Ways it has benefited me:
Situation before escorting: In my first year of uni and was working full time in a bar as a supervisor, i had no free time to attend uni events, freshers week or even go out on the weekend with my friends as i was always working. Despite all my hard work i still felt like i had no money and i definitely had little time to focus on assignments. As a student in London, the land of extortion, i had work these insane hours so that i could afford to live! When i started escorting
STRESS AND FREE TIME: Escorting allowed me to set my own hours, so i could exclude weekends (i had been working in pubs/hospitality for two years prior to uni which meant i hadn't had a whole weekend off in over two years). I now have so much more time for uni, i am doing a creative degree and therefore have to dedicate a lot of time to my craft and practical assignments. Being able to finally attend uni/fresher events, gigs and live shows i would have normally have had to miss due to work, hang out with friends, make spontaneous plans., had time to work on assignments (i could work on them in-between clients) No longer am i burdened by a full schedule for minimum wage. I am generally way more relaxed and stress free and i get a hell of alot more sleep these days.
FINANCIAL FREEDOM AND A LITTLE LUXURY: Obviously, this is the big one that makes the most impact. I come from a very working class background. We were never poor enough to struggle for food, or anything like that but growing up we never had luxurys. Hand-me-down just about everything. So finally i am able to buy myself nice things, splurge occasionally and not feel guilty or stressed about money. For the first time i finally feel like i am quite fashionable and that is because i can now afford to buy nice clothes (i used to religiously and only shop at primark). If i want to treat myself to a meal at a restaurant (£18 for a Sunday roast? Sure why not) or a bottle of nice red wine in a pub or maybe getting some eyelash extensions and nails. I am able to visit friends who live across the UK and go on holidays because i can now afford travel tickets, accommodation, spending money etc. I feel financially free and financially independent. I am also in the process of saving up so i can buy a car (i'm learning to drive) and ti never thought i would even be able to afford driving lessons let alone a car.
CONFIDENCE AND MENTAL HEALTH: i'd say, mainly for the freedoms mentioned above, that my general mental wellbeing has significantly improved. I have struggled with my mental health but i feel i have way more time to focus on things i love doing, and bring me happiness instead of wasting my youth working 12 hours shifts on my feet for someone else for minimum pay, minimum social life, minimum uni focus, minimum relationships, minimum EVERYTHING. I am less stressed, less on edge, less prone to insomnia and generally a happier more positive person. I would also say that my confidence and relationship with my sexuality has significantly improved. I am more, comfortable, confident and secure with my body and sexuality than i have ever been in my life.
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