Author Topic: How do you get someone out of your mind? (Read 15241 times)

SheilaStar · « **Reply #75 on:** 11 July 2017, 11:58:37 pm »

Quote from: sweetmilf on 11 July 2017, 09:08:45 pm

"Lust" is so powerful. If mixd with loneliness, it can be so infatuating. Hot guys know they are a babe magnet. But are they for long-term? They are not good for you. Try boring but Good, honest guys!

In the beginning, the first few times when we met, when my head was still clean, I was actually only averagely attracted to him and sex was ok. But I liked his company. Strangely the whole package just ticked everything for me at the time in an unexplained way. Call it chemistry. Everything grew to epic proportions gradually. At the start I didn't even click with the way he did some things (e.g. kissing or oral!). But in time, doing things exactly the same way grew on me. As it happens, perception, thoughts and feelings played a big part in it, a.k.a. my own mind. In some ways he turned out to be a bit boring in the end. All this doesn't bother me, but the honesty thing does. Anyway, let bygones be bygones.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #76 on:** 12 July 2017, 09:00:04 am »

You're probably a very lovely, open-minded lady. Thank you for sharing your experience. xxx

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #77 on:** 12 July 2017, 12:01:56 pm »

The simple answer is don't get them in your mind to begin with.

SheilaStar · « **Reply #78 on:** 12 July 2017, 07:06:21 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 12 July 2017, 12:01:56 pm

The simple answer is don't get them in your mind to begin with.

+++1

SheilaStar · « **Reply #79 on:** 12 July 2017, 08:52:49 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 12 July 2017, 12:01:56 pm

The simple answer is don't get them in your mind to begin with.

We are humans and it is natural to get carried away sometimes and fall for someone. Even under the most unlikely situations. When we get feelings, we may think 'Oh I don't what to get hurt! what if this is not good for me?!'. But, having fallen for someone in a situation like this does hurt in the first place, persistently. One answer is to step away from the emotional side, test and see who they really are. Create a situation, ideally based on truth, that challenges their true nature. Watch what happens. How do the react? Do they value you? Do they make a proportional effort? Do they respect you? If not, it then becomes straightforward to get them out of your mind. Almost effortlessly. And trust me, it doesn't hurt, it is a revelation. You must be willing to die in order to live. Emotions are derived from thoughts. Deconstruct perception, base thinking on facts. Emotions then change naturally. One day you wake up and it's all magically gone and you feel like you have been reborn.

If they turn out to be the lovely beings you think they were, that's another story I don't have the answer for. I was lucky.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #80 on:** 13 July 2017, 12:41:38 pm »

Some women manage a long-term relationship out of punters, some are even Married with!

Some women (escorts) may have skills to get a man (punters) to commit and others just have sex-based "affairs" either it fizzles out or the punters simply move on after getting bored by the "same sex" , finding other attractive women(escorts) elsewhere. Some women (escorts) choose to stay in a "friends with benefit" type relationship with a married man to keep his loveless marriage going. This isn't a simple process. Maybe, some women got the skills others don't.

I certainly haven't got them and don't even want to. lol Men can, however, get scared if he sensed you wanted more out of him if that's not what he wanted to give. Not quite sure if he's a divorced man or single man. I know one thing. Men can have sex with any women he's not too attracted by so long as she looks nice, physically. That's nothing to do with "love" which women naturally look for. He can just be a shagging machine, without any care whatsoever so long as she consented to have sex with him. Many of us do know that.

SheilaStar · « **Reply #81 on:** 13 July 2017, 02:24:03 pm »

I agree with you sweetmilf. Though I certainly wasn't looking for love or a several months-long mind fuck while doing this. And I certainly I won't be looking for it in the future.

I'm not sure if it's all got to do with skills. There is a big element of luck in any situation, not just this job. It takes two people (woman-man, woman-woman, man-man) attracted to each other more than just physically, willing to commit to each other in a way that works for their individual characters and circumstances (monogamous, polygamous, civvy-civvy, escort-escort, civvy-escort). I try hard not to generalise, we are individuals. I don't want to turn into a hater. I have known women who can be shag machines and men who chose to commit to only one person, whether sex is involved or not. Maybe it's not the female and male nature to these things but it happens. What separates us from 'beasts' is that we act with more than our nature, i.e. also our mind and soul, whatever the hell that last one is.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #82 on:** 14 July 2017, 08:36:04 am »

Quote from: Sheila Star on 12 July 2017, 08:52:49 pm

We are humans and it is natural to get carried away sometimes and fall for someone. Even under the most unlikely situations. When we get feelings, we may think 'Oh I don't what to get hurt! what if this is not good for me?!'. But, having fallen for someone in a situation like this does hurt in the first place, persistently. One answer is to step away from the emotional side, test and see who they really are. Create a situation, ideally based on truth, that challenges their true nature. Watch what happens. How do the react? Do they value you? Do they make a proportional effort? Do they respect you? If not, it then becomes straightforward to get them out of your mind. Almost effortlessly. And trust me, it doesn't hurt, it is a revelation. You must be willing to die in order to live. Emotions are derived from thoughts. Deconstruct perception, base thinking on facts. Emotions then change naturally. One day you wake up and it's all magically gone and you feel like you have been reborn.

If they turn out to be the lovely beings you think they were, that's another story I don't have the answer for. I was lucky.

Yes we are but training yourself not to fall for clients helps not get in these situations. Most clients don't think of us in a good light.

The secret is to be independent then it will happen another friend I found respects how I am. There is only one good male friend though who wants to be there for me and has got strong feelings for me. I know this as he is an emotional guy.

SheilaStar · « **Reply #83 on:** 14 July 2017, 09:57:40 am »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 14 July 2017, 08:36:04 am

Yes we are but training yourself not to fall for clients helps not get in these situations. Most clients don't think of us in a good light.

The secret is to be independent then it will happen another friend I found respects how I am. There is only one good male friend though who wants to be there for me and has got strong feelings for me. I know this as he is an emotional guy.

A rare breed those ones. It is cute you always call him your friend. Admit it though, he is your BF

MD you are one of my yodas here. Listen to you carefully I must. Train myself not to fall for clients I shall. Yes, mmm

ladyofthemansion · « **Reply #84 on:** 14 July 2017, 11:55:17 am »

Quote from: Sheila Star on 14 July 2017, 09:57:40 am

A rare breed those ones. It is cute you always call him your friend. Admit it though, he is your BF

MD you are one of my yodas here. Listen to you carefully I must. Train myself not to fall for clients I shall. Yes, mmm

It's easier said than done. I've done it 5 times. And struggled to get over each one. I can assure you that time really is the only healer. Am in the best place at the moment being in love with nobody. X

angelastar · « **Reply #85 on:** 14 July 2017, 08:08:04 pm »

Its not him but your image of him. Ill bet he is nothing like your image of him and just like all the others.....

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #86 on:** 14 July 2017, 09:51:37 pm »

Quote from: Sheila Star on 14 July 2017, 09:57:40 am

A rare breed those ones. It is cute you always call him your friend. Admit it though, he is your BF

MD you are one of my yodas here. Listen to you carefully I must. Train myself not to fall for clients I shall. Yes, mmm

We are taking things slowly he is a friend we have spoke about it there is no pressure.This is working for me better. He knows I escort and personal things I feel striped bare but it is very nice. He does adore me.

Today after therapy I met him outside a shopping Center. He let me choose as many clothes as I wanted and paid for them. Then we went in Claire's accessories he treated me to headbands the cute ones. Then before heading home we popped in to the house off raiser he brought me a lip gloss it was baby pink from Doir. Then we went upstairs sat in Cafe Nero.

He helps me filling out forms and is a reference for me.

He has degree qualifications letter by side his name he is the brains to help me with the technical things. We both find it relaxing he loves massaging my feet every night. He relaxes me the best.

I now know what it is like when a man respects me.

SheilaStar · « **Reply #87 on:** 14 July 2017, 10:00:53 pm »

Quote from: angelastar on 14 July 2017, 08:08:04 pm

Its not him but your image of him. Ill bet he is nothing like your image of him and just like all the others.....

Yes, in my mind is all he's ever been. It's when I finally realized that, that it became possible to deconstruct the image. Still, it was one colorful image. You have to admire the mind.

It was ok at the start until we shared events that shaped our lives. Not sure why, that was the moment I fell. I associated with what I pictured in my mind and felt compelled to give all the love in the world. Silly me. I'm a-Freud I fell for myself when you think about it.

No regrets. That was a useful experience as VC said. In a way I'm still thankful I came across this chap.

SheilaStar · « **Reply #88 on:** 14 July 2017, 10:05:03 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 14 July 2017, 09:51:37 pm

We are taking things slowly he is a friend we have spoke about it there is no pressure.This is working for me better. He knows I escort and personal things I feel striped bare but it is very nice. He does adore me.

Today after therapy I met him outside a shopping Center. He let me choose as many clothes as I wanted and paid for them. Then we went in Claire's accessories he treated me to headbands the cute ones. Then before heading home we popped in to the house off raiser he brought me a lip gloss it was baby pink from Doir. Then we went upstairs sat in Cafe Nero.

He helps me filling out forms and is a reference for me.

He has degree qualifications letter by side his name he is the brains to help me with the technical things. We both find it relaxing he loves massaging my feet every night. He relaxes me the best.

I now know what it is like when a man respects me.

Rub it in MD

Treat this guy well and don't let him go x

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #89 on:** 14 July 2017, 11:27:34 pm »

Quote from: Sheila Star on 14 July 2017, 10:05:03 pm

Rub it in MD

Treat this guy well and don't let him go x

Hunny this is like a dream we said to both he said he wants to give me a better life. In time we will get married we spoke about it just taking things slowly. He is like some thing I never had and cutting down escorting is going to be easier with him by my side.

I like the friends idea makes me feel safe.

We still giggle about how we met in tesco lol. And now this he works on ships too so will be taking me away some times. He spoke about city breaks tonight. I think this is breaking the cycle of getting bad bfs treating me bad.

He is older than me and am star struck him too.

Not rubbing it in Hun I though good guys didn't excist how wrong was I.

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