?m a scatter brain and get my timinigs confused. So the initial text message gives me time to think before I respond.
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I know this goes against the grain as to how lots of you work, but I also generally prefer not to speak on the phone, as I have a bit of phone-phobia due to my hearing and don't want to sound stupid if I don't catch what someone says, so texting is easier for me.
As I used to be a pa and used email so much, I find that I can pretty much tell if someone is ok by how they text.
I know it's not foolproof but if someone is polite, straightforward and it doesn't become hard work, they pass. Any suggestion of too many questions, can't follow instructions, can't spell, use stupid words, like babe/love etc. or address me in an unacceptable way (don't know how to speak to a lady) they won't get to see me.
I appreciate that it is nice to hear a voice, but don't be afraid to rely on your other senses, we all have them but I guess most of you don't need to if you can take the call and hear what they sound like.
I know lots of you are dead against text bookings, but it works for me, but then I do take steps to ensure they have to follow instructions to get to see me. x
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I know this goes against the grain as to how lots of you work, but I also generally prefer not to speak on the phone, as I have a bit of phone-phobia due to my hearing and don't want to sound stupid if I don't catch what someone says, so texting is easier for me.
As I used to be a pa and used email so much, I find that I can pretty much tell if someone is ok by how they text.
I know it's not foolproof but if someone is polite, straightforward and it doesn't become hard work, they pass. Any suggestion of too many questions, can't follow instructions, can't spell, use stupid words, like babe/love etc. or address me in an unacceptable way (don't know how to speak to a lady) they won't get to see me.
I appreciate that it is nice to hear a voice, but don't be afraid to rely on your other senses, we all have them but I guess most of you don't need to if you can take the call and hear what they sound like.
I know lots of you are dead against text bookings, but it works for me, but then I do take steps to ensure they have to follow instructions to get to see me. x
Snap! I actually sometimes find my screening for text messages is quite harsh. There have been a few I have ignored for their poor grammar, or rather informal text mannerism. Like today I booked. Guy in who had text me on a handful of occasions asking ?are you doing meets today??
This was not up to my message screening... so I had previously ignored. he rang today sounded lovely on the phone, and was a delight in person.
Xx
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Yeah, as it's frequently not convenient for me to take calls ad hoc I'm trying the 'text or email in the first instance, phonecall by arrangement' approach. Have a saved text template requesting name, time, length and address of booking. Will see how it goes!
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It may suit some sps to arrange bookings by text but not me. I have never and would never consider letting a man visit me unless he has phoned me first. This only applies to new clients. I can check out his number and his voice and manner will alert me to anything which sows seeds of doubt. No guarantees of a genuine man even if they do this but it is a huge help to me and the way I organise my bookings.
Once he has turned up and got my thumbs up he can text for his subsequent bookings but even then he knows I do not do multitudes of texts before a meeting.
Not sure how it would work anyway, initial text asking are you free etc. you reply, he responds, you reply and so it goes on and on. A quick call gets it all done in a jiffy. Ladies who are at work in a day job or with children or family may have problems answering calls yes but I imagine it just means several messages which is time consuming and distracting when trying to do other things non sex work related.
If I had to arrange first bookings without speaking to the men I would have given up long ago.
This. Every word of it :)
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I believe that any form of communication a punter uses, whether it's text, email or phone call, gives us an insight into what kind of person they are. We all get the 'u free' kind of texts & emails & that tells us they are ignorant knobs and we screen them out immediately. I also agree that a polite, coherent text with all the details and some type of introduction shows they are most likely worth further contact, even if they have texted when we ask for a phone call; they may need to be quiet for initial contact.
For me, I ignore rude, ignorant texts but I do reply to the polite ones. I wouldn't, however, arrange the booking without speaking to them first. I get the best feel for them by conversation, are they nervous, pushy, wanking on the phone etc. A text can't tell me that.
It's a personal choice though!
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im new to escorting but i prefer to contact them via text, i dont like talking on the phone. personally id get stuck for what to ask or say and just mess up where as by text i feel more confident to actually ask all the things i need to that i might not ask over the phone.
im a shy person so thats probably why i prefer texting to arrange
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I believe that any form of communication a punter uses, whether it's text, email or phone call, gives us an insight into what kind of person they are. We all get the 'u free' kind of texts & emails & that tells us they are ignorant knobs and we screen them out immediately. I also agree that a polite, coherent text with all the details and some type of introduction shows they are most likely worth further contact, even if they have texted when we ask for a phone call; they may need to be quiet for initial contact.
For me, I ignore rude, ignorant texts but I do reply to the polite ones. I wouldn't, however, arrange the booking without speaking to them first. I get the best feel for them by conversation, are they nervous, pushy, wanking on the phone etc. A text can't tell me that.
It's a personal choice though!
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If their text is polite and to the point, i take booking but ask them to call from my post code. I know its not ideal because but it works for me. I had to turn down a few at that point which is not good i know but only if i feel uncomfortable, better safe than sorry. It works for me because to arrange a time to call in between bookings is not always possible. I only work few hours and pace my bookings 15-30min apart.
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It may suit some sps to arrange bookings by text but not me. I have never and would never consider letting a man visit me unless he has phoned me first. This only applies to new clients. I can check out his number and his voice and manner will alert me to anything which sows seeds of doubt. No guarantees of a genuine man even if they do this but it is a huge help to me and the way I organise my bookings.
Once he has turned up and got my thumbs up he can text for his subsequent bookings but even then he knows I do not do multitudes of texts before a meeting.
Not sure how it would work anyway, initial text asking are you free etc. you reply, he responds, you reply and so it goes on and on. A quick call gets it all done in a jiffy. Ladies who are at work in a day job or with children or family may have problems answering calls yes but I imagine it just means several messages which is time consuming and distracting when trying to do other things non sex work related.
If I had to arrange first bookings without speaking to the men I would have given up long ago.
Yes I've picked up drunks, drugged, groups of men, and inadequate English by speaking to a person.
What can be interesting are texts which start 'I know you don't like texts/say not to text but I'm.... well mannered, considerate, genuine, a gentleman....'
It it was as simple as setting time, date, confirmation sorted I'd happily use it but I've found most of the time it's not like that. Plus my observation that I seem to have less outside boundary pushing since refusing to accept text for new enquiries.
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Oh and yes texting can take up a lot of time, as well as being incompatible with driving.
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I find sometimes when you reply to a text they think it's then ok to play text tennis and it's fucking not, pal. Do you want to book or not! Endless idiot questions. But it's harder to complete screening purely with text because sometimes a few things need to be answered on the phone.
One thing I find the phone invaluable for is if someone hesitates. If you say you don't do something they want, some are fine but if they hesitate then say it's fine I can be pretty sure they wont be confirming.
Mirror you make a good point about guys being drunk or on something. I once had a few nice polite texts from a guy and when he called he was off his fucking face. I stored him in trucaller as sounded drunk. He never mentioned this on text and I didn't pick it up from his messages.
I understand some ladies are fine with text bookings and I get that if they don't like to talk on the phone. But you do have to hear someone's voice to find out certain things and you have to talk once they arrive! I wasn't keen talking on the phone when I started putting up my number but I quickly got more confident asking the things I need to know and sussing out if I think they are going to fuck about or not.
No method is foolproof but we do need to take as many steps as we can to make sure we are safe and happy.
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I'd never do a booking without speaking to someone on the phone first. My only exception in 3.5 years has been a deaf man.
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Why don't you want to talk with them first ?
It's your initial gut feeling about a complete stranger that is important decider if your going to go ahead with the visit isn't it?
Where I moved to I won't be available to talk over the phone all the time due to circumstances. After the first booking it can be arranged with them if they wanted to another time.
Thank you for all your help, there is a lot for me to consider. Xx.
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I can't add much here as I wouldn't do a booking without a phone call first.
But really I just wanted to say 'hello' to you MD :)
Perhaps create a texting step-by-step template that they have to follow to make a booking?
Something like: 1. Name 2. Date and time 3. Duration of the booking 4. Where they found your ad/ What services... etc
If someone is genuine, they will make this minimal effort and follow the template.
Could be the first thing to sort the wheat from the chaff.
Good evening,
Thank you for the template it will start me off. Xx
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I would love to take text bookings,I also don't speak to clients on the phone (I hate it and don't use the phone much in general, as I always end up speaking over people and vice versa, I'm just bad on the phone)
I arrange all my bookings via email and always have for 10 or so years, it's just my way of screening I guess
(It does mean I take significantly less work though I'm sure)
When I tried to move towards text bookings in January, by displaying my number for a month, specifically saying to text me not call, I got not a single message that either followed the template I suggested (which was really simple), or that actually made a booking
Just a load of stupid questions and messages...and calls/voicemails which I specifically said not to bother
what works for one definitely doesn't always work for another! So don't be disappointed if you find it dosen't work as I did :)
The template idea is definately the way to go though good luck :)
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I only accept text bookings with regulars I know. In fact most of them book this way.
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Adjusting working I have got a few bookings via text. A regular and one who booked a hotel to see me tomorrow and will during the week putting aw bookings through twice. I found it takes being calm it was only yesterday too I moved.
I have prearranged textes for certain enquiries.