I just came down with my 3rd STD infection (what I'm firm is the clap) and got darn-nit I'm livid to say the least. The pain right now is excruciating and I've spent all day in bed due to lower back pain as well. My last STD infection was about 4 years ago which was the same thing I'm dealing with now. Prior to that I somehow picked up pubic lice, but it was before I began escorting.

Anyhow to get to the main point of this post, now I'm worried about the fact of telling previous sex partners about it. Since symptoms usually take a week to 10 days to appear, I may have infected a client of mine who sneaked out and saw me while his girlfriend was sleeping. Now I feel AWFUL! I understand for women this can be detrimental.

I'm just scared and confused right now. Should I tell him? The CDC even suggested telling all sex partners as far as 2 months ago.

Hi You really should tell them because they can be passing on to gfs wifes and other wprking girls

Have you seeked medical attention?

Ouch. Sorry to hear that.

It's obviously doctor time, including telling them about your worries about your eye. Different areas have different strains of gonorrhoea, so you want someone who is up to date with the local situation.

As far as telling partners, I do like the idea of doing it anonymously. If you go to a sexual health clinic, they may have a contact tracing service that will do it for you. Otherwise, even Mr Pop-out-while-she-sleeps will be better off testing and knowing sooner rather than later. It may avoid her being infected, for example.

(For those who have not been keeping track of his various usernames over the years, Blaine is male and in the US.)

Thankfully (touch wood) I have never caught an STI the worst thing I caught was glandular fever.  However if I did I would contact every client I had seen in the past few months and say that I am unsure if it was before him , with him or after him but I felt he needed to know so he can get himself checked out.  The fact he has a female partner means he needs to know as some STIs can cause so many more problems like pelvic imflammatory disease and sterilisation.

At the end of the day your clients may be shocked but they will appreciate you giving them the heads up.

I don't know averages of STIs on the gay or Bi scene but I still imagine 3 to be quite high so perhaps switch to all covered activities if the guys you are seeing are not getting checked and are practising unsafe sex elsewhere as it is your health that will be suffering (NO I am not preaching as I still offer OWO)  We all offer services on a risk basis as in we evaluate the risk to ourselves and then decide if we want to offer that service but if I had caught something three times then the risk to me would be far too high and I would stop offering OWO.  As I said I am not preaching but you do have to put your own health before anything else and right now you sound as if you are in a lot of pain

Have you seeked medical attention?

I had to wait until the next business day (Monday) to get tested and treated. Spent 4 hours talking with 3 or 4 different doctors, getting HIV tests, tests for all the diseases, etc. It was just so much to take in. Came back + for Gonorrhea but negative for Hepatitis. 

I'm not as freaked out and paranoid about STI's and HIV anymore as I was years ago. Not that I'm any less careful or feel okay partaking in risky activities, but it's just the risk you take.

I was notified that the clinic can send out anonymous contacts to sexual partners I feel may be at risk. Being that this more than likely came from oral sex (I don't bareback), it's important for people who don't know to be tested for it.

sorry working girls i work now in this industry for years and never catch nothing

Well...that's what I'm kind of suspecting. Outside of escorting I've also had some other hookups. Part of me is saying there's a good chance that I may have picked it up from someone who wasn't a client. But it's hard to say.

I guess I'm going to have to revert to the old school. No having sex unless it's ABSOLUTELY necessary. And another question is, if someone doesn't do OWO, does that mean they also don't kiss? Most of the clients I meet, OWO and kissing is a big thing. I don't even know how I'd be able to operate if I didn't offer those.

. And another question is, if someone doesn't do OWO, does that mean they also don't kiss? Most of the clients I meet, OWO and kissing is a big thing. I don't even know how I'd be able to operate if I didn't offer those.

some offer oral with a condom an still kiss, some offer OWO but wont kiss.  I personally cannot do a booking without kissing as it feels forced and strange to me as I need to warm up with kissing first.  However you do not have to offer OWO and you will find some clients will come to see you specifically because you don't as some men will only see SPs who offer all services covered.

It is up to you but I know it doesn't affect a womans business if she stops doing it and although she may lose a few regulars she will soon replace them with men who feel safer with all services covered.  Just do what feels best for you and your health, SOD everyone else, you have ot put yourself first above anything else