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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Sexymilf on 13 November 2016, 07:36:13 pm
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Im finding it harder to switch off these days. Im constantly checking emails etc and find it hard to sleep and switch off. I have a civvy job too and a family and juggling it all is gettin stressful. How do you girls turn off. Do you switch your mobiles off from a certain time and not go back online till the morning?? I take sleeping pills occasionally but dont want to rely on them xx
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Yes you should turn the phone off. And then do something utterly not work related.
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Just as with a civvie job you have to switch off and walk away, my work phone is on silent when I'm not working so its off after 4pm till 10am next morning and all over the weekend, if I look at it twice a day that's it. I find it very easy to ignore, I could work evenings and weekends but I choose not to and I find it really easy to switch off.
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I put my work phone on silent and return emails when I'm working.
It took me a long time to switch off when I first started and at the moment I feel like I am constantly working. The few days I do have off aren't enough to switch off but on those days I catch up on home chores, gardening and programmes I have missed.
You need to engage yourself with others things and rest to keep a healthy balance which will help you sleep.
Let your clients have the sleepless nights thinking about when to next see you ;)
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I need to switch off big time. Ever since I've started to accept same day bookings, I feel like I'm call 18 hours a day :-\
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Thats how i feel. I only escort a couple of days a week but dont want to miss a booking by having my phone off. But feel i need to do it for my sanity x
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Thats how i feel. I only escort a couple of days a week but dont want to miss a booking by having my phone off. But feel i need to do it for my sanity x
I'm exactly the same. I think I'm addicted to my job.. I really do love it, I think part of me worries that in years to come, I'll be unable to do this job and think argh I should have taken more bookings/made more money. Like even now, I've just done an exam online for uni and I'm laying in the bath replying to client texts and on this forum!
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When I was working a really stressful civvy job that had me feeling like this (logging in to check emails on my day off, etc) I was seeing a counsellor and she recommended "when you're finished for the day, do something with your body that completely takes you out of the headspace." For example, go swimming, go to the gym, go for a fast walk. Spend time grooming my cat. Give myself a manicure. BUT the really important thing is that while doing these things, I should leave my work phone out of sight and either switched off or on silent. And if I'm doing a manicure, it shouldn't be in front of the computer where I'd be tempted to check emails.
It sounds like you finish quite late at night but could you maybe take a nice relaxing bath before bed, with a book or magazine (or Netflix on your iPad if you're me LOL)? Maybe 5 mins of meditation before bed would help as well - I downloaded an app called Stop, Breathe, Think recently and it guides you through loads of different meditations depending on if you're tired, stressed, anxious, or want to gain energy, etc.
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Really it's important to find balance, I come first and clients can wait. My phone goes off the moment i feel and i dont switch it on until the morning. I stop checking email before bed and then i shall check in the morning.
Working is not everything and maybe taking a bath or going to the gym, listening to audio book or something before sleeping?
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Good idea i might try some meditation before bed and download tht app u suggested. And not look at my phone alter 9pm. I dont do any work after 9 anyway. I just give them my availability xx
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Phone goes on silent and in my bag or drawer. If I'm not doing anything else I'll check aw but it is best to try to do other things once you've finished/on your days off. Burn out can come quickly, especially if you're never switching off.
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Regarding the sleeping- this might be blindingly obvious, but don't have any caffeine in the afternoon- it stays in the system for 8-14 hours!
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When I'm not working or I finish for the day the work phone goes off, I check it in the morning when I wake up and it's mostly crap so it's not like I missed anything by tuning out for the day, just treat it like any other job after hours to go home and relax except you already are home.
Everything turns off for me, the onesie and slippers go on and I just watch a movie or listen to some music, sometimes my boyfriend comes over and I curl up with my head in his lap, you need times where you don't think about work or you go insane. It can be hard to relax and sleep after a long day where you've been having sex constantly and trying to keep upbeat and entertain but I think getting into the habit of shutting down everything and having some you time helps, make a hot drink or something that isn't coffee and just curl up somewhere. Don't check anything after hours. If people really want to get through to me if they can't call will often just send me an email that I can read the next day.
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Thank you all. Some good ideas there. I do need to switch off after 9. Xx
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I don't do anything work related once I'm finished, including looking on here. X
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Have some drink and relax. I never used to but it does seem to help.
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It can be the start of a slippery slope though...
I don't really see this is a special problem for sex work. Set your hours, both actually working and being available for calls etc., then switch your phone off and do other stuff outside those hours. Perhaps set aside an hour or two a week for advertising, admin etc. Bob's your uncle!
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Im finding I need a routine, I need set days and times when I'm 'available' and thats it. Hard at the minute with the kids/lack of childcare and the overtime in my day job so routines gone to pot, and jeez do it know about it.
Kay's comment hits the nail on the head.....
Dont know my head from my arse and cracking the wine open to wind down with every evening. Only now, several months later I'm realising 'Ive drank every day for months, not missed one, even when ive not been working, its habit, kids in bed, crack open the wine' And to say Ive been brought up by an alcoholic and seen the derailment, I should have realised this a lot sooner.
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Dont know my head from my arse and cracking the wine open to wind down with every evening. Only now, several months later I'm realising 'Ive drank every day for months, not missed one, even when ive not been working, its habit, kids in bed, crack open the wine' And to say Ive been brought up by an alcoholic and seen the derailment, I should have realised this a lot sooner.
This is exactly what happened to me. I used alcohol to distress and relieve boredom on tour. It got to be a daily thing and I got fat. So I quit.
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It's not a good habit to get into, drinking to solve your problems never really leads anywhere good and I'm not fond of drinking alone anyway, certainly not at home I'll usually save having a couple of drinks for when I go out for a meal or clubbing with friends but I'll rarely drink at home especially not during or after a work day.
If a day was a rough one I think a hot bath and a hot chocolate drink does wonders.
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I turn off my work phone, go for a walk, watch various things on Netflix. I have a games console I sometimes use, though not much at the moment. Sometimes I go into central London and wander around.
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:) Geese, difference between have some / in moderation and get pissed every night..wine cotains beneficial properties, how Italians live long...winkle free without costing the earth with Botox. There's scientific data building up..it used to be any alcohol can kill you. Not now. :)
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To unwind I put something comfortable on, pyjamas or leggings and vest top, soft slippers dressing gown then I get my bedroom ready by turning my lamp on, make sure there's no obstructions for me to climb into bed, (cats are fine though ;-)) Or if not too tired I run a lovely radox bath sometimes I take a drink in there with me either wine or a whisky and lemonade...After that I sleep like a baby..
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Home, sweet home! :) Wish the weather is better e.g. shortage of sunshine. I'm kinda feeling unmotivated due to darker, longer nights. Might consider ordering that special lamp, which might help me invigorate in the morning and unwind at night.
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:) Geese, difference between have some / in moderation and get pissed every night..wine cotains beneficial properties, how Italians live long...winkle free without costing the earth with Botox. There's scientific data building up..it used to be any alcohol can kill you. Not now. :)
Yes, but I'm just saying be careful. One glass can turn into two, and so on. There's a difference between enjoying a nice glass of Merlot with your dinner and NEEDING alcohol to numb out the day.
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It may sound dull but I am a great believer in vegging out and watching some tv or a decent film to relax and switch off in the evenings. You can't beat a good film or a good crime drama in my exp. Not watching too much world news is a good idea as I end up then worrying what havoc and mayhem Donald Trump may bring to society ..... I just watch a small bit of news for mental stimulation and to keep myself in the loop. It isn't relaxing though and I often remind myself it is the wrong time of day to be seeing it etc. Daytime is best e.g. lunchtime over a sandwich.
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Yes, but I'm just saying be careful. One glass can turn into two, and so on. There's a difference between enjoying a nice glass of Merlot with your dinner and NEEDING alcohol to numb out the day.
Certainly, I wasn't suggesting the latter. :-*
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What is this special lamp people are talking about?? X
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What is this special lamp people are talking about?? X
I thinks she is referring to a SAD lamp, the dark mornings and nights tend can lead to Seasonal Affective Disorder. Symptoms include...
?Lethargy, lacking in energy, unable to carry out a normal routine
?Sleep problems, finding it hard to stay awake during the day, but having disturbed nights
?Loss of libido, not interested in physical contact
?Anxiety, inability to cope
?Social problems, irritability, not wanting to see people
?Depression, feelings of gloom and despondency for no apparent reason
?Craving for carbohydrates and sweet foods, leading to weight gain
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Am learning so much from this site and not just about escorting. Lots of helpful advice on my general wellbeing too xx
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I have a SAD lamp and it's a godsend. Mine is called LitePod. You just plug it in and switch it on for half hour when you first wake up. Definitely makes a difference in the winter.
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I'm another advocate for the slob out method and firmly against the alcohol solution because booze is a depressant, which is why most people end up needing it every day once they start 'winding down' with it after work. It's a short term solution and doesn't last long.
Personally all I want to do after work is stuff my face with more food than a human body can handle and then cuddle up with my hubby in my PJ's in front of Netflix. Chocolate and cuddles go a long way when I've had a hard day at the office.
My number one rule is that my work phone is turned off if I am not working and I'm not allowed to look at it until my next shift starts. I used to obsess over answering regulars etc. during my personal time but nowadays I stress a lot less because I've set hours I am happy with and stick to them.
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Definitely a bath with candles and music is my best way of unwinding.
Nice healthy food
Hot chocolate
Internet shopping :-[
I don't drink alcohol on my own as I find it a waste of time and money, I'd much rather have something to eat.