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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: sweetshycanada on 17 November 2016, 03:24:52 pm
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I'm still really new to escorting, about 5 months now, and so far so good but there is a lot I don't know and I don't know any other escorts, so sometimes it's hard.
I've got someone asking about an overnight, but I have no idea what that usually entails or how much to charge. How long is an overnight normally? And is there any actual sleep involved lol? Or is it like 12hrs active play. Additionally it's to be half gfe half serious bdsm with me subbing. In my ads it's theres an extra fee for excessive bruising, which he wants to take advantage of, so I can probably count on not being able to work for a day or two after. My hourly fee is 150 in gbp. Any info suggestions or such are much appreciated :)
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What would you normally expect to earn in one day? I'd charge him for 2 days worth of typical earnings, plus 8x your hourly BDSM rate.
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I too often wondered about how to arrange an overnighter, from what time till 8/9am etc? I'm considering ?600.
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I do a lot of overnights as I market myself for these and have never really minded them like some do
I charge 800 from 8 til 8am, sleeping between 2-6am usually
For regulars this goes down to 650 and usually go for dinner
It does leave you sleep deprived, you don't really relax like in your own bed, so you need to factor in recovery time
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p.s. it's rare anyone will want to play all night long for 12 hours, they like to think they do but i've never come across any man who can manage it
but I would make it clear you will need some rest on your ads and mention a sexy wake up call
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I've taken overnights off for now as don't really have the time for them just now, but I charged ?800 as well usually finishing about 8am or 9am.
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Ver useful information on this useful thread. Since I don't safer from a boyfriend, I might cope ok its that ... :D
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I won't consider an overnight with anyone I haven't seen before at least once, preferably more.
I wouldn't be able to sleep. Even if he fell asleep, I'm so used to it being just me and the cat in bed that I'd probably keep waking.
That said, i did do an overnight with my boyfriend a couple months ago. I slept fine, but then we had finished about 3 bottles of wine between us :D
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Lol..... You are getting closer aren't you? Don't get burned! Unless you don't get attached easily. Breaking up is hard to do or it gives you some stress for a day or two :) :)
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Lol..... You are getting closer aren't you? Don't get burned! Unless you don't get attached easily. Breaking up is hard to do or it gives you some stress for a day or two :) :)
Yeah, that night I nearly caught feelings actually. He booked us a room (actually a full on suite) in a really posh hotel, took me to my favourite ever restaurant (which is not his usual style of food at all), fucked me silly, and it was just a perfect, perfect night. We drank wine on the balcony at 10pm with the sun going down over the sea and the local kids playing basketball 6 floors below us. Slept with the doors open all night and the sound of the sea, woke up to beautiful sunshine and a massive hard-on, haha ;D
The following week I had to give my head a bit of a wobble and remind myself that a) he's not interested in anything serious/long-term, and b) I'm planning to move 250 miles away within the next year.
So enjoy it while it lasts is my motto :)
ANYWAY to get back to thread topic: also consider in your pricing whether you'll feel fit to see clients as normal the following day. I personally can't function on less than 6hrs sleep, so even if you think you'll have a rest from shagging from 2am-6pm, are you really going to be able to take bookings the next day? I couldn't, but young'uns might be able to, at 22 I frequently had ONS and then went to work on 3hrs sleep, god forbid now!
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That's probably guilt in men deep inside .but he knows your worth. Women tend to end up falling for a guy whilst they are in FWB Relationship. Women tend to think there are deeper feelings even in FWB when it's pure lust. Men seem to look at FWB as it is. You are brave.
If I did my overnighter, I won't be working next day. Not a problem. :)
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If he is going to to put you out of actin for a day or two I would put the price up.
No you should tell him you need at least 6 hours of sleep, and it's not all play. just because he pays he has to respect you also.
Over nights are hard work, really I wouldn't do them unless i was with someone i liked and knew well.
Minimum ?1000 if not more.
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I charge ?100 per hour, leaving how many hours they would like up to them. The big spenders book from 8pm-8am, including dinner date. I always stress I am more than happy to leave in the early hours for less money though - and I am. At 2am, I find myself staring at the ceiling unable to sleep and badly wanting to get dressed and leave - roads deserted, so no traffic and I can catch up on sleep to follow a normal day of work and play ( with around 800, so no hardship ) :) Rarely get booked though. Most guys book late in the hope I'll be happy to stay anyway.. Not a chance ;)
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I've always wondered what do you girls do with your cash when you do an overnight?
I would be too scared to sleep in case I woke up in the morning to an empty bed and a guy who's done a runner with my cash/belongings.
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I've always wondered what do you girls do with your cash when you do an overnight?
I would be too scared to sleep in case I woke up in the morning to an empty bed and a guy who's done a runner with my cash/belongings.
My last one paid the entire fee into my bank account a few days before the booking.
Others have let me use the room safe, or I secrete it in my bag somewhere in obvious. I also take quite a but of personal detail, plus a deposit and wouldn't be afraid to chase up if I had to - yes it's a concern. I've had incall over nights during which the man has been up and down, or going out for a cigarette etc. Very stressful.
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If you haven't met this guy before I would really recommend you take a deposit because you'd be out of pocket if he doesn't show. I've made it a policy of mine that if it's a new client booking 2 hours plus I take a deposit, either in the form of an Amazon voucher or a 1 month subscription to my private gallery which I take off the booking if they have an AW account.
I've definitely had a few timewasters asking for overnights before.
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If you haven't met this guy before I would really recommend you take a deposit because you'd be out of pocket if he doesn't show. I've made it a policy of mine that if it's a new client booking 2 hours plus I take a deposit, either in the form of an Amazon voucher or a 1 month subscription to my private gallery which I take off the booking if they have an AW account.
If definitely had a few timewasters asking for overnights before.
Yeah deposit weeds out the TW, true I am happy to give out a seprate bank acc to serious men. i ask for at least?4/500
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I am in the BDSM field, i have charged from 1200-1500 for a overnight
I do charge 300 for an hour.
Bdsm clients do not tend to want to play the whole night, they are more into long foreplay of bdsm acts then to go bed before midnight
If you have any questions about bdsm escorting, feel free to message me xx
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Sorry new girl on here....I charge for an overnight of 1000.00 but a guy emailed me the other day requesting a 14 hour overnight for 500.00 his feedback was impeccable i wasn't sure but in end i decided to see him have to say there are some gems of guys out there this guy was deffo one of them....his name was [removed]
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I am in the BDSM field, i have charged from 1200-1500 for a overnight
I do charge 300 for an hour.
Bdsm clients do not tend to want to play the whole night, they are more into long foreplay of bdsm acts then to go bed before midnight
If you have any questions about bdsm escorting, feel free to message me xx
Are you a Sub overnighter or switch? :) amazing fees. 8)
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I am a switch when requested, i have more submissive work then dominatrix work
If you are in the field i can recommend you a agency that has amazing rates,
most of the bookings are from 1-2 days long
and my longest was 4 days (I wanted to kill myself after that, way too long)
all of them were very soft bdsm clients
i just had to quit with them as i am currently pregnant and many of the bookings are abroad and as i am now 6 months i worried it could affect my baby x
But will be back to join them when i have stopped breastfeeding x
I am also always free to give advice about bdsm escorting, feel free to pm me x
Are you a Sub overnighter or switch? :) amazing fees. 8)
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Actually PK, it's really to better to post such advice on the forum in response to people's questions. As per the rules, we don't want individuals sending or soliciting PMs for general advice where it would be more useful for them to have input from other members as well.
We have a significant number of posters here offering BDSM services and no one way works for everybody, so it's best for members with questions to get a range of views :).
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Point taken, i just find it easier to communicate one on one
Yes we have all our own ways and mine is not necessarily better then anyone others
I am always happy to give out advice, even to bdsm newbies x
Actually PK, it's really to better to post such advice on the forum in response to people's questions. As per the rules, we don't want individuals sending or soliciting PMs for general advice where it would be more useful for them to have input from other members as well.
We have a significant number of posters here offering BDSM services and no one way works for everybody, so it's best for members with questions to get a range of views :).
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as well.
We have a significant number of posters here offering BDSM services and no one way works for everybody, so it's best for members with questions to get a range of views :).
I often assumed that BDSM (bondage discipline sado-masochism) means more "hardcore stuff" meaning, more like a dungeon scene (lots of beating / pain etc) didn't realise, there's "BDSM escorting". This is quite new to me. 24 hours or longer? :o I should think very few escorts would cope with that...(depending on what you actually need to do..)
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I dont tend to do overnights with someone i havent met BUT if i do i charge a really high rate bc i find them draining. Refuse to sleep for trust reason and throws put my next day. So i charge ?2200 despite hour rate being 150. Most wont pay it but the ones who really want to see you will esp if they have expreriences deali g with agencies where that kaibd of rate is common
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I thought him booking the hotel was a good deposit.
No it is not.
He booked the hotel then got called into work so he lost his hotel deposit and I got no deposit.
I have had an overnight boking previously book the hotel and pay a big deposit then when I got there avoided all requests for payment.
I insisted it turned out he ha enough money to take me shopping - his request not mine and to dinner but no where near my overnight fee.
Insist on deposit as even genuine guys can cancel or tricky ones on arriving can look good and have no money.
Tricky guy nearly had a24 hour booking for 150 euro plus dinner and a bit of shopping but I bet nothing would have been bought in the shops.
Big depoists can be used to fool you - money first or leave.
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I won't consider an overnight with anyone I haven't seen before at least once, preferably more.
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In ca it was 3000CAD. This includes 8h but sometimes if it was a reg (who wouldn't push for more bedroom activity) I would stay 1-2h in the morning. They have to pay upfront and let me use the safe. I always have another WG on call for security on these. Only one client who was up all night but he was a coke addict and we had sex maybe 3 times (didn't rebook he was a douchebag).
One overnight was in client's sailboat (lol) and it ran from like 2am-1pm next day, including lunch. I think I charged 4000CAD? Then he tipped 1000 for the annoying location.
I reduce my prices quite a bit for longer holidays as most of the time they are on business and I only see them at night!
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I originally asked 800 for overnights, but then once naively took a booking to the channel islands for the same amount which ended up lasting the best part of two days due to flights etc. I was lucky to have relaxed and not too demanding company, with all expenses included. However I didn't appreciate the amount of mental labour involved! By the morning I was just wanting to be alone and finding it increasingly hard to keep "switched on" with a complete stranger. I could not of faulted them for anything but I realised how much I can't cope with the intensity of being with someone that long. The money was definitely not worth it when I added up. I have taken overnights off my profile for now but still have enquiries from guys offering silly amounts of money for a 12 hour booking. I'm sure some see it as a major discount if they can get away with it. I would definitely be upfront about factoring in sleep or having some form of time out if I was to do it ever again.
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850 with lots of sleep lol charged a reg 500 but he came at 9pm with big ideas ( I love him appropriately he's great)
He said he was tired arrived at 9 , went to bed 9.30 said nite nite and went to sleep lol
Had some fun in the morning and he left for work at 8 lol..he's so funny kept calling me a fidget !!
I have a 3 day booking from tomorrow , no idea what I'm getting but I'm going to have a great time we are off to some v v cool places.
I go to lunch with him regularly and he's great . Just got v v bad tummy ache but I'm so looking forward to it , loaded up with painkillers etc , couldn't and didn't want to say no lol
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850 with lots of sleep lol charged a reg 500 but he came at 9pm with big ideas ( I love him appropriately he's great)
He said he was tired arrived at 9 , went to bed 9.30 said nite nite and went to sleep lol
Had some fun in the morning and he left for work at 8 lol..he's so funny kept calling me a fidget !!
I have a 3 day booking from tomorrow , no idea what I'm getting but I'm going to have a great time we are off to some v v cool places.
I go to lunch with him regularly and he's great . Just got v v bad tummy ache but I'm so looking forward to it , loaded up with painkillers etc , couldn't and didn't want to say no lol
so you taking booking without knowing what rate you are getting?! Each to their own but I find regulars are much more likely to leave you very short changed, yes even the really really lovely ones
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so you taking booking without knowing what rate you are getting?! Each to their own but I find regulars are much more likely to leave you very short changed, yes even the really really lovely ones
What the hell are you on about my rate is 850 I set the fee , I charged 500 because he's a regular and arrived at 9 was in bed and asleep by 9.30 and had a bj at 8 before work .
Yes I set my own rates ????????
It's 400 for a friggin pub lunch !!!!!
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What the hell are you on about my rate is 850 I set the fee , I charged 500 because he's a regular and arrived at 9 was in bed and asleep by 9.30 and had a bj at 8 before work .
Yes I set my own rates ????????
It's 400 for a friggin pub lunch !!!!!
Oh and I spent the weekend in v v famous company , spoilt rotten just got back and yes I did very very well otherwise I wouldn't have gone he takes me to lunch most or every other week , yes each to their own ,didn't really need or appreciate the comment
But hey thanks for the advice I'll bear it in mind , maybe my bookings who are travelling 5 hour round trips and pay a ridiculous sum for my private gallery , will rip me off tomorrow ,who knows ? Maybe you do .
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Always the off chance but I tend to find my 'regulars' don't short change me in fact the opposite ...we all work differently , but as you said each to their own .
Apologies a bit tired and don't like anyone questioning my work ethic or integrity , I'm a busy woman .
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What the hell are you on about my rate is 850 I set the fee , I charged 500 because he's a regular and arrived at 9 was in bed and asleep by 9.30 and had a bj at 8 before work .
Yes I set my own rates ????????
It's 400 for a friggin pub lunch !!!!!
You said: "I have a 3 day booking from tomorrow , no idea what I'm getting but I'm going to have a great time we are off to some v v cool places."
That reads as you don't know how much you're being paid. I think that's how the lady who replied saw it, and it's certainly how I read it, on face value.
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Yes I know it read like that Cat , didn't mean to go of on one , I did apologise and will again , these hormones I think have made me really tired and snappy it's like having permanent PMT at the moment , not an excuse but true, I should have been a bit clearer or in hindsight not posted at all.
I think I'm finding it hard at the moment , but still trying to work
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What the hell are you on about my rate is 850 I set the fee , I charged 500 because he's a regular and arrived at 9 was in bed and asleep by 9.30 and had a bj at 8 before work .
Yes I set my own rates ????????
It's 400 for a friggin pub lunch !!!!!
storm I'd like to send Genuine apologies from a grumpy old wotsit , no excuses other than tiredness , sorry .
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storm I'd like to send Genuine apologies from a grumpy old wotsit , no excuses other than tiredness , sorry .
aw no probs at all and my comment was truly only cause I have personally been very short changed by the lovely regulars, you think would never do such a thing but its great you have such a good time with your client lol :D
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Thanks Storm that's very kind of you , I'm not snappy as a rule just working against the tide a bit at the moment :)
And rather a lot of personal stuff getting to me too , I've been ripped off on an overnighter a long time ago and it was someone I'd seen lots of times and he slipped out while I was in the loo , I was so peed off it was untrue.
Reported him, emailed saying I was going to contact his work, daughter etc , I was Iivid so you were quite right .
I'm just much more aware. This time ( if I could say where I went and the company I was in for 3 days ) to be honest I couldn't of given a shit if I'd been paid or not ( I was he slips a bundle in my case) I probably had the best experience I've ever had in my life with a really easy going nice guy .
But again , apologies and thanks :)
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I saw people charging around ?1000 for overnight when their hourly rate was ? 100 which is quite low in comparison. This may mean, not many takers? Or am I wrong?
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I saw people charging around ?1000 for overnight when their hourly rate was ? 100 which is quite low in comparison. This may mean, not many takers? Or am I wrong?
I don't really like them and make it clear I have to work the next day , so it's only people I don't mind stopping over, but yes I'd earn more daily but to be honest it's at the most , a sessions before sleep and in the morning , and I do get some sleep .
I find it mentally draining though , I'm 150 hour 280 for 2 hrs ..so I'd rather have a 2 hr am , one later in the day and something in the middle ...at least I can switch off at night :)
Not sure if this is what you meant Lucie
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Thank you for sharing. It's so lovely of you. x x x :)