I worry about that too. I usually will chat with clients and I tell them all the time if they don't feel comfortable, let me know and I'll shut up. And they are free to let me know if they don't want to answer certain questions. If I feel like i'm asking a personal question that they might feel uncomfortable answering, I'll begin with, "if you don't me asking, what do you do for a living?". Works for me.

Is there a reason for your hesitation?

I do not disclose information about myself or my family, so never inquire about other peoples lives. Some guys do talk about what they do for a living and I have a couple of interesting clients but I really prefer not to know too much about them.

My longest booking I allow is an hour and I never do social bookings for dinner or drinks, as Roseanna said, if you ask them questions then do expect to tell in return, it would be easy to make up a 2nd life and tell them about that but it is not something that I am comfortable with.

Sarah x x x

I never ask them what they do for a living either - it's not an interview, and if I were the punter, all I would hear is 'how much disposable income are you likely to have, and how much of it are you likely to be giving me?' I don't like being asked personal questions so I don't ask them myself, although I take my cue from them as mentioned above and if he brings his work up, then fine. I don't mind talking about the weather either, but anything suits me provided it's neutral - things like travel, films, whatever city I'm in at the time and that sort of thing. And compliments are always good - I always tell them if they smell nice, or whatever .

I really see what you're all saying. It's what I mean - an innocent question looks like it's about their money or I that I want indentifying info. I do only ever ask stuff if someone is talking about it already, for example, a client mentions the office xmas party, all about arranging it, etc etc so then I ask what line of work they are in. I wouldn't just ask out of the blue. My normal chit chat starter is along the lines of "Nice hotel room..." "Have you had a nice day?" "Ohh terrible weather..."  "I love this tie"  Because I advertise it clearly on my ads, men know I like to chat, that that's part of GFE to me, it's the part of my service, but at the same time, I worry about crossing the line with asking about things that have actually been volunteered by the client. Basically I'm doubting what I say, not how much I talk - I would not do a 3 hr booking if it was going to be constant fucking, it's not my kind of service.

I worry about that too. I usually will chat with clients and I tell them all the time if they don't feel comfortable, let me know and I'll shut up. And they are free to let me know if they don't want to answer certain questions. If I feel like i'm asking a personal question that they might feel uncomfortable answering, I'll begin with, "if you don't me asking, what do you do for a living?". Works for me.

Is there a reason for your hesitation?

See I never say "If you don't feel comfortable" because I think that breaks the magic a bit for me if that makes sense? I just always thought what I asked further about what they volunteered was okay but I'm getting doubts from reading the "Client asked for my real name" thread. After just reading through the different posts I feel I might be crossing the line. I always answer client's questions honestly except if it's something truly identifying. "I have a sister" is generic - "I live in >specific suburb<" isn't. So I always ask open ended questions like "What do you do?" instead of "What company do you work for?" Clients always ask me what other work I do and I give the generic true answer and it never bothers me but perhaps I'm expected to be less nosey than them?

I never ever ask if they are married, have a girlfriend or kids, but I tend to view occupation as a safe topic and I do ask this as an ice breaker in conversation. A lot of my clients like to talk, and are happy to about their jobs, but then I am pretty comfortable talking about jobs I've done, what ive studied etc. (but not where and when) in my real life as well, so I guess if I didn't want to answer these kind of questions I probably wouldn't ask about their job.

Maybe it's a bit different if your in an anonymous city compared to a small town as you are less likely to know the same people who work in that industry for example. I can see why a lot of people would stay away from this topic altogether though as it is a small world.

If they are ever very vague in their answer though, I leave it well alone and change the subject quickly!

India from what you describe, I am exact same accept I do tend to ask what they do for a living (don't know why right enough) xx

I don't ask anything personal, it has to be offered.

I have had guys think it strange I don't poke and pry, I've always assumed it's safer not to ask unless they want to tell but you have to talk about something, otherwise it's a very cold experience. I usually err on the side of caution.

Never forget the time I asked someone about their family/where they lives(they'd already mentioned a bit of family stuff) and touched a raw nerve. It was a completely innocent question and went somewhere very sensitive.

Some guys love to tell you about themselves, sometimes it'll be true, sometimes not.

Found out after some years that someone had more than exaggerated something until it was a lie, and they would have a good idea I'd have seen the proof so not a clue why they continued the same lie - this really made me think because I'd shared quite a few personal things with him.

If someone asks I'll answer but there are things I don't tell, things I keep guarded, they don't know if it's the truth or not and sometimes people don't like the truth and want something far more glamorous, I decide what I am going to release but I'm generally fairly forthright  with it.